Handling this situation is all about having the right frame. If you must tell a girl you're into the Venusian Arts (though I wouldn't recommend it; in fact, I would assume the more likely scenario would be that she stumbled upon your PUA literature or internet bookmarks), whatever you do, don't act defensive or apologetic about it.

There's a right way and a wrong way to handle it. There have been some good suggestions so far in this thread of each. Just keep in mind the words you use are extremely important. For example, game basically means charisma. "Understanding how charisma works" is better than "learning game." Instead of calling it pick-up, refer to it as human social dynamics. And as for why you got into it, don't say "I wanted to score with chicks" or "I needed to get my numbers up," or even "I wasn't getting laid," connect with her emotionally- don't be afraid to talk about how your past struggles made you want to become a better person, someone who wanted to discover his "best self," as Neil Strauss put it. But above all, don't apologize for it. The very fact that you know about the community means you must know that is about options; if she is truly that upset about you trying to improve yourself, kick her to the curb. You have all the tools to find someone else. That attitude alone will make her more likely to accept your PUA identity anyway.

All that being said, there's no need to volunteer this information, especially to anyone you are casually seeing or have been dating for a short time.

they won't get it.. they think it's creepy.. it's also not a cool thing imho, it's like admitting you are a loser..

haha, this made me laugh. If practicing game is for losers, why are you doing it?

There is never a good time to tell a girl this. Sure some guys argue that honesty is the best medicine, and they don't want to lie... But if you didn't tell her in the first place, then you're not exactly lying about anything, are u?

I can't see this going down well, no matter how I look at it.

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Grow a pair.

It helps if you read it in context.

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'Nothing is impossible to a willing mind'

NO.

Style described the game as a secret underground society so there.

but in some circumstances maybe you should tell her like if you confess to having slept with her mom,all her aunts and sisters and she is still with you--well then yeah, .

How would most women take it '' you played me, you used me''--drama,drama they are paranoid,suspicious and stupid enough without giving them ammo

Fair.
Sooo true. Nail on the head. That's the essences of why it's best to avoid telling them.

There will be circumstances where, with the right calibration, it might be appropriate and constructive to tell them. But unless you're very close with a girl and you're sure she will understand where you're coming from, (make sure if it's exclusive you're not telling her you've had 3 other girls on the side!) there's not much point and it is likely to lead to disaster. Due to the fact most girls have at least one of the above quoted characteristics

NO,

i completely disagree, its telling them you WERE a loser -with this one particular aspect of your life- but you had the cojones to get up and do something about it.

I agree you shouldnt necessarily volunteer up the info, but if youre in a serious relationship and she asks, explain why you started the journey.. (well personally it was because i was sick of being that shy kid who wasn't living life anywhere near the fullest etc..). And don't be apologetic about it, if pick up improved your life to the point it got her then its all bless.

* i'd refrain from calling it pick up, haha.. i like social dynamics/ charisma

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All that glitters is not gold

This is an important point and it's pertinent to this thread. Having traveled and lived in several different countries, I'd say that there definitely exists a cultural standard for the intrusiveness and the level of involvement that individuals take upon others.

For example: You see a new acquaintance walk out of the men's room with his zipper down. . .

In the US, we live by a 'personal bubble' code. So we don't go near the guy, we don't stare at his crotch . . .but we might tell him (while looking away), "Hey dude, you're flying low . . "

In Japan, they're too 'polite' to say anything so they'll simply look FAR away from that area and will continue to interact as if the zipper was up.

Some cultures are so frank and intimate with each other that they'll laugh, reach down, and pull your zipper up for you. Other cultures will stand back, point, stare, and tell you, "You forgot something." These are general stereotypes yes . . . but everybody reacts differently.

One thing is for sure . . . NO CULTURE in the World has anything good to say about an adult who behaves like a child. . . "Look at me! Look at me!" Call it whatever you want to call it. If you're using the acronym P-U-A outside in the real world, this is childish. Really . . . nobody gives a fuck. Some have said, "Well she doesn't mind . . ." - Read the above reactions. It's often the job of a 'polite' adult to "not mind" when faced with awkward situations. If it is your goal to act like a child and find people who don't 'mind' your childishness, then have a go at it. Otherwise, lose this immature habit.

Others have added that this topic can simply 'come up' in a discussion. Fine . . . but that's not what the majority of the people in this thread are talking about.

Kasabi, dude come on! too much, we all know you are an intellect, but please dude! CALIBRATION!

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