If you really want to keep this girl play with her emotions a little bit. She is attracted to you, dont worry about that, so now try not to focus on the little details such as this text or that text - whilst any relationship is like a game, your situation seems a little more invested and so will not be over through any one wrong move, indeed, if she does 'love' you she will look beyond minor mistakes, try and think of it in an overall context. It seems like you are been too nice, start enjoying the experience. The fact of the matter is whilst she is saying all this about not wanting to be hurt, she subconsciously wants to feel highs and lows of emotions, or drama, all women do. Im not saying become an asshole all of a sudden, not at all, be nice but play her around a little bit. You have already said yourself that she responds to this (with the whole kissing the other girl thing). I know it seems counterintuitive but try and let her invest a little more in you than you do in her. Love her, but also love yourself, don't let yourself be hurt or set yourself up to be hurt, be the "tough guy" and control the relationship. Women respond to emotions and when you can control these emotions, by been the source of her pleasure and her pain, she will be yours my man. Good luck!

Sparky, thank you. That seems like very sound advice, I shall try and keep more of that sort of mindset. I don't know if I should fuck with her emotions tooo much though.....being that I kind of need to take it slow. But I did realize I was slowly starting to lose the love for myself but I got it back quickly being that I did not lose a significant amount hahahaha. But, I think I am being the tough guy...in a way. I mean, a while ago I would be getting worried that she has not replied to my facebook message for a day, but now, although I do acknowledge that she did not, its not really affecting me too much. But I did over stress rather quickly from that message about the "not wanting a prize." I tend to immediatley then after a few hours i realize that i was being an idiot and my mind is sound again...I think that makes sense.

Okay. So next weekend this same girl is coming over to my house to watch Donnie Darko with me (I realize its an odd date night movie, and I dont know if she'll like it, but whatever...its romantic and different). Anyways, so, as, if youve read earlier posts, you know she basically does not want me to just use her as a piece of meat. But I really don't want her to think that I "just want to be friends." Since I want to date her for a few years to be honest. So, because she needs to understand that I don't just want to hook up with her, what should I do to keep the attraction high, without making her feel like I just wanted to hang out to hook up. I was considering just giving her a kiss good night when she left? Any thoughts?

Yes?

Go ahead and go the full nine, man. Or whatever she feels comfortable with. What she's looking for is that emotional connection beyond the physical connection. Cool.

So most of that game is played out after something has happened. Do you leave her or do you stay? Most guys just bang and go. There's nothing wrong with that, except that most guys are also jerks who create false expectations, and so have the girl wanting something more that they're not going to give. If they were upfront with the girl about their intentions, girls would be cool with it. But you want something long-term anyways, so you won't be lying. Awesome.

Just escalate an go for everything. Tell her straight up that you are looking for something more, and that you don't want this to be just a one-night thing. Then, after, DON'T LET IT BE A ONL! That's all you have to do. Look up some LMR techniques on the site. They'll help you out. But you have already one of the best LMR techniques at your disposal: You can tell this girl that you truthfully want something more with her.

Good luck, man!

That's what we're here for, and I think you're well on your way to doing well.

you're in love bruhhh..

She seems to have lost all attraction for me. And it seems to have happened in literally a day. So I believe I'm going to not text her today until she texts me. I, am not mad, but a little bit annoyed that she lead me on like this if she really has no interest.

Like a sed last week, play this girl around, what was good advice then is good now. As much as you might think she's this innocent lil girl, she aint ma man. If she's behaving badly, freeze her the fuck out. It's like this, if she doesn't come back to you first then you aint gonna be getting any anyway, but if you keep chasing her you gonna end up looking like a bitch, lose value and then not gonna get shit either, so NO LOVE LOST, NO LOVE FOUND and you maintain value, you understand? I forgot to say last week, you could have bet that this whole donny darko thing wasn't gonna happen. Chances are your losing attraction because your losing her attention, your been too predictable. So dont talk all weekend, game someone else for a while (one of her friends her, or friends friends if you have to haha). This girl will get the picture, show her whose boss! Good luck!

By the way i have been in the same situation many a times when younger, and i bet a fair share of the fellas on here have too - its seeming like a good old dose of oneitis; thinking this chicken is different from all the rest! Just remember respect yourself boss thats the only way you gonna get her!

Never stop playing games. Not head games, just fun flirty games. Tease her and make her laugh, because that's what makes a relationship fun. And next time you're together, make a move as soon as the mood strikes you. I don't think she's gone forever, man.