Hey guys, I'm going to take a break from all the material, videos and forums until APRIL 1st.

I'll still be going out 5+ days a week but just letting it all sink in and not have to be too full of information all the time.

I'll recap what happened today, I had 2hours to sarge in the city and opened 4 girls. It wasn't great I know but still 4 more than some people do! Also I got girls to stop and even added a statement after one of them spoke to me.

I guess I could focus on adding one more line each week (which would be reasonable criterion for success) BUT I want to open DIRECTLY when I'm out during the day and in general really

For one thing, it means I can open easier like go after a girl if she walks passed me, Indirect limits your possibilities, hides true feelings and even means you have to think more (Personally i could be wrong).

My dream has always been to walk up to a girl and tell her what's up and see what happens (although obviously developing myself and using pua to help)



MY FIRST GOAL

To be able to approach women I want ANYWHERE during my day and #CLOSE them.

How do I do this

Well first I need to open directly in my sarges, also im going to Open 1 girl through out my day in areas that are quiet such as coffee shops, train stations, libraries, Uni, supermarkets etc.

I will do one a day, 5 days a week.

Build this into direct

Also in my sarges I will FORGET about Indirect, no outcome out of it and just open them to get into the mood of going direct. Then when I'm good at this I will implement direct into my day-to-day life. This completes the above goal


Also I am going to find a wing-man for day and night game. I'll learn Nightgame with simple Newbie missions such as Open 12 girls each night, wingmen punching each other every time you're out of set etc etc as i am SUPER CHY IN CLUBS.


See ya guys

Hey guys, thought I'd post up more things although not really reading.

It just saves paper and clears my thoughts. Most of this writings are just ramblings unedited and off the top of my head.


Thought I'd post a few things:

- Building Leverage
- Aims and objectives
- Trimming down my exercises and missions etc
- new daygame ideas (about direct)
- Vblog to help me



Building Leverage

I've decided to stop masturbating until I have gotten laid. I usually don't believe in this kinda thinking but I see it as sometimes I'm like "well i can just jerk it at home to get that feeling" also when i'm indoors a lot or in my room I jerk it a few times a day. I guess i need more of a social life.

This should help build leverage. I also bought Awaken the Giant within and I will complete it's mission.

Aim

My sole aim is to be attractive to girls, have adundance in them and be able to open cold in the street, in the club, through social circle, in quiet places and close them, fuck them and be an attractive guy.

I don't know how else to put it really.

By abundance I mean having a few fuck buddies or even a GF AND being able to flirt and interact with girls in a way that means I'm never 'just a friend'.

My problem was i never pulled the trigger, I'd just speak to girls never let on to them that I like them.

I never even got LJBF'd as i was too scared to tell them!

Missions and Exercises

Simple:

Approach one girl everyday through-out my day.

Journal my EC through out my day - leading to a build up of approaching after having great EC with a girl

My sarging - 5 days a week. Going out at night when i get a wing. Go direct. My head is so full of "scripts" for the direct I can't do it, so shortened it to something very simple.

"Hi, I wanted to meet you" after I've stopped them. Then spend a month each working on EC, Voice, Proximity, qualification and other behaviours.

Vblog

Im going to start a Youtube blog about my experiences and general Lifestyle blog. Again its moreso i can get feedback and ideas off people and therefore grow as a person.

I'll post up video'd approaches and do them every week. Ones of my bodybuilding etc and my ideas and maybe give tips to other people who suffered the extreme social anxiety I had.

I found once I started this journey in life properly, I've found what i needed to do it.

When i first got into this, it was by accident as i used to search up about dating girls and although I was desperate i guess i wasn't as motivated or even knew how to go about starting it from the point i was at, especially being alone with no wings.


Peace.

Thursday 15th March 2012

Social Exercises #2

- EC'ing girls through out the day.

