So,

Around 2 months ago I split with my EX. We would fight all the time and I couldn't take it anymore. Since then Ive slept with 2 girls. Was kind of seeing another one, but it all ended. This girl that I am still crazily attracted to were on oki terms but here is the problem now.

1. She says shes not ready to get back in a relationship not with me now with anyone.
2. She came over to my house yesterday and i tought all was oki to try kiss her, but as soon as i touched her she screamed dont touch me. And we got into a fight she left all angry.
3. She has become very her way or nothing angry type, like she trying to walk all over me.
4. Shes cold as hell, for example she tries to ignroe me, she goes offline facebook while shes still on to avoid me speaking to her and the "DRAMA" she says i cause.

now Im not even sure i want to be with her, but im attracted to her and still love her... What do you guys suggest for valentines tomorrow.. last night was a mess like crazy. She was really harsh and managed to get me slightly to tears,I was very drunk!

Should I cancel tomorrow, or do something im not sure anymore.

Please help

I would cancell.

And would ignore her ass.

Untill she is combing back at you crying.

She is doing all this drama to send you a message.

Ignore this message.

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Oh! You've gotta be kidding me!

Hi,

Thanks for that, I know this girl if i cancel, she will probably just move on. she's already quite close to it. She hasn't kissed anyone and were not supposed to be (apparently i now found out) on seeing other people terms. She speaks to me on Facebook everyday if I dont. But we fight when we see each other. Im scared to completely push her away... she a lot of girls posting on my facebook so she got very very angry abt it .. i cannot say she's not flirting with people... but I just dunno... ehh im lost.

If she cancels its her lost.

You cant chase a things that wont chase you a little bit.

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Oh! You've gotta be kidding me!

Show up with Candy, Flowers, Roses, Teddy bears and balloons
and a Card that reads "She worth more than you in the relationship"
and bring some cherry flavored chapstick so you lips don't scratch her ass while you're kissing it..................

Get it together don't take her BS

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You want an honest opinion? Never talk to this girl again.. ever (no texts, no e-mails and delete her from your facebook). Also, read the link on screening that I have at the bottom of my post. Learn to screen better.

If you're not going to take my advice, then read the OTHER link I have at the bottom about dealing with bad behavior.

-Wolf

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Bad Behavior: drama-free-relationships-3-the-soft-next-vt125554.html

Haha,

No im obviously not going to let her get away with her attitude, I call her on it. And its my say regardless. Ive had control of the relationship always, she is not going to have it now.

So even tough she has never cancelled or flaked on me.. and she speaks to me everyday... I should just cancel.. For some reason I dont feel its right to cancel valentines date if she was looking forward to spending it with me but shes scared of all the fighting... Because when we meet... we always end up in agressive arguments..

My question is, how should I play it.

IE wine bar platter
- Cook food at my home for her ( like our first valentines)
- Just cocktails talk chill and allow her to build trust once again in me.

I broke up with her, I had all the girls posting on my wall, I still have tons of girls running after me, and she's knows and is worries about it... I would normal recommend a freeze out at this point, but considering she just doesn't play these games she will just start getting with guys.

PS she was a virgin when I went with her... so I am her first and in the past if i left she would chase me to no end... i somehow lost this by hurting her too much I think.... With this information at hand what do you guys recommend is my next step.. Remember I never let her walk over me or get angry without me reacting. I think she still loves me but is scared of me and the pain i put her trough.

THANKS for this, I am thinking of just pushing her to the side, but something draws me to this girl.. she is according you your screening in the psycho part.. and maybe its because I would always get into heated battles with her rather then ignoring her.

I have decided to go out on the date with her.. if that goes well without her being a bitch.. ill have another date... and rinse and repeat.. I will ignore her if she tries to fight with me. And see how it goes...

If nothing else Im curious...

I agree 100% with Wolf. The fact that she was a virgin is all you needed to solidify the doom of this relationship. Women typically stick it out as long as they can when they first become sexually active. After one or two of those, they are curious if they can do better or are missing out on all the fun her promiscuous friends are having. If you constantly fight, its over. The pain of fighting apparently hasn't outweighed the pain of just ending it. She is not the one. Eventually many of them enter what others have referred to their "slut phase". Yep, other guys she is attracted to, that haven't broken her heart will be sleeping with her. Breaking up is hard to do, but having any contract with the one you shouldn't love anymore just drags out the pain. Rip this band aid clear off and read this post in a year. You will be happy you did.