...and you'd think because I made out with her already, it'd be a done deal.

Facts on the boyfriend:

-Been dating for 9-10 months
-He lives 1-2 hours away
-They see each other only about twice a week from 9pm to 9am (her words), which means hanging out, sex, and sleep
-She doesn't feel compelled to say "I love you" to him :!::!:
-She's going to volunteer at a camp this summer and won't see him
-She's moving to LA in the Fall, making the commute even harder


Meanwhile, whenever she sees me her face radiates this light and energy I haven't seen before; she breaks into a huge smile that shows in her eyes, she hugs me super tight, and we have great conversations.

ALL these reasons she should choose me over him... AND I made out with her two days ago...

Yet she doesn't feel emotionally ready or willing to leave him or do anything behind his back.

She's okay with hanging out as friends "after we give time to let things settle..." which I assume to mean she wants to let her attraction to me take a back seat.

Guys, this is a quality woman. I want her. And I'm giving up just yet. I will have her. Boyfriend or not.

But as she does have a boyfriend right now.... I want to know if the situation is salvagable. If I can still do anything or use any boyfriend destroyers, and if so, what and how, now that she knows my interests.

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freeze her out, she'll come running back

You could try the 'Straw Man Technique'. It's a sticky post on the 'Mid Game' section. It's designed to get round the boyfriend/partner situation.

I thought about that, but since we made out and had a big discussion involving her relationship, I think using that would be transparent to her now, and I would just look sleazy.

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The one time I dated a girl with a long distance boyfriend, I just pretended like he didn't exist. I never mentioned him, and I treated the girl like she was my GF. Went on dates, hung out a lot, etc. Eventually she just broke up with him and we started going out.