Today I was doing this as usual and there was a hottie on the phone to someone. A nice blonde and I EC'd her and as I was walking with a friend I was in a fun mood and had a big smile. We held each others eye as I was turning for a door and I just stopped for about 3-5seconds and we look at each other with a smile.

I don't know if its a good/bad look im getting but im guessing its a good look!

After that day new SOCIAL GOAL #2: to EC and give a smile to any girl I see.

I will also journal this a bit more too.


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SO to recap (the more i write it out and think of it the easier it'll internalise) my goal is to be able to approach any girl i want through-out my day, with no 'particular' thing in mind - i know i'll have things in mind and recurring things but i just mean no scripts and "this does that" type stuff.

And make a DAMN good go at it. Able to close, (through to F-close), get FB's/gfs and be attractive. Also not be bothered if a girl likes me or not. E.g. If i approach a hot girl and she isn't interested I'm not all down about it etc like I am these days.


Anyway:

To be able to chat up girls anywhere and close

To be 'attractive'

To be sexually comfortable and in abundance

To have choice over FB's and GF's

Tomorrow is my new day of approaching with "I wanted to meet you" line

Maybe its the start of something!

Friday 16th March 2012

Aim: To open with "Hey I wanted to meet you"

Objective: To approach girls, feel present by feeling my body and raising awareness, then build to the magic line.

What Happened


I got off to a good start and was opening reasonably consistently, I missed a few hot chances but overall I approached 7 that I can remember YET I KNOW I APPROACHED MORE. I just can't remember haha

My best one was this smaller blonde girl, I used 2 observations and we got into a conversation as she attempted to show me directions.

I realised something ONCE A GIRL ASKS YOU A QUESTION ABOUT YOU thats when to introduce yourself on a qualification of her. I didn't do this. I also could have complimented her on a few things just to make the conversation more interesting.


I feel like a jedi when I'm daygaming as no guys do this!! I feel like there are hundreds if not thousands of girls going passed me and I'm the only guy with a clue to approach them in the day time. Bit egostical for a newbie i know!

Anyway, a gay guy tried to chat me NO SHIT with 'my method', he asked for directions and tried to make an observation about me, you know shits fucked up when you feel like telling him where he went wrong rather than "im not gay". He made it a question not a statement! Rookie mistake ha.

Anyway, I did observations on 2 other girls - that i can remember. One was a brunette, i said she looked Italian and a blonde I said she looked Swedish.

Ah, I tried implementing pre-frames "this is a bit random BUT you look Italian/Swedish"

I also noticed that I said them terribly and probably came off as a weirdo but this is all learning experience I will stack on these assumptions/compliments

Ah just remembered a hot girl I opened, so this makes it 8! Aha!

Anyway this was a really good day even though I didn't do my goal.

Review

I have till March 31st to open with "Hey I wanted to meet you"

I also was opening in situations I don't normally, girls standing about and catching up with them more with a jog etc

I was also present enough and calmer even though I knew the feeling of opening was coming.

I still get stuck in my head about thoughts usually game thoughts, trying to analyze things or worse, future thoughts of me being a playaaaaaaaa which is annoying. Shouldn't have them

I'm going to still keep Indirect opening and assumption stacking/compliments so I can build conversation skills that will give me confidence for directly opening.

For me directly opening is my diving head in the water without knowing you can swim. Indirect is like dipping your toes and in and slowly checking if you can and coming out when you want. Probably a horrible frame to have.


TOMORROW'S GOAL

Follow up with assumptions further - use preframe "I know this is a bit random"

IF IT GETS GOING "Hey, you're actually pretty cool, my name's Barney", this is if she asks me questions.

Pointers to remember:

Stop girl
EC
SMIIIIIIIIILE - keep forgetting this sometimes.
opener
pre frame
observation
observation
conversation GO GO GO!

Nice man!

You're approaching left, right and centre these days! Loved the bit about the Jedi! My day games still not great.

Out of your day game experience what tips can you give?

Sticks

Hey I'll make this one quick.


Went out today on SATURDAY. Town is maad busy.

