wel i went to the club yesterday with my buddy and I wil run through what I was doing so maybe you could let me know what I dd wrng thx?

Chick 1 - she was at the bar i asked her if she was having a good time she said yeh i then asked her name, what she does etc i got up close 2 her and kissed her cheeks and put my arm round her and stood still. I then asked her number she said maybe later. Then we parted ways I saw her later on that night but she wouldnt dance hmm..

chick 2 - she was dancing in the r n b room and i asked her the same if she was having a good time and her name and i introduced myself.. i then asked her if she wants to dance she then said "only if u dnt get too close" silly me i thought she wasnt intrested but she showed she was willing 2 dance bt not get close but i thought she didnt wanna get close. so i went away

chick 3 - she was seated in the r n b room and i asked her name and introduced myself too her and then i asked to dance she said to me no

chick 4 - was walking towards me, my friend told me to chat to her i walked up 2 her and just hugged her and stayed in that trance didnt really say anything then she let go.. i tried to ask her to sit nex 2 me bt she walked off.

chick 5 - was walking towards me i just hugged her for a few seconds didnt say anything lol she then pushed me away and that was that

chick 6 was sitting down i sat nex to her i seen her rose and asked who gave her that to try and have a ice breaker she then walked off and some dude came with hr to sit down

chick 7 - i approached she flat out told me she had a boyfriend so i said ok and walked away

chick 8 - she was standing at the entrance i asked her if she was having a good time she said yes bt then she put on a serious voice and said shes waiting for her friends yet she had a laugh and a joke with the other guys earlier.

chick 9 - this one was in the street two taxi drivers whistled to her etc so my friend told me to chat 2 her i walked over and asked her if she had 5 mins.. she said no then i said i wanted ur number she said no and walked away..


as u can see i am a mess. im just not showing attraction that is a hell of a lot of chicks to approach and get nowhere... pls let me know what i did wrong pls

You're going for the kill way too early. Let her know who you are DHV, tease, neg have fun and then ask whatever you want. You can't be shootin 3's without making a lay up first.

yeh thats what my friend told me too.. i guess i acted upon my desires to get the numbers too much. but if i dont go in for the kill way 2 early then she will get distracted by other dudes and the dancing and her friends may come looking for her hmm
anyway that was 9 potential numbers and i didnt get any lol i feel like a asswipe haha

my friend told me normally chicks come up 2 me but yday they just didnt come up 2 me at all. anyhow talking about the future aswell. how to best move on knowing you have just got dissed at the club?

Just think of this whole experience as practice, as a test run.
Your going to make mistakes, better now rather then later.
be optimistic.

ur right

you are doing fine, at this rate you should make good progress,

here are some things that might help you,

before you go for a kiss/number consider two things,

1) is she in a good mood yet, have you given her some fun?, added something to her night that she might remember you for?

2)has she given you IOI's / qualified herself in some way to you, if not have a quick conversation leading her into qualifying herself to you, e.g. beauty is common etc. what you have going on for you more then your looks? if she qualifies go in for kill,

also use compliance/reciprication of kino as an indicator of where you are on her physical comfort level

think of rejections more like, you are getting the time wasters weeded out

ok thx for ur help i will keep on trying
bt damnnnn those 9 chicks could have been 9 numbers
oh well at least i did attempt