Well, this should not be that big a deal. You've already slept with her and you've established a connection.

You can just make some small, normal conversation and quickly ask her to hang out with you and then, physically escalate and close.

Just open her with a "Hey, there. How are you doing today? Been thinking of you." or something along those lines. If she is as attached as you say, she'll appreciate you telling her that she's been on your mind.

Also, if you want to keep this a no strings attached deal, make it clear to her. Nothing breaks a heart more than when expectations come crashing down. Be honest.

Regards,

Luke

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What should you reply when a girl sends she dreamt of you last night? I replied "Was it a good dream? " which she replied with "Yea it was " but I'm kinda stuck now.

Should I ask more about it or change the subject?

Ask about the dream, play off of it, its too easy. Tell her "Idk what kind of dream it was but dont get any funny ideas "

Well, I'd question her about what she dreamt of, and try to make it connect with some real experience. It's one of the biggest skills of a PUA to be able to connect the intangible with the tangible. If you are successful to form a link with her subconscious, then you've almost won the battle.

So, get her to describe the dream, ask questions and express emotion. Also, teasing her a bit like the guy above said isn't a wrong opening part to take.

Regards,

Luke

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I met this girl about a month ago at a bar and she came to me and gave her contact information. I talked to her a few times and she bored me so i stopped and busy with school.

I was talking to her lately and I told her to come by this bar event and she replied She will probably so I replied "well i hope you drop by. I need someone to buy me a drink or two" then she replied pretty quick with "..." not sure what that means or how i should reply.

Got the number saturday, text her earlier today when I had some free time. She replied with a lot of enthusiasm, more than I was expecting.

No matter what I said (and I know I said some AFC lines) she kept the conversation going. When it turned to fluff I broke off the conversation cleanly and told her I wanted to see her soon, she told me to "deff!!! that'd be awesome!!"

So I plan on having her come out with me this weekend. Should I text her during the week at some point, or just wait until the day I'm planning to hang out with her?

The "..." just means she was speechless. And honestly, I don't blame her.

What are you? A male version of a gold digger?

Firstly, you talk to her a few times and then decide that she's too boring for you, hence cut all contact and get busy with your life. Okay.

Then, you re-initiate contact, and invite her out and basically in as many words say, "I need you to buy my drinks", well, that's just stupid on a lot of levels. She's not blind, she knows you're not as attracted to her, but she was making conversation, on top of that she even said that she might attend the bar event you invited her out to and you just want to use her as an SPAM? I am still failing to see the completely idiotic reply since it's devoid of emoticons, it comes across rather cheap and not teasing, I assume the latter was your intention.

Anyway, I don't have the time or inclination to go on a rant about this.

Instead, I will tell you that you change the conversation at this point, and even if you are teasing her, use some sort of emotional display indicators so that she may get your tone. Messages can be rather flat, and can be mis-interpreted assuming she's unaware of your general tone and frame.

Regards,

Luke

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" You're born alone and you die alone and this world just drops a bunch of rules on top of you to make you forget those facts. But I never forget. I'm living like there's no tomorrow, because there isn't one. "

Depends on you, really.

You could either skip the texting to a day before the actual meeting to confirm the logistics and her availability.

OR

You could text her throughout the week and not really make the date seem that big of a deal, and play it off as just a meeting, hence being focused on maintaining the attraction and comfort in your texts.

Choose your destiny.

Regards,

Luke

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I am new to this and I was having some trouble with one girl. Long story short # closed her after a late night of studying. she is one of my cousins best friends.

She's cool but can't seem to make up her mind. She has called me hot, cute ...the whole bit to my face. Has said that she is glad that I dont have a gf and that she hopes she hasnt crossed any lines with me (makes me think she needs my approval or something).

She now says that she doesnt want to get involved with me because my cousin is her best friend and she doesnt want to screw that up. I posted here because our convos are predominantly via text with a few phone calls thrown in there. after she said she wants nothing from this, i asked her why her guard was up and she said "im too scared to get hurt". so i went with that for a while building up myself and she responded well. then again she claimed her calling me cute and hot was a joke. then she called and asked me why i was "mind fucking" her. i kinda side stepped all negative talk and made her laugh. the next morning i said to her " i was just thinking about you saying mind fucking...i think youre actually crazy. guess it was a good thing i was mind fucking you".

