I've studied a lot of PUA material and videos over the last month and it's been tremendously great for helping me understand the theory behind the game, and the various types of game out there: night, day, dancing, natural, direct, indirect, etc. But right now I feel like I need to start approaching or I will never progress.

Here's what I've actually done in practice so far:

1. Did the newbie mission in a few malls. Practiced smiling and saying hi.
2. Did a few direct approaches on shop girls at the mall.
3. Went out to 3 night clubs with mixed results. I've never been clubbing before so I focused more on getting comfortable with the scene rather than doing approaches. I found the clubs too loud to approach, so I mostly danced and had fun. I did get a kiss from one girl I danced with, but no conversation at all.

The biggest problem I'm having is doing the actual approaches. I can't find enough women to approach. Today I spent 3 hours walking around 2 malls and maybe saw 3 girls worth talking too -- but couldn't summon the courage because I wasn't sure what to say after the opener. The rest of the girls were too old or ugly. I also visited a few Starbucks and couldn't find any decent girls there either. Was this a problem when you guys started off? If I keep waiting for cute girls to do my approaches, I'll never get enough experience. So should I just approach anyone, even 30-40 year olds? This feels wrong to me on some level.

The second problem I'm having is that I keep vacillating between going in "natural" vs. memorizing openers/routines, and I keep vacillating between day and night game, which are totally different. The problem with going in natural is that I run out of convo too fast. I prefer the natural approach in theory, but in practice, especially after listening to all these MPUA backstories, it seems everyone of them started off with Mystery's memorized routines approach.

When you guys started out, what locations where you visiting (bars, or clubs, or malls, or coffee shops)? How did you find enough girls to burn through? Did you memorize routines?

I need encouragement here cause I went into this all starry-eyed, and now see that it's going to be a lot more difficult than I thought. The theory doesn't quite match up to the reality.

I need to pick one strategy and focus on it rather than jumping back and forth. Right now, when I go to a club, I tell myself, "Oh, it's too hard to do approaches here, I'd rather do day game." Then during the day at the mall, I have such a hard time finding decent girls to talk to I say to myself, "This is impossible, I'd rather do night game." And so I feel stuck!

And please, no smartass advice like, "Just do it." That's not helpful. I need to hear how other newbies got started so I can build some confidence to tough it out.

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You gotta talk to everybody.

You make excuses like women being old or ugly, but shit you don't gotta propose to them. Just say hi. Because once you get that ball rolling, you will start to make excuses every time. First you don't approach a woman because she's old, then she's a bit too heavy, then she's not your type, then she looks like a bitch, then she probably has a boyfriend. You'll never do anything because you'd rather save your ego and make an excuses than try.

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here you go, do this for a good 5 weeks, every week increase the number of girls you do daily by 1 until you are doing this to 5 girls a day, force yourself to do it every single day, find time no matter what, no excuses, if you can't find a hottie, hit up an ugly just for practise growing your balls, once the balls have grown to an amazing degree (so big you can sit on them instead of a chair), then you are ready to pick out an e-book and really practise the shit out of it, putting real action into play trying to get laid with a strategy, because strategy without the balls IMO will amount to the strategy not being properly exocuted, get out there, get the challenge done, by then you should have a really solid numbers base to work off of, and understand what good leads and wastes of time look like, as well as how rejections are not so bad at all, girls are really nice for the most part

GOOD LUCK