Ladies. Gentlemen.

After receiving quite a few IMs, PMs and chat conversations, I talked to Chief and have decided to start my own "ASK" thread. This thread is a little different from the others in that this thread is very specific to TEXT GAME. Feel free to ask just about any question you like about the whole texting process with women you're gaming.

My background: I have been meeting and dating girls for 4 years now, and I have had pretty decent success over creating attraction through texts and such. Always here to help you!

Here are a few basic rules.. to make things a bit simpler to deal with here, if I may :

1. Please do not post page long text conversations. I will not read a page long of texts back and forth. Please summarize your conversation, and if you must, then include a specific log of you two talking.

2. I will answer all kinds of "How do I..." questions, but please take my responses and put them in your own words. If you do not, when you meet the girl she will notice there are incongruencies very quickly. The way I say things might not work for you, so take the concept and then write your own response please.

3. Ask anything you want but please make sure it's related to the topic at hand.

4. If I don't immediately know the answer, I'll tell you and research some possible solutions and then get back to you. Don't be offended if I don't get right back to you.

5. If you have a private matter, I encourage you to post it on the thread so others can help, but if you don't want to post on the thread feel free to PM me!

Well..

Ask away.


And Thank you, for thinking of me.

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" You're born alone and you die alone and this world just drops a bunch of rules on top of you to make you forget those facts. But I never forget. I'm living like there's no tomorrow, because there isn't one. "

Allright so, I will try to keep this as short as possible.

Met a girl at a club, # and kiss closed.
When we were texting back and forth, she was using alot of winks, I wrote a field report on it:

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I ended up being a total asshole and we stopped texting. After a while, we started texting again, it's been 4 days in a row and I want to make transition from just talking about anything and everything to asking her to meet up sometime.

We have done the question game, some light negs, flirted abit, now I want to meet with her in real life. How can I go about doing this?

Also, this is another one that's sort of bugging me.

# closed a girl 2 nights ago. I texted her the same night to something that had to do with our initial conversation, and she replied warmly.

We were texting the next day, and she said she was really tired from last night (continuing our conversation).
My question is, how can you build comfort through texts, what are some good conversation starters and how do you eventually get the girl to meet up.

Our texting conversation:

Me: You won't believe what happened to me last night

HB0.01: What happened?

Me: I slept, what'd you think? Haha. The day after a club sucks. Lost voice, sore ears, and a ticket. How r u doing?

HB0.01: Oh haha I thought you meant you got in a fight or something... And I know I'm dead tired but overall I'm ok hbu?

Me:Blah blah Eurotrip, fucked up body clock. It's amazing.

HB: How is that amazingg lmao?

Me:Ever heard of a thing called sarcasm?

We started talking about our plans for the day, I learnt that she was Italian, loved Italian food, and we started talking about Jersey Shore.

What is a good way to text her in a few days to start talking again?

Just in general I have a problem keeping the conversation going. I try to ask open ended questions, and project emotion through texts, but it just always seems to drag for me...any tips or advice?

Hey thanks for the help. I asked this in another topic too.

I haven't seen this girl I like in a while and she just texted me 'I miss you'.

How would you respond to that? Is saying I miss you back a bad idea? Is it better to just not reply or reply w/ just a smiley face? Thnx

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Some people are like slinkys, not really good for anything but make you smile when you push them down the stairs.

Yeah, I remember that.

Well, kudos on re-igniting the flame with that one. As I recall, you don't have a very good texting encounter with her previously.

I'd advise you to keep the conversation light and friendly with her, and then if it's the weekend, you can suggest something like :

"Hey (girl's name), I am catching this great movie/ going to this cool club/ gonna play laser tag/ going to the amusement park/ blah blah. Why don't you come along? Be nice to have some company. "

Remember though, you need to get her to that place where she replies with a 'Yes', so keep the texting fun and light and include playful banter. Also, I hope you're not negging her as much as you were previously.

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" You're born alone and you die alone and this world just drops a bunch of rules on top of you to make you forget those facts. But I never forget. I'm living like there's no tomorrow, because there isn't one. "

Why wait for a few days?

I always tell people to keep texting women all the time.

The thing is that your texts become so much a part of her life, that she feels something is missing when you don't text her and she initiates contact on her own.

The more and more you talk, the more things you tell her about you and get her to tell you about herself.. the easier it will be to establish a general comfort level with her.

Keep the conversations light, but every once in a while be honest and go into some deep topic, she'll be caught off-guard for a moment, but will be right into it. Plus, it's the deeper conversations which actually matter, in the long run.

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" You're born alone and you die alone and this world just drops a bunch of rules on top of you to make you forget those facts. But I never forget. I'm living like there's no tomorrow, because there isn't one. "

Well, I don't want you to have two separate mindsets for the "texting game" and the "real life game", as people call them.

If you behave the same way in your texts, as you would if you were seeing her face to face, it'd be much easier to prolong the conversations.

Also, keep asking her about new things.. something you saw on the television, something you read in the papers or a magazine, her views on feminism, what does she think of romantic comedies.. in short, things which can take up entire hours and hours of discussion.

Also, a very potent way to create interest is asking "Why?" instead of "What?", if you are more interested in her reasons, rather than her answer. You can question her on those, and derive new lines of conversation from them.

