| So, I'm very new to the game. I've been reading material, browsing the forums for a while, and learning. Still have some work to do but I'm better than I was. Any advice, though, would be much appreciated.
One of my personal rules is to not mess with an existing relationship. I'll befriend a girl in one, but I'm not going to try and break them up so I can get with her. It makes me feel like the bad guy. So a few months back, I met this girl. I talked with her and her friend for a bit, and found out she was engaged. No sweat. I no longer looked at her as a possible date. We saw each other randomly, and were friendly with each other, but the meetings were very brief. About a month, maybe more, later, me and some buds of mine were sitting in a break room, and she comes in with a couple of her friends. I had been complaining to my friends how I was sick of being a single dude, so they took it upon themselves to talk me up to this girl. I told them they were being dicks, and that she was engaged, blah blah blah. Then she says she broke up with her fiancee. I still didn't see her as a possibility, because I was going to be leaving the area soon. However, I knew for a fact that she would be going to the same place that I was a few months behind me. So I was still friendly, and we exchanged numbers a day or so before I left, saying that I could show her around when she got there. Fast forward to this week. I had asked her to bring something back with her for me from where we had come from, a little souvenir for a friend. She lives nearby, so that night I go visit her, and pick it up. I stay for a little while, we talk, and I feel this almost sexual tension, but I had to leave to take care of some stuff. She says I should text her sometime, and we should hang out, and I leave. Yesterday, we hang out for a little bit with some people from where I work. They embarrassed me a little, but I let it off as a joke. We go back to her place, and we're talking, and I feel that same almost but not quite tension. But I'm not getting any IOIs, so I don't do anything. Again. Then she gets a call from some people where she works to go out bowling. At first she says no, but more people keep asking so she finally relents. She leaves saying that she'll call me later that night when she gets back and we could hang out if I'm around, as I said I might be going out with some friends. This morning, I wake up, no calls/texts on my phone. I call her in the afternoon, asking if she wants to catch lunch, and she said she was out eating with people from work, and I can't help but feel that I blew it somewhere, or she's not interested, and that it happened in that transition from "she's not available" to "she is available."
This has happened before, where I'm not interested in a girl, situations change, she's interested in me, and when I start to reciprocate, the whole thing goes up in flames. Any thoughts? Opinions?
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