Anyway I opened a girl as I went in but didn't take it any further. Then I opened a really attractive blonde and for some reason I automatically thought she wasn't interested or type could 'smell' something. Another reason I want to go direct or at least not 'directions' openers. So I didn't go passed that.

Then I bought my mother a present for mother's day from a sales person, it was £50 -_- im a poor student and backwards rationalised it as me showing my love. Im not sure how much the thing is worth. Damn that was a good saleswoman!!

I noticed with the sales person I took an automatic 'follow' role vs her lead role. Interesting about assuming roles etc. I've been really into dominance and persistence recently, I've been forging a post about it which is just for my own mind to make sense of things.

Anyway I didn't open for ages and realised I was even scared to make EC.

When I walk around and don't open, I go really inhead and this makes me quieter, stiff and tense which means my body language makes me shy and nervous. Relaxed upright posture and present at all times.

Need a wingman soooo bad.

On the way home to the train, I opened 2 girls for the time/directions. Didn't take it any further

And said hi with a smile to 4 blondes walking ahead of me, 2 returned it.



Annnnnnnnnnyway.

I've learnt one important thing about results and what to expect in the field.

Ive been having goal mixed up. There are 3 things to have in mind; Aim, Objective, Criterion for success.

AIM: I want to be able to open girls with "Hey I know this is random but i wanted to speak to you"

OBJECTIVE: open frequently and make observations, compliment and then use the line on either a girl standing or coming towards you to make it easier for yourself

CRITERION FOR SUCCESS: To have approached girls you like.



This is important.

I was using my goal "approach with this line" as all three, so if I didn't do it, I'd be negative on 3 counts!

When really the AIM is for a month, the objective is for the day and the Criterion is for when I'm entitled to feel good about myself.



Still remember MARCH 31st "hey I know this is random but I wanted to meet you"

THIS WEEK

My aim:

To be able to speak to a girl with "Hey I know this is a bit random but I wanted to meet you"

My goal:

To approach 100 girls, ugly or hot.

To be more playful with a smile.

Following up more.

My objective:

To use mass approaching for building SOCIAL MOMENTUM.

Speak to girls in malls, street, the square, standing, walking w/e

To smile on the approach and be playful

Add Observations about that. Blondes: This is a bit random but you look swedish. Brunnettes: This is a bit random but you look Italian/Latina.


My Criterion for Success:

To approach with a smile.

Hey I'll cut the layout as my mission is stay away from pick up material for a while. Ive binged on it ALOT recently but needed it.


Today i went out for 2 hours. I can only remember opening 7 girls and maybe thats all I did.

Anyway one of them i was playful, a hot girl too, I just said "yeah Ive been lost around here for ages!" but in a funny way and she laughed.

And I also opened a few times to hot girls that usually I'd NOT ive been accepting it and doing it anyway more so recently.

I'm trying to build the frame of "okay lets do it and see what happens" VS "shall I open or not".

Anyway yeah I noticed I chickened out of a few and I Should have pushed it further, I didnt get passed the opener on these other than saying they were friendly. Everytime i say this they smile and even give a nervous laugh after but I'm always bailing.

I got girls to stop too.

I also just remembered I opened 8, a really hot alt. blonde girl


Grr also I saw about 3 girls today that made me angry for not doing proper approaches. One was the first girl I saw when I left my flat, a stunning 9HB, one of the hottest girls I can remember seeing, amazing ass, pretty much the one fo the hottest girls I'd ever want to get with.

It annoyed me, that i didn't approach. I mean you neevr REGRET approaching, nothing happens that's bad, I mean i could have stopped her for directions BUT I didn't as I only wanted to actually chat her up.

Thats one thing, I get demotivated to approach sometimes as I know it's not a proper approach


Anyway, I'll stick at it and be playful and i'm going to go to a coffee shop for a few hours and see if i can do a proper approach in there.