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" You're born alone and you die alone and this world just drops a bunch of rules on top of you to make you forget those facts. But I never forget. I'm living like there's no tomorrow, because there isn't one. "

Just tell her, "I know."

That being said, I'd appreciate if you went into a little more depth about why you guys haven't been in touch for a while, as you say?

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" You're born alone and you die alone and this world just drops a bunch of rules on top of you to make you forget those facts. But I never forget. I'm living like there's no tomorrow, because there isn't one. "

Fast seduction on HB, number and kiss closed.

I texted her the next day to see if she would even respond or was going to be a flake. In retrospect I should have waited a couple days and then texted her about meeting up. I wanted to get some conversation going but I made a mistake with some AFC conversation. Here is what happened.

Me "Hi Hb, how is the world today?"
HB "Not too bad, how are you?"
Me "I am good. A girl I met last night turned out to be an okay kisser"

I waited two full days then sent a text.

Me "Hey HB! I want to hang out this week, what day works?"
HB "Hmm, pretty much any of them except Friday"

We set something up for Wednesday. Then this happened:

HB: "Hey, really sorry but I have to cancel for tomorrow. I'm moving next week and the only day my packing help can help is tomorrow."
HB: "You're welcome to join us friday for XXXXX show at XXXXX"

I didn't want to meet her at the show because 1) I want to see her one on one 2) I don't want to feel trapped at the show with just her and her friends. 3) I usually hang out with the guys Friday night. So I texted her I had plans already.

Then I sent her this on Friday:
Me "Hey there, why don't you come with me to [cool place] tomorrow, I need to get something there."

I never heard from her. I think I'll wait a week to hear from her and then try it once more, what do you think?

Thanks For the advice Don. It the advice about the ask "Why not What" already got me into a very in depth conversation!

Just one last question, I met this girl at a co-ed soccer league and I easily got into conversation (I have a lot of situational confidence at soccer, not to mention the league is open to any skill level, and i'm a good player, so just playing there is a DHV) and when I got home she poked me on facebook. After some simple flirting on facebook, I got her number and we started texting. However the past two nights (I've only texted her for two days) she stopped texting me at random points. The first time she said she fell asleep, so that was understandable, but the second time I can't really see an excuse. I Always assume the worst whenever they don't text back ie. They're annoyed, I'm bothering them, they don't like me.

Long story short, Should I text back a girl who hasn't texted me back? Would it be a DLV? Should I ask her why she didn't text back, or even start the conversation that way? I will see her in exactly a week should I wait to talk to her until then?

Thanks in advance,
Light Year

Thanks man! I'm out of town for the weekend, so I haven't seen her since Thursday (2 days lol) but I know she misses me. I wish I saw your reply before I texted her back, I just said something stupid like... I miss you too. But she replied back and we texted each other back and forth for a while about stupid stuff and what we were doing that night, didn't feel like being flirty. She did text me recently and this is what I said.. what do you think?

Her: Watcha doin today?
Me: Same thing you are, just thinking abt each other all day...
Her: Hahaha! Exactly, best thing ever!
Me: Jk, im not that bored lol

I'll come back here for more texting advice!

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Some people are like slinkys, not really good for anything but make you smile when you push them down the stairs.

Just jumping in here, I wouldn't text her back, and also I'd make sure that I wasn't texting her back sometimes too. Don't let it worry you.

I have a question too though:
I've been texting this girl occasionally to keep her in almost a limbo sort of state with me, where I can contact her to meet up if I have a free night. This has worked in the past for me in the sense that I get fewer flakes from them, but hasn't usually resulted in a significant close. What's the right way to "prime" her for the date, if any? My texts are flirty, but fairly nonsexual, would it be helpful to increase that aspect leading up to the invite or date?

Okay. First things first. There is NO harm in texting her after getting her number.

You need to get the attraction process started right off the bat. Now, nothing is your conversation suggests "AFC" so don't beat yourself up about that.

Now, the basic rule when it comes to any kind of conversation is that you need to lead. You need to be the dominant person. The one who tells the other what to do.

If you want her to meet you, "Hey there! It's Saturday tomorrow and I'd want to see you at lunch."

That way you're TELLING her, NOT ASKING her that you would want to see her. And she won't refuse or consider it too forward.

So, instead of waiting. Ignore what happened, get a steady text and call conversation flowing between you two and get her comfortable with you. If you can just get that comfort level established, she'll agree to anything.

Good Luck.

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" You're born alone and you die alone and this world just drops a bunch of rules on top of you to make you forget those facts. But I never forget. I'm living like there's no tomorrow, because there isn't one. "

Well, that depends on you.

If you don't care about these things i.e. who texted whom last, you can just text her anytime you want. Trust me, in the long run, there will be days when she will break off the conversation and some days when you will, don't worry too much about it.

There might be the scenario when you might have to put a little bit of effort with the girl, so as to indirectly tell her that you're not just interested into getting into her pants(even if you are) and that you're a different guy than those she's already met.

Once you can make her believe that, she'll always, always reply.

The basic aim of texting is to help establish a comfort level between people, in the times when you cannot see the other person physically.

And, you're welcome. Always here to help.

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" You're born alone and you die alone and this world just drops a bunch of rules on top of you to make you forget those facts. But I never forget. I'm living like there's no tomorrow, because there isn't one. "