I cut the long story short. After I had my third date with a spanish girl, I am not so sure I can win her heart. Last time I was with her was last Thursday and she promised she would call me this weekend before she went back to Madrid for five days. A friend of mine asked me not to txt her til she txted me back this weekend. Two more hours Saturday is over but I still haven't got any reply for her. I don't know what I should text her a message or not. I don't want to come across too clingy and desperate. Any good advice?

Just text her, if you let this anxiety get to you now what's gonna happen when you try to make your first move? What I do in this situation to make it lighter is just text her in a playful manner. Maybe she's just been swamped, or maybe you can be right. You will never know until you try. I normally just say what's up dork, or say something funny that's between the two of you to get a reaction from her. Once the convo begins to start ask her if she misses you yet, or how much she misses you. The attachment isn't on you then its on her, from these responses you'll be able to tell what's going on. If its not working out move on. But this waiting for her to text you is honestly bullshit. Especially off the third date and how your acting I can tell nothing happened. You don't wanna act clingy but there's a difference between allowing her to miss you and just blowing her off avoiding her, which is how she may see this. So just do like i said. This will take the weight and anxiety off your shoulders and build a better connection.

Send a text this morning to her. Here are you go:

Me: Hey lovely tapas, have a safe journey home and a wonderful time in your friend's wedding. See you you soon. =)

Her: RonnyC, Thank you so much. I hope I will see you when I come back. XXX

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So be it! I know I got dumped.... sigh...

That doesn't mean you were dumped, so what she didn't come out before her trip. Your over thinkin it and psyching yourself out. Just relax, and be cool. Send her a message today saying this word for word


You: so.... tell me how much you miss me :p

She may say not at all to be playful, she may say a ton.

If she says not at all then say she's a fibber, and you did miss her till she said that. Usually works, whatever she says just be playful and not so serious, this will actually allow her to miss you more

If she says a ton or something pertaining to that then its simple, just say "that's my girl can't wait to see you when you get back."

It's just about being playful not so serious, this is a set up for a forth date not a divorce, so be cheerful. She responded to your text, now just relax and do exactly what I said. With how I do things you WILL get another date and she WILL begin chasing you 10x more. I'm here to help you. If it helps after you send her this get out the house, go exercise, hang out with a friend, something so you don't continue to think and think and think about this, and when you do think about it, make it positive. Do so by telling yourself she misses you more than you miss her, the next date, and how much fun she's having. Negative thoughts will do nothing but completely blow your chances.

How the heck can one be dump when they are not in a relationship?

That's what I'm saying, most of the fun is in the Chase, which is where he's at. I'm just trying to make it so he quits being so hasty over this girl. That's what's gonna fuck up his chances. While shes gone I'd have my fun but still send what I said so its there and shell anticipate it when she gets back from her trip. Lead her on and pull her along. He also has to be willing to let her go at anytime and keep in his mind that she's just an option. Constantly telling yourself this will do away with all the anxiety. Right or wrong?

brada, yes, I admitted that I rushed into a conclusion too early. I didn't blow my chances; on the contrast, she was keen on seeing me again. This is message I sent her last monday when she packed her bag up back to Spain.

Me: how much do you miss me?
Her: Of course I miss you very much. My mum told me that my grandpa passed away this evening. I hope I will see you when I am back.
Me: Hey, I am sorry about this. If you want to talk about it, please give me a buzz. I am right here to listen to you.
Her: Thanks RonnyC, I am going to bed now. I have to wake up early for the flight. I hope I will see when I am back xxx.

Thanks Brada, I think she likes me. Will keep you posted what happens next week.

Hey bradas, this is the lastest update about my game.

Sunday night I sent a message to her on fackbook to ask her how her vocation went and when she was back. No reply til last night at 11:30, she sent a phone txt to asked me to meet up tonight in a pub and told me she was back. I didn't reply her til this morning at 11:30 am, saying not going but was happy to make her dinner this evening to welcome her back to London. She replied me back around 5 p.m. telling me that she promised her friends to go to that pub and couldn't meet me in my place. Then I was too clingy and sent her a txt saying she put her friends over me and I didn't feel like she loved me anymore. Up to now, no reply.

First I admit it I made a mistake by saying something showing I was too clingy. Ok, damage has done, I live with it. Now I want to salvage it. Any advice?

Btw, I want to put in more information of my story. I saw a message of a random guy posted in her wall last night around 9 and she replied him an hour later. He asked her to have a drink with him. She seems less responsive to my messages since she got back.