Hey i am just one asian dude who is working his way up to achieve his dream. i am 19 and still go to school.
ok i will skip all the part about where i came from, or how lame i used to be and bla bla bla ...........
so l have been learning those stuff pick up for a while, actually i wouldn't exactly call it pick up. coz for me its more than that..
after learning those stuff for a sometime, my life has been little bit better, i am less shy and i feel like i am improving. i give less shit about what others think.
i believe that i can do it. and i can achieve my dream coz i have my will power. its just the matter of time. but recently i just realize the two biggest obstacle on my way.
first i am lazy sometimes and i skip my day appraoch a lots of time. but this one i can handle it myself .
but the second one i give way too much shit about other people, like i said i give less shit than i used to, but i still do give a shit.
until now i never appraoch anyone with direct opener. that is how pussy i am.
so i have decided that first i am gonna learn whatever it takes to not to give a shit at all.
here are few example.
if i see girl and i see her friend then normally i wouldn,t talk with her coz i give shit about her friend even though i dont even know her. but i would talk with her if i am in good state. coz when i am in good state i don't really give a shit about this stuff.
so what i want from you guys is .
what can i do to not to give a shit all the time. wheather you are in good state or not.
dont just tell me to do some crazy things. coz i want to start with small and then improve my way through.

thank you

Hey mate.

That you have never done a direct operen, that is ok. I am a big fan of direct, but i must admit, it wasnt the first thing i did either.

How did i stop giving a shit is just by going in and doing more approaches. Even when i didnt feel like approaching, i did it anyway. Because i said to myself: you and your lame excuses, you dont feel like it? You never gonna be good at it like this.

And i felt compelled to do it. i had this goal in my head and i felt guilty if i didnt take every opportunity to practice. Eventually, after some major burns and ridiculous encounters, blunders and much more, i stopped giving a shit.

You ask for 'no crazy stuff', but actually crazy stuff is the way to go. Not all crazy at once, but a bit crazy, step by step. That is how i did it.

cheers!

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LD said it all. With me, direct openers is what gave me the confidence to approach women. After a while i didn't really care, got confident and the girls somehow fell it and are much more open. You say you dont want to do anything crazy, but truly that is the best way to go. Try to do the lifelstyle challenge.

BTW, i think i sent you a PM, but i am not really sure, it doesnt show in the sentbox for whatever reason.

Either way, if you got it or didnt got it, sent me a PM. I might be of help.

cheers

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"Stop being a fucking vagina and escalate" - CaptainJackHarkness

Like the naked leads the blind.
I know I'm selfish, I'm unkind.
Sucker love I always find,
Someone to bruise and leave behind.
placebo - every me, every you

Yea dude, LD pretty much hit

Its a work in progress, I used to only be able to approach when I had friends around, then I could only approach if the circumstances were perfect(girl alone, no one else around etc) now i'll go as far as approach a girl even if shes with a guy, i'll go up to them on the street/mall/bar/ whereever and find out if they're actually together.

Its a work in progress, you seem to be improving, just keep the faith and keep pushing yourself. The best time to approach is when you just don't feel in the mood. You reap the most benefits because your pushing against yourself.

Also I found out that the times where its hardest to approach are the times you get rejected the least. Girls love a bold courageous guy, when women lock eye contact with you what is it you think they want you to do? Women sort of want a hero, like they see in the movies. Someone that will go over and fly her off her feet even if it is just for one night. Be her hero, she'll respect you for it even if she rejects you for it.

Peace

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thanks for the advice all of you guys

Don't be scared of the unknown but embrace it.

Ok, I will answer this even though I give a shit.

The answer is not to not give a shit, it is to know when to give a shit and when not to.

If you realize that it is ok to fail, then you realize that you will fail and win several times because you will simply try more.

If you realize that you will try more, you realize that you will have many many more interactions.

If you have more interactions, each one becomes less important since the percentual effect is smaller.

That said, in the beginning of the game, every single approach should be a practice approach and each approach will get you more experience regardless if you fail or succeed.

So you only lose if you dont play.

So it doesnt matter what you do or say as long as you get in there and learn from it.

Hence, dont give a shit.

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