Messaging and texting is fine until a certain point. You just hit yours.

Ok, first of all, sorry that it's a bit messed up! Copy pasted from fb, and had to translate! So the thing is that I've met her once before at a party and I've now invited her to one... my-first-report-please-read-and-help-me ... highlight= It's the HB8 here... What I've learned is that I don't know how to analyze my own text games.. Help appreciated!


Me: Join us on Saturday! (Was talking about a party)
(don't ever open with invite, you can not gauge bt or interest level)
*
HB: I can't! I'm not home.
(flake 1)

Me: Ofcourse not, you're at the party!
(re-frame)
*
HB: hahahaha Naah, I'm probably in *insert place here*
(likes your re-frame qualifies herself to you, re-iterates that the flake is legitimate)

Me: Let me know by wednesday then!;) (internal joke)
(call back humor is great but no matter the joke this seems needy to me, like her coming out with you is of high importance when she is not appearing to mirror that interest)
*
HB: I won't know by wednesday, but i don't think I'll join... Got lot's of other stuff going on, so what's up?
(flake 2 this is game over to me and if i was gaming her, after this she would requires freeze out)

Me: You oughta learn to prioritize, but I'm off! ttyl
(you reacted, this should not matter to you that she flaked, it should be irrelevant, you have better things to do then hang out with her, you just wanted her to come out and enjoy your fun life)

HB: haha yeeah, totally:) Cya
(she didn't like that last text i guarantee it)

*About an hour later*
(you should never have had this convo)

Me: ...
HB: What is it?
Me: You've made me write new-norwegian (norwegian dialect) unintensionally!
HB: Oh dear.. Not goooood! (written in that dialect)..
HB: Yeah, I'm really mean to you!
Me: BITCH! (internal joke from a party)
HB: hahahha :D i know you love me :D
Me: You really think so.
HB: Only if you think so
Me: That was the wrong tone... Haha, doesn't work to write with a tone! >.<
HB: haha Yeeah, true that
HB: You should call me, and tell me with the right tone!
Me: Haha, that'll have to wait! I have work 8 am tomorrow, so I oughta hit the sack!
HB: ahh :P smart :)
ttyl:):) good night and sweet dreams :)
♥♥

(2nd text convo was low on interest and she tried to dominate you, you are also telegraphing interest to her, without her returning it, there are no actually ioi's in this log)



in my opinion this girl requires a freeze out, next time you go for an invite since she is low interest, put her in a good mood 1st, you should be able to tell by how quickly she texts, double texts,long texts, etc., invite her out to do something fun with other people so she is more likely to inest and if she flakes you don't look bad, also try calling her next time after the freeze out so you can tell when she is actually laughing, i doubt she was laughing at all during this text exchange, if you get answering machine just say, HEY ITS THE DICE, IVE BEEN GOING IN AND OUT FOR A WHILE, ILL CALL YOU LATER,

also i read your party post, if you have a girl into you and you want nothing to do with her, next time pawn her (show disinterest in her while she is showing interest in you, do it in front of other girls that you want) this will give you quick attraction spikes, most effective is completely blowing her out, but if you want to see/bang her again this is not in your best interest

anyways good luck

Thanks mate! And no, I don't want more to do with the one from the party, she doesn't seem to get it, even though I showed clear disinterest for a couple of hours straigh! What sucks is that I will meet her again, and I just hope she got it figured out

As for the text analyzis, I agree. So I'm gonna freeze her out for a little while and see what happens! As I've mentioned earlier, she only has one more chance before I flunk her completley!

Hi.

sorry mate, but showing clear desinterest for a couple of hours just aint good enough. If that seems long in your head, you are in too deep on an emotionally level. Taking distance is not about a couple of hours. It is just leaving her alone. if she makes contact, its about treating her like you would treat anybody else. Polite, but distant, like there are more important things to do.

And just in general: dont text game. There is no text game. Ask her if she goes to the party by text. If she goes, game her at the party. if she doesnt, leave her alone. All extra text after that is text too much.

just make sure the disinterest you show in your pawn is verbalized and made active, other girls need to see this and perceive it as she is pursuing you, and you are rejecting her