They know you, so setting a different frame around them all the sudden comes off odd. If you all go to a party I feel like if I set a Alpha Frame I wont be taken seriously. Normally I let them lead. There usually right and older(24). Im younger (20) and impulsive. Lets just go do it. But then my leaders dont want to back me up so I sit around and wait for them to come up with an idea. Is the only way to change the frame is not to be afraid to lose them in a conflict of intreasts? At the same time they are complety comfortable flirting with women because they have had success with women in the past witch turns into confidence for them. I have never even had a date. So I've watched them to see whats ok, but feel like I wouldn't be able to pull it off as smoothly. Thats something all my friends have on me. Odd because they are all players and I'am all of there best friend. Yet I cant get laid. For some reason I feel like touching women is awkward(like they are part of a museum)


Some of my friends DHV come off as bragging to me. I laugh at them, but the girl isnt laughing at them. Am I jsut enabling him?

My self esteem is tied to my freinds happiness for whatever reason. If there not happy im not happy. So I bust my ass keeping them entertained while I'm having fun and they are. Im not happy. Every time they have walked away with the girl. I have never. Should I try to sarge without any of my friends.

Only times I'm compelty confident is in a fight (absouilty no fear, excitement is better word) or something I've been doing a long time.

Thanks for any help PUAS!