I WILL BE ABLE TO SPEAK TO GIRLS WITH MY INTENTIONS OUT THERE BY MARCH 31st WITHOUT DIRECTIONS AND INDIRECTNESS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

SO important to me. So many hto girls, I put so much effort into this. If I didn't have money issues and other work commitments etc I'd do this 18hours a day.

Finally Complimenting


Today was a great day. I went into the city, opened a girl as soon as i got off but i couldn't makea n observation.

Then I saw another HOT blonde walking along my way but i couldnt open her. For an hour I walked around not opening. . .

Then I opened a blonde girl voice was terrible, actually I opened a few girls that went terrible, one was a hot blonde with red lipstick and my voice had clogged up and i had to do a horrible cough to speak - not attractive.

Anyway, good points; I decided to go to a quieter street and saw a latina girl, mildly attractive and asked her for cinema directions, she didn't have very good english and I used this as a great time to say "thanks you look really good.". she loved it.

Another good one, a DEFINING MOMENT of the day was a hot tall blonde girl sitting on a bench reading a vook in a quiet park. I plucked up the courage, directions, then said she looked good and ejected.

Next I opened a girl in the city centre said she looked good.

Another great interaction was a small brunette, i scared her on the approach just becuase she was in her own head and she walked me to the direction of the cinema BUT we actually had a great interaction, spoke, I didn't compliment but rather made playful comments and had interesting conversation for about 3-5minutes. i should have introduced myself when it 'hooked' and then went for a close towards the end.

Last time I had this thing where girls happen to be going in that direction it was a 6ft russian blonde model witha smoking body BUT i was so inhead and trying to think of complicated routines it stalled and we barely spoke.

This interaction just shows I can actually flirt and do well with girls I just have to bloody get it going without having to rely on girls going in that direction.

My favourite approach was a blonde girl who i did directions again but i was really playful, she said "well i know this place but theres another that's better"

Me: "well, as long as your not taking me to a crack house" then i got her to tell me her favourite one etc and we had good EC/ Im good at EC. I think EC and playfulness are my 2 strong points in general. complimented hher aswell

After this I stopped a foriegn hottie and complimented her too.

And i did another approach after this with a compliment after.

The compliment is always "Thanks, btw you look really good". I'm hoping this will help with my goal of MARCH 31ST - OPENING DIRECT.

Also I EC'd every motherfucking girl I went passed with a smile, not many returned it as its a busy street (2nd busiest in England believe it or not!)

But on a quieter street, i went passed 3 girls, one a hot blonde, she looked, then looked back. I went to check out her ass after she turned only to find her looking back at me maybe its because she thought i was weird but I like to think its because she thought "who was that guy". I was walking around with a "Im the boss" smile and swagger as i had complimented girls helping me towards my goal.


Aaaanyway, i see it like this; Progression

Open indirectly and add compliment

Open with a compliment and eject

Open with compliment and that i wanted to meet you. Example: "hey I thought you looked really nice and wanted to meet you"

But still work on being playful on the opener and see if i can compliment WITHOUT EJECTING.


Now its getting fun again, see must push my comfort zone or as i realise its not that bad anyway. Its just being more present and letting things happen.

I can remember opening 12 girls but maybe 1 or 2 more just can't remember.

Must open quicker and more so i can get to this point/state sooner. Then open more so I can take advantage of it!

Also the feel good feeling i get must be willing to 'risk it', e.g. do something different, so once I've done the compliment maybe carry on the conversation next next approach then after that just open with the compliment.

I thought i'd never be able to compliment and i did, so therefore even though i think i could never approach a girl directly i can. Its just me uncomfortable or nto in the right mind to try something different

Yayyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyy

Peace guys, i love ya

Congrats Dude!

I'm also aiming to compliment girls in day game, one thing I can recommend from my night game experience is that you should pick something out and compliment on it such as shoes, hair, style ect.

It's much easier to flow into a conversation as girls love to talk about themselves!

