There are some good points in this thread however I feel there is some misguided advice being given.
I do understand your point on Rule#1. Like you stated it's referring more to newbies/average guy texting messages within a short space of time like:
- "Hey beautiful, really nice meeting you last night, you free next week?" *5 mins later*
- "Haha I take that as you're not? What are you up to?" *5 mins later*
- "How comes you're not texting back? You getting my texts?" *5 mins later*
- "Hello? Did I do something wrong? Text me"
^ That would come across as needy because the content is needy. There is nothing wrong with newbies/average guys sending multiple messages to a girl as long as the
content of the text
does not come across as needy. An open ended statement that does not require a reply is best suited to these type of situations.
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you text a girl and she forgets and you text her again, broke my rule and she replies? Right?
ok thats one situation.
How about these?
You text her, "how was your day?" no reply. Wanna text again?
You are talking and she suddenly stops responding. Wanna text again?
And if you had done enough of good game, then
she wouldn't have forgotten. And
if she forgot,
she would have texted you back first. You were desperate enough that you couldnt even wait for her to get back to you and texted her again right after few hours?
well i am not that desperate and have enough girls to bang so i don't send the second text reminding them of meeting me and they get back to me 1st
The underlined words from your quote show that you are
assuming the reasons to why she did not text you back. It's also telling me that you only consider two possible outcomes to why she did not text back:
Good game --> She won't forget --> She texts back
................................................................... --> IF She forgot
................... -->
............................ ^
That mentality is both narrow and limited. It's an assumption because you have no clue what is going on with her life. There could be numberous variables to why she did/could not text you back (regardless of how good your game was). Some examples: she was busy, unable to text you back at that time, forgot, dealing with personal issues, stressed out, out of town, didn't recieve it, family emergency.. Point being, you
do not know the exact reason.
^ That's the reason why Rule#1 is wrong. There is way too much assumption based on endless variables. A second text like Warped mentioned, can be very helpful at times. It's your open-mindedness that will help you to see this.
Furthermore normal game and text game should not differ. It should convey your own personality exactly as it would if you was face to face with her. Would you wait 20 minutes after every word/sentence she said? Doesn't take a genius to figure it out.
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hmmm practicle experience! Here is my practical experience with it
1. First of all girls are not always going to respond late and you won't be always using it.
You shouldn't feel the need to text late just because she did. I agree with Warped when he says it stems from a form of insecurity. If you are totally comfortable in your own skin would you text late because someone else did? No, you wouldn't care. Why would it even matter? (Inner Game)
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2. Now when a girl is replying late she is often busy doing something or may be chatting to some other guy. Who knows!
and your replying late get her mind focused on you. Its natural when we sent a text we expect a reply, and same is true with girls.
3. Your replying late often gets the girls thinking
why is he replying late?
What is he doing?
Is he talking to another girl?(jealousy, a powerful weapon. I often have girls asking me, are you talking to any other girls?)
This is a prime example of playing mind games that are both unnecessary and pointless. You shouldn't have to use jealousy or any form of mind games to get her thinking about you. Unless of course, manipulation is your game.. Which, in that case, you are definitely
not being genuine. She will remember you/think of you if you are a rememberal person. Another contributing factor is the connection you have made with the girl and the level of attraction between the both of you.
If you managed to create any form of emotion/attraction whilst texting her, that emotion would start to decline the longer it's left (you don't reply). This however is not true for an intriguing text such as "I just met your twin." "You would not believe what just happened.." Again this varies on the content of the text.
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4. Your replying late gets them a bit confused about your feelings for them. Does he like me or not?(confusion, and if you don't know how much of a great help 'confusion' is, ask brad p. Confusion is a necessary part of his game)
Brad P's game works for HIM. That doesn't mean it will work for everyone else. The materials out there shouldn't be followed word for word. It's more of an underlining that you build upon and integrate into your
own personality so it is congruent with you.
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5. You replying late also conveys your not being needy and attached(alpha qualities)
and finally, once you start applying them 20 minute rules, its not going to be forever. As soon as they reply quick, you can stop following it and launch into a normal chit chat.
That is a HUGE misconception. Replying late
does not convey that. The content of your message does as stated above. Chances are if you are needy via text, you are just as needy in person. Also if a person were to follow your rules and reply late with needy or generic crap like "How was your day?" "What you been up to?", he still won't get anywhere. Content is the key.
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One more thing
when a girl is replying late, you never know why? May be losing interest? May be doing something? May be chatting to someone else? May be willingly ignoring you or may be shit testing you?
And applying 20 minutes rule does exactly what is required to get out of situations like it.
May be you understand it better now brysti
Seriously..
How is her replying late suddenly a "situation" you need to get out of..
If she is replying "late", you replying later is not going to help you out one bit. She will still be pre-occupied with whatever she is doing (which again you do not know). Instead a better alternative would be to simple just ask her in a way that is in-direct and not non accusive. An example:
"I hope you can cook faster than you text. I'm having second guesses about coming over."
This type of text lets her know one of many things:
1) She is texting slow and you noticed.
2) She is cooking for you.
3) You are going over to hers.
The example is based upon my own personality. It is congruent with me. I'm not saying this is the way to go about it, it's an alternative suggestion to the so called "situation".
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