Her: so you were actually mind fucking me?
Me: this concept of mind fucking can be interpreted in so many ways...you should really use another word
Her: LOL
Her: Whatever, it doesnt matter what it was. I'm going back to sleep
Me: Im disappointed...thought you were more interesting than that.
Me: and to answer your question i dont ever mind fuck anyone. i only say the truth but not everyone is as honest to me :p
Her: i say the truth too. i said you were cute from the beginning, i never said anything else. Hence, i never lied from the beginning.
then i teased her about being so cautious about telling stuff to me and she responded by saying
Her: haha well i love sleeping ok?
Her: now im gonna go move on with my life
Her: btw how did the exam go?
Me: it went awesome, thanks for asking. now im studying again
Me: when we both got time you can tell me more about yourself. doesnt have to be when either of us is sleeping... that would be a snore
Her: haha ok i will
Her: kk happy studying
Me: haha thanks. back to sleep for you [my nickname for her]!

is it just me or is this girl really confusing? what should i do and what is your opinion on our convo? is she interested or not... any pointers will help. the part where she says now im gonna go move on with my life and then comes straight back and asks about my life, what does that even mean? so confused! this isnt a 1itis thing either, this one is just of high interest to me.

Firstly, the girl isn't confusing at all. If you know how women behave than you'll realize that a lot of PUA tricks are used naturally by them. In this case, she's exhibiting a "push-pull" here. You need to disregard the negative shit she's throwing your way and focus on the positive stuff and build on that.

And anyway, just let her make her cute statements about "moving on", "done with this", blah blah blah.. you just focus on building more attraction, and keep on ploughing. If she throws a little shit test, just agree with her and state your point, something like :

Her: I don't wanna ruin what I have with your cousin.
You: I know. But, I am just so attracted to you.

Boom! You completely side-stepped it and carried on with your frame. Eventually, it all comes down to who's frame is stronger 'cause that person is going to dominate in the relationship. She's probably bat-shit insanely testing you to figure out how committed and determined you are to get her. Yeah? So, show her that.

Never give up your frame. At the same time, don't get too affected by her words. All this mood swings shit, it's just to see your various reactions to her words. On you plough.

Regards,

Luke

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thanks a lot man. new to this gaming stuff...ill keep pushing through. its nice to hear i have hope. she is completely testing me out and i was getting all upset over her bull crap. thank god i didnt show my emotions to her. now i know what her game is and ill work it like a champ.

thanks

Dude, no problem.

Just doing my bit.

Cheers!

Luke

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I been sarging this girl, last night there was school function, she was there I met up with her we danced and talked. There was a lot of kino, today I texted her after about 10 texts I asked her to chill, she said she was in a close by town for her brothers sports competition, 2 more texts and she said her phone is dieing and she will text me later. Guys did I mess up somewhere or am I been paranoid? What should I do now?

Hello, Very long time lurker here. First I like to say thank you to CoolHLuke, your post seem to be reliable and helpful... Anywho I just recently text a HB9 that I had a thing with about a year ago. (I ended it, Very two faced) But god damn she's looking finer then ever now! So this...

Me: Knock Knock
HB9: omg! Dr.Dark! so weird just thinking about you earlier (: hii!
Me: Haha well i'm glad I'm on your mind! I still haven't seen season 4 of tru blood
HB9: oh no your missin out ! so good !
Me: I'm so jealous HB9! but I know I'm a bigger fan.
Her: false statement... I would so go to a convention for tru blood in a heart beat..would you? .. Doubtful (:
Me: Haha HB9 I would be running that convention
Her: competition
Me: Evil Enemy..
Her: number one fan here considering iv actually seen season 4.. makes most sense i just win. How ya been?!
Me: Haha oh HB9, its pretty cute when you try to argue

no response for about 40 mins ( its 11:39 pm )

Me: Alright fine... I need your help HB9 to run the convention with me! i'm pretty rusty on my facts. :p

Again no response until the morning

Her: im sorry I fell asleep on you?
Her: I didn't try to make that a question. ha
Me: It's no big deal HB9, Good morning by the way.
Her: yes goodmorning to you too (:
Me: You won't believe what happen to me last night.

and this where I just never got a repose back...I wanna talk to her more over texting but she just never responded to that last text, And I try my hardest to keep a 1:1 ratio with the texting. So I guess what my questions are
1.) How do I re-initiate text with her without seeming too AFC?
2.) How long should I wait to text her? or should I just not care about it?

Much Appreciated, Cheers Mate!

I think you're fine. You're falling in the common trap of over-analyzing everything.

Just take it as it is. Most times, anyway. It'll be fine.

Regards,

Luke

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" You're born alone and you die alone and this world just drops a bunch of rules on top of you to make you forget those facts. But I never forget. I'm living like there's no tomorrow, because there isn't one. "