Plus every other guy (particularly in night game) does a generic compliment such as your hot ect so girls begin to put a shield up against this sort of approach!

Anyway well done! You still gonna start a vlog!?

My last Day game before my trip today so gonna try and also indirect open and compliment three girls!

Sticks

P.S. When you go out day gaming how long are you out for?

Ah well I'm using complimenting as a way to go direct rather than open with a compliment - to me there's a subtle difference.

And I wouldn't be able to talk to a girl about something I don't care about such as what she's wearing. This is just preference as I can't game girls from a place of lying or making stuff up etc etc

But yeah true people do love to talk about themselves I'll take that on board for building rapport in my interactions.

Yeah the vblog will come when I'm opening directly too so in a few weeks Sticks.

good luck with the approaches my only advice is to stay out as long as you can, all my improvements have come when i'v stayed out for hours and hours and then finally I just man up and do the approach/behaviour I wanted to do.

I go out around 3-4hours nowadays. My new belief is to make this a priority until I'm good at it and as i'm naturally very bad at this, MY ONLY SINGLE good thing is i can put in TIME AND EFFORT. To make up for every other thing i lack in.

I mean if i could I'd go out longer but I find i'd spend too much money on eating out and after 4hours I lose flow and state, i just zone out as Im exhausted.


I also don't think its a good idea for most people, i feel most people naturally have less insecurities, anxieties and probably push their comfort zones better than I do.


Good luck with your approaches!!

P.S. It can take me an hour of walking around before I actually do any proper approaches a lot of the time.

Latest update

A nice interaction + Introducing myself but not closing

Went out. I had a small fear I wouldnt be able to compliment after the opener and that yesterday was an anomaly.

Anyway first girl i opened I added a compliment. This is good because now that ive done it i can do it easily mainly because its HONEST as i do think they look good!

Anyway, it was the usual thing of taking me ages to open girls and towards the end i just plain didnt even open at all.

Also a HOT BLONDE I complimented on the opener. I was going to try and open with a compliment but I couldnt loosen up enough as i wasnt opening quick enough. I'll work on that.

Anyway another blonde cutie actually said she was going in that direction so she'll take me there, we got conversating but I didn't close. I was mildly playful. I keep it quiet low-key as i dont want to look like a clown. I'd say thats a big thing of mine scared of being too boring vs being a clown.

Anyway I introduced myself to her and she said her name when we got there i shook her hand and she left, I don't really know where i stand with this Indirect stuff.

I mean she was nice and asked questions about me and she seemed a little nervous but how do you know if that tension is just because im some random guy and she's just trying to make conversation.

I know its not a reason, i should close anyway so i can slowly understand/calibrate when a girl is into me. So next time its close a girl like this

MY LINE: "Hey you actually seem pretty cool. We should go for [insert some place we talked about] sometime. what's a good way to reach you?"

Also what's good rapport subjects? On my few long interactions I just ask "what's your favourite part of manchester". i guess i could do qualification type stuff or stories. I think I've done alright for the 4 interactions I've had when girls happen to be going in the direction.

BUT before today, i thought i wouldnt reach my target of MARCH 31ST to open direct

NOW i think i'll do it before then, i have belief. Just need to open more often when i'm out so i dont go inhead.

ALSO 2 EC MOMENTS: 1 was with a smoking tall blonde, we held eyes until we passed each other.

The other was with a latina type girl with an amazing ass (the reason I was looking at her) she turned around as i was behind her to her side, we held eyes for aaaaages then she came to a road and looked back and smiled.


I'm getting into this EC, i used to be really bad at EC with strangers and would have usually just thought the girl thought i was weird at best even if i did hold it. Why else would a girl look at me? But now, jesus, I scan everywhere for EC with girls and a cocky smile/seductive grin. As soon as i can open directly i'll be a machine.

Also i genuinely don't exaggerate about looks, if i say a girl was smoking or w/e I mean it, I mean girls you don't see everyday.

The 2 EC girls were the hottest girls of the day, even though I didn't open them.

