I recently got a new girlfriend, sporty, athletic, everything that I want in a girl. Lets not go into too much detail about her. All you need to know is she is one year older than me, 21, a virgin. Dated a guy for a year before me and didn't go further than making out.

Now I know she likes me a lot, a lot more than her ex and its been 3 weeks. ive been a great boyfriend, and i receive amazing texts from her. it took her and her last boyfriend 3 months to kiss, me... 1 week.

When we spoke about sex, she said 'what did the bible say', and i was like no sex till marriage? and she said... well in love... When I asked her how christian she is, she said 8 out of 10.... but she drinks and swears and all that shit so im a bit warry of it

the serious question, how do i have sex with this girl. She is my gf and I like her a lot, but I like sex a lot. i dont want answer "oh dump the bitch bla bla"... I like this girl, i want to work towards popping that cherry in a nice way

Just keep escalating while making out. Go check out the escalation ladder. She will be less likely to say no if you just go for it. Don't ask if you can. Thats lame!

Some girls don't have sex, but really their aren't very many. As long as you are the one who is pushing it, she will feel less guilty and rationalize that it was your fault. This is good.

Think I had sex with a girl like that this weekend.

She had talked alot about her being traditional and whatnot

That was our fourth date. We had been making out for like hours but she actually bitch slapped me whenever I tried to move fast (like grabing her ass or squeezing her breasts).


What I did was that I said "you're making me too horny", followed by me backing off. And two minutes later we would be making out again. After like one hour, I got her rubbing her hand on my jeans (crotch-area). After 90 minutes I said I was too hot and took of my clothes.after yet another hour, she had asked me if I wanted to have sex. At first I said yes, which then just made her back off. But eventually I started saying no, which kind of pissed her off and made her wan't to turn me on even more. Eventually though, I don't really remember how, I asked if I should go get a condom. She said yes.


This last line was key, since if she had said no, then that would imply that she has sex unprotected.

Key advice: find her pace and go 1% faster

For sure this was my weirdest lay though, as she insisted that she was the one who had to led me into her

Convince her to read Carl Jung's Memories, Dreams and Reflections : )

I say this light-heartedly though. The book is an autobiography of the famous psychologist Carl Jung - and it explores deeply (rather heavily!) the nature of beliefs. And there's a lot on Christianity.

Actually, sex or no sex, religion or no religion, its quite a good read if you're in a philosophical mood. And there's lots of stuff on dreams here - and girls always love talking about dreams I think...

All the best whysoskinny on popping her cherry! : )

I was just hooking up with her, I COUDLNT GET PAST HER fucking jeans. I told her, you turn me on so much, her reply... "sorry"... i said, thats a good thing babe.... she said oh good then....

fuck that

hehe its supposed to be TOO much not so much. You're supposed to say that shes making you lose control.


Can't stress the importance of the "too". You missed the key word

I had something similar once and I used mostly Style's last minute tension elevator. It's expailed in the book "rules of the game".

It has 5 steps: establishing trust, be the first to stop, pace her reality, freeze out, be excellent.

Try to get a copy of the full text, it really is quite useful.

I think you already have stage1.

Stage 2 is you being the first to stop. You never want a woman to tell you to stop. To keep this from happening, suggest stopping before she does. Like, when kissing tell her something like whoa, we should stop, we really are going too fast.

If she tells you to stop, be cool with it, and agree "yeah, we totally shouldn't be doing this right now" and you stop.

Last resort is a freezout. Give her a little more room than she might want. Go turn on the tv, start messing around with your phone, make a phone call to a friend, etc. She should reinitate then.

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Hey, so yesterday she came over and she was a bit drunk.

Using all your advice and what you have said to me I Re read all this before she came in my room.

Hooking up, my leg was placed between her legs and I was pushing up and rubbing her with it and she was getting really horny I can tell. She gave me a hickey and my hand was down her trousers in the butt and I was grabbing it. Thats the furthest we went. I couldn't get anywhere further. Everytime I tried she hit my hand away from her inner legs, and then she said in a joking way (this area is off limits) pointing to her Vag.

Later that night she told me its the furthest she has ever been with someone and she felt connected. And that this is the furthest she is going to go with me for a while so we shouldn't do it everyday...

