So I started talking to this girl who was giving me multiple IOIs

She was asking about me, and we organised to go to this event thing where we knew noone and she said "You and I can stick together "

Then she texted me twice at night (different days) saying "Hey how was your day?"

this all happened within a week.

The day we met up she texted me "Good morning! Hope this didnt wake you "

We organised to meet at 12pm, but I was sincerely hung over from last nights shenanigans, so I called her and said "I cant meet you at 12pm, but we can hang out after the event. All good?" And she said that sounds good.

So we get to the event, I arrive late and she doesnt really aknowledge me. cbf going into details, but the event was a meeting, and because we were at different tables we could only talk during the break, where we got a long.

At the end she just left.

I felt 100% in with this hb10, and naturally I feel frustrated that somehow the opportunity was lost. I texted her after saying "You should have come out afterwards!" and she was like "Yeah I was busy. Nice meeting up with you "


...WHY? Lol sucks so bad. please help me with what could have happened.

I would say she is abit annoyed with you because you kinda flaked on her with the original meet, i then think that she was then trying to give you a taste of your own medicine by flaking on you. to get you chasing her again. I'd just ignore it, leave it a couple of days and then text her asking how she is or something.

Imagine you're a girl.

You like a guy. You try to show interest all the time to him via text. You arrange a meet up with him.

You get a text from him that says "I can't meet you at 12pm, but we can hang out after the event. All good?"

What are all the ways you could interpret that? The answer? TOO MANY ways, and many of those potential ways could be bad.

Now, imagine the same scenario, but you get a different text. This text is more honest and direct. It says "I can't meet you at 12pm. I am way too hung over. Let's hang out after the event."

What are the ways you could interpret that? The answer? ONE GODDAMN way, and the interpretation is "Oh, he's hung over haha." Additionally, she might think "I know what that's like. I hope he feels better later."

Were you possibly ashamed of being hung over, thinking that she might judge you negatively for it?

The moral of the story is: honesty is the best policy, and don't hide details that you're potentially ashamed of, because shame is one of the biggest cockblocks of all.

Yeah youre right. I didnt want to admit me being hungover, because I dont really drink that much often and did actually feel a bit bad haha

Alrighty, so you definitely think there WAS interest, right?
Also, should I send her a text saying "What are you doing this Friday?"? Or would she not be interested at all now most likely

Son, your tellin the story here.. there is no-way any of us can identify if there was interest..

Stop cock blocking yourself and stress less.. seems to me from the limited details when you did meet her you didn't put enough effort into cultivating the relationship.. she got bored and left.. too easy..

Disregard prior experiences.. txt her again.. set up meet, don't fuck it up.. simple.

UPDATE:

ok so I asked her if she wanted to come out with me this weekend to a party (she will only know me) and she said yes enthusiastically
Probably just pissed her off without destroying her interest.
Very happy, thanks for the advice!

Now, on the night should I just talk to her, introduce her to people, dance a bit and escalate to kiss?
I feel comfortable with what to do, but im wondering if based on my situation theres a "magic bullet" or better way to do things. Any tips are appreciated immensely

That might be the "magic bullet" you're looking for

haha, thats a good point
Thanks