I don't think I opened many girls today but I was really inhead. it wasnt even AA just couldnt speak.

Next time more present and open with a compliment. EASY! 15 compliments shouldn't be too hard. Also opening more rapidly to keep approaching state going.

goddamn these girls are hot, I need to start closing and having more proper interactions. Its been 6months of opening hot girls!!!!

Just thought I'd remind myself:


Approach and be playful with smile or jokey.

To compliment after/observation

TO APPROACH: that is my sole objective for doing good.


Im such a rambler, i always stray from my goals as everytime in the field its different but i should try to stay on point.

My aim is to open directly;

Open indirectly then compliment

Open with a compliment

Open with a compliment and introduce myself.

Only will be able to do the last one desensitising myself through MASS approaches. And using balls and carrying each conversation on.

Today wasn't great, it was okay i guess. Internally I learnt a lot actually but I didn't put in the focus or effort to the sarge. As i was going to watch 21 Jump Street. . . by myself.

Is it weird that after spending so long by myself and even though i have friends i still spent a lot of time by myself I actually enjoy it?

People are a stress a lot of the time. They're late, they be difficult, they annoy you, I don't mean to sound like a loner or anti-social but the most annoying thing in the world is with people they're always late, never just do what's planned and YOU don't get your own way.

That sounds self-centred but when I go out to do something for the day, I want to do what I want and I don't want to waiting around for people or going to watch the film I didn't see.

This is a rant as i'm in a bad mood but anyway yeah I do actually enjoy sarging even though right now I generally spent only 10% of that time actually speaking to people as opening is a short time.



Anyway I opened a girl on a bench, i sat down next to her in an area i usually don't open in let alone sitting down around people.

It's the same as the girl in the park, basically I just need to take a second, focus and do it. I used to literally split second think and go no. Instead now I can take the time to cool myself and get my head together.

I also opened a UG, well she wasn't that bad and we spoke for a while and my voice was girly and high pitched and fast. BUUUUT it was after this interaction that my brain must have switched its bearings as i saw a smoking hottie probably the hottest i've opened in a while and i just said "Hey". opener. It was deep and authorative and therefore i felt like it.

Although I only complimented one girl out of the 10 I opened. 3 were really. 2 were hot and the rest were alright.

I'm definitely not getting much AA now it's more just getting into the mood of it AKA needing to warm up, keeping focus and actually trying to find girls I can open that doesn't involve running or long ass catch ups that make me nerve-out of it.

Tomorrow's mission is the 2minute rule: Stay in each set for 2minutes. Doesn't matter how you do it, it doesn't matter how the interaction goes just keep talking or questioning. Hell even just stand there but you have to do 2 minutes.

This should be a challenge. I'll take it seriously

Also a SMOKING blonde on my way out of the cinema i saw, we EC'd as I went down the elevator for about 3-5seconds, then as we passed (she was going up) she gave another look too. She was with her BF.

Also another girl with her BF as i waited to go into the cinema EC'd me even though her BF was being all playful and shit. I actually broke it off as I didn't want him seeing me eyeballing her. Its interesting how this little EC thing does soooo much. Cant wait to start going direct.


Tomorrow: 2minute challenge and open with a compliment BUT that's all. I'll walk off after.

Remember warm up and keep the approaches coming!!!



ALSO I saw a bum looking black guy pushing a bike along the street and this tall ass model looking girl walked by him.

He just said "hey hows it going" and he got chatting to her and as far as i could hear (they were behind me) she was loving it!! He was dressed like a bum, not tall, at best her height, not good looking in any sense, pushing a bike along, not good looking by any means and he was macking chicks!!!

Real eye opener, his opener was just "hey hows it going" as she walked by.

dammm. Ill try that one in the future.


Peace guys

Dude read your journal...Good progress

one particular point i also noticed in ur jounal is that generally the nonhot(or ugly) girls are the ones who give weird looks/give cold replies when approached.