I honestly think that sucks balls and IM thinking of ways to game her and want her to do more stuff

At least you're getting somewhere. Keep escalating at each date and see how far she would take it. Interested to know your progress..

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You will always feel 10 times better after you approach.

better get out there and find some a girl who gets down while you keep working on this one...

It will help you state too.. good luck

Hey,

so this is becoming a hard task. Some good things have happened, and some bad.

Basically, Im beginning to find out a lot about this girl and im really beginning to like her. She is shy but so many good ideas go through her head, I wish she would express them more. Plus she is so sweet. My friends say at first by pictures, ah she is okay, then they see her and they are like, damn she is cute and cool. They say she doesn't talk much, which annoys me because I want my girl to be lively, so any suggestions on that would help.

The bad part is.

Every single time I try to escalate she stops me, she knows what im doing. I would lay on her, put my elbow where her pussy is and my hand on her face and move my hand up and down on her face stroking her, ofcourse you guys know what I'm doing, AND SHE DOES TOO!

I got her the first time, she wanted it, she was rubbing and pushing her body into me and since then she has stopped herself because she knows she couldnt control herself that day.

I want her to sleep over one day at mine, but seriously...

How do you crack a christian girl who says she is no sex till marrage.... she drinks, she swears, she cant be that christian?

At what point are you giving up? If you're touching her, and she's pushing your hand away when it wanders near her intimate areas, but she doesn't leave then don't give up. Stop what you're doing, verbally agree with her "we aren't having sex tonight" or "this is going fast, let's just enjoy eachothers company." Then go back to touching her, say she looks tense, give her a massage. Don't start on the same part of her body that you stopped on.

Escalate as far as you can, stop, restart a little further back, escalate as far as you can. Until she actually gets up and leaves, just think of it this way. "She's turned on, but is resisting me. She isn't resisting me, she's resisting her own clit."

Also don't go in with the idea that you have to do all the work. Take her hands and put them on you. As much as it turns you on to touch her, it does the same for her. Let your shirt ride up a bit, put her hand on your abs. Unbutton your pants a little bit, make it easy for her to slide her hand down further.

Be prepared for this to take 5 hours. It could take longer than that, but honestly if she's arousing you for that long, you're going to get physically painful blue balls if you don't orgasm. If you still haven't gotten some clothes off, or her hand on your dick at 3-5 hours, let her know about your blue balls. If she's not a bitch, she will "help" you out.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vciWSoAlkgA Watch this video, it's two guys discussing last minute resistance that they experienced, and the ways they got past it. They cover all the stuff I did above, and more. There's 3 parts so don't miss out on the other ones, they are free to watch. One of the two guys isn't the best speaker, but just listen to the content, he says what he wants to say eventually.

Patience man.. You are making progress and this is getting good keep the updates coming.

No Advice here.

Just keep updating

And after you succeed and you will eventually if you keep it up. You might start getting bored after you realize that she sucks in bed because she's a virgin. Sure it will be fun for a while, but you're way more motivated than you probably will after you screw.

22 year old virgin, huh? Not many of them around. Here's something you can try. Get her a little, or more, drunk. Ideally when she's ovulating. Start making out with her and when it starts getting pretty hot...stop. Get up and move away from her. When she asks what's wrong, hesitate for a minute then tell her "I don't think I can keep doing this." When she say's "Doing what?", tell her that you can't keep getting all worked up and not getting some sort of release. Say your a man and you'll get blue balls if you keep doing this.
When you get some BS answer, which I expect you will, PULL YOUR COCK OUT and stick it in her face and tell her to suck it. That it's the least she can do. Be serious and atc like you expect it, which you should.
After she sucks on it some, pull out and start undressing her without saying anything. If she starts to say something just say "Shhhh" and keep undressing her. Tell her you want to taste her now and get her good and wet. Then take that pussy like a man and fuck her good. That is what she wants.
Not saying rape her or anything but this hase worked for me many times and if nothing else you are almost for sure going to get a blow job. If not I'd tell her she's just not mature enough for me and next.

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Holy shit man thats some serious forward shit... she will run out the room