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It would be great if I could get with her. How's that?
then you must try,
honestly, there are guidelines people can give you to try to help you, such as
don't be needy, don't seek her approval,
(if you are seeking her validation and ''trying to get her'' then basically you have already violated one of the above, and are most likely going to be ''needing her'' as well)
you can look up linnear compliance ladders, that show you how to start out practising physical escalation so you can get a feel for it,
you can learn routines and lines to start you out approaching random strangers and get decent reactions so that you can actually work on your social skills and the skillset it takes to socialize with a person from meeting, to bedding
realistically it is not the lines or the routines that get you the girl, and at first when you start using them it is more then likely that you will fail hard, but if you practise and practise and practise them, you will develope confidence in using them, it is that confidence that makes you more attractive, all of the thoughts going on in your head, your self esteem, your confidence, how that effects your body language, how comfortable you become expressing your intentions without ''trying to get anything'' or caring if that person likes you for what you are saying or doing, you just do it rather to just express yourself, instead of seeking validation
words are of very little substance to what is going on, compared to the frame around the interaction, and your sub-communications and bodylanguage, with the right frame around an interaction you can say and do almost anything and be successful, and not only that but there are also other factors that will determine your success with women besides confidence
the confidence to express yourself like this only comes from time, and experience, and taking action, it will not come from the material, it comes from within, and eventually you will find that the lines are actually not as effective as just being yourself, but being confident in yourself
it is just being sure of what you are saying and doing and showing a lack of fear, you don't get nervous when you speak because you are sure, you talk calmly and show relaxed body language because you are sure, when you speak you speak clearly without hesitation, it is devolped through your subcommunications and how comfortable and sure of yourself you are in the situation
outergame is only a small piece to your puzzle, it is like your map, you're tools to check where you are, and you have to practise to actually get use out of it, there is nothing anyone can say or do for you to ''get that one girl'', you have to go out, and fuck 10 other girls that you don't know, by the time you have fucked 10 random girls, you will have figured out a way for yourself to get that one girl,
usually by that point you don't even care if you get her or not
GOOD LUCK
CHAT