have you guys ever failed with a girl then asked her why it didn't work out? most of the time you probably won't be seeing her again, so wouldn't it be good to get some feedback?

Eventhough I think it's pretty lame asking, I'm also curious to know why it didn't work. Hardly think any of them will give their honoust opinion, but it's worth a shot. My question to you is: how are you going to ask them? If I get to see her in person somehow, I'll be damned if I'm not trying to pick her up... When you get her on the phone it means she's still somewhat interested in you and if she'll only text you back...well having a small text on why it didn't work isn't really great information is it?

However last week I asked a girl what her first impression of me was and why she eventually meet up with me...she was kinda shocked by the way I treated her, because she simply hasn't been approached that way before!
Now that's some usefull information, maybe you should try it this way instead?

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Optimistic?

I have thought about this before. Recently, this girl stopped hitting me up and what not. i think I would just ask one of her friends. I honestly don't give a shit, but I would like to know what happened

Found the only way to get an honest response is to get a girl mad at you. Say it was her fault it failed and why. Works best if you accuse her of doing what you think you did wrong in a polite, yet conceited manner.

examples:

you: you seemed kinda stiff
her: what the fuck are you talking about. you were totally awkward....etc...

you: your clothes were a bit outdated.
her: you dressed like a total bum. Did you just throw on what was on your bedroom floor?

I've only done this a few times in many years, but have found each time quite useful. It's human nature to want to knock someone down a peg, and you'll often get a response many times longer that what you said to provoke it.

If you ask her nicely, you're just going to get white lies.

It depends.

If it was a full blown relationship - I would ask why. Its god to know why cos it helps develop yourself as a person and identifies weakness to make improvements on.

If it was a girl and she was interested then lost interest i.e. a oneitis type situation I would never ask why. Generally you would know why you would just chose to ignore it or in denial of it.

i might try this instead.

i mean the point of asking why is for future reference lol

I did this once. the HB and I were still friends over fb(although we didn't really spoke to each other) then one day, I saw her online and just from pure impulse, I decided to ask her directly what went wrong during the time we first met. And to my surprise, I also got a direct answer(she said we didn't see each other enough/communication wasn't enough).

And then guess what happened? We started talking/commenting on each other again (game on again lol)

I guess it depends on the way you guys stopped seeing each other, if it didn't leave a bad taste in her mouth then I think it's ok to ask directly.

so you started talking to eachother again? have you guys met up or hung out since?

yep. but due to school, it was only on fb for about three months. After those three months(and my final exams) and an accidental meetup on a mutual friend's birthday celebration only did I ask her out. She flaked on my first try but managed to reschedule within a frame(i said she owed me one "hang out" lol). On the retry, she showed up but she cut it short because she was meeting a friend she hasn't seen for at least 2 years. I might've it up though(no kino whatsoever) but she said she had fun. I asked her out again this week and she said she'll give me an answer on saturday.

as you can see, i'm still a newbie to gaming. i'll try more kino next time, but due to the inherent conservativeness in our culture, i don't think i can try and kclose yet. lol.

could create a customer service satisfaction form like the businesses use nowadays.

how would you rate the player's overall performance 1 2 3 4 5

how would you rate the player's appearance 1 2 3 4 5

how would you rate the player's overall technique 1 2 3 4 5

would you like to leave any comments? ___________________________

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what dr. house brings to medicine, i bring to everyday life (an extreme dose of cynicism), don't listen to the curmudgeon!

Provided I don't have to speak to a freaking call centre I'd answer a survey.

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Life can only be understood backwards; but it must be lived forwards. -Soren Kierkegaard
A woman brought you into this world, so you have no right to disrespect one - Tupac

Ive done this several times. Because I used to be the biggest chode on earth and everytime it would happen i would have to know why.

and every time, the girl was honest.

one girl told me i was too emotional (i cried to her once)

one girl told me i had no backbone. that one hurt. she was a real bitch, but she taught me alot.

some of them just said "circumstances blablabla"
but, every case is pretty much the same. attraction fades, game over.
ive learned so much in the last year, and my game has skyrocketed, to the point where I am generating attraction on unprecedented levels with girls that I am currently seeing.

now Im at a point where I am developing post-game game. meaning, I picked her up, dated her, fucked her etc, and now what? well some girls I like and want to keep around, others I discard. but to keep them around requires game too.

and the most revealing thing that I have learned, is that, the way I am now, the way I act now with women, (which is completely opposite of what I used to and completely against what I thoguht was the way to treat women) is exactly the way it is supposed to be.

and guess what, women know this. they simply know. this is why if you act AFC, she will dump you, because shes not getting what she needs. it all makes sense after 6 years of supreme chodeliness

so i asked her what her first impression of me was. she said i looked cool, but i'm mean. she also told me i'm cocky but have nothing to back it up (really vague, didn't get a chance to ask her for details). i really don't think i'm that cocky at all. i'll say stuff jokingly like im the fucking man, but i don't think that's what she means by calling me cocky.

EVERYONE tells me i'm mean... how do i be nicer?

Well I got the same thing. I'm an asshole, but at the same time I'm a nice guy. The trick is getting best from both worlds, which isn't working out for me all the time haha, but I still keep trying and improving.
You know, a compliment never hurts, try it once in a while, just don't over-compliment.

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Optimistic?

I'd like to ask my ex, but considering she lied through the majority of the relationship because she has a problem accepting the truth, I dont think I'd get an honest answer if I got one at all