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So today i opened up another 1 set direct only one i dont as i was with my friend an i do better on my own i went direct but im having some serious trouble holding converstation maybe its because when i look for a girl i feel more comftable going after the hb 8,9,10s like im not to fussed if it ends in rejection because there good looking this girl today was a 9
iv forgot a bit of the convo but i had her for a bit then messed it up i said so how many bfs have you got
an she said she hasent got a bf
then brainbox here goes do you want one after that it was killed i knew i fuked up after i said it how do i become more witty
will just approaching atleast once everyday make me more witty i feel nervous around them how long will it take to about to stop makin me nervous
till it becomes natural
1 Major good thing today though was for the 2 minutes i had her kino came off an i didnt even consiouscly want to kino her it just happend
maybe i should lower my standards for a bit but id rather approach the high class girls an hopefully it will get me use to girls more easyer im proud of myself but i just dont want it to get me down
alright good job approaching the girl. asking how many BF she has is a good way of screening if she is single, but i would not respond with "do you want one?"
This puts her into a awkward situation bc she hardly even knows you. When I go out and the girl says she has no BF( I use the same test). Tease her a bit. I go with something like " You must be broken or defective or something cause all the hots ones are usually taken"
After that you can just start with qualifications and screen her for qualities you want or dont want. And you can do this by making assumptions about her. So since i dont want a girl calling me 50 billion times in a hour i would say something like
" You arent one of those girls that calls like 50 times a hour are you?"
And if you ever run out of things to say, dont start asking questions like "What are you up to today?" Where are you from?" What do you do?" it is the same thing every other guy is asking. So when you think of asking a question like this, ask yourself this question(refering to her) and just make a assumption about it.
The best part is even if you get it wrong she will correct you and wonder why you thought that. Like i would say something like " Im usually pretty good at this. You look like the type of girl from Japan." when she is obviously white. Or you look like you are either going to be a scientist or doctor when you grow up
hope it helps. Oh and the nervousness goes away when you do this enough. In my mind it clicked that nothing bad will happen if you approach her and she rejects you. To quote one of my coaches in high school "Get comfortable being uncomfortable".
And to note that even though when i approach a set I am alot more comfortable and relaxed now. I can focus on my body language, voice tonality, and facial expressions instead of being so nervous. But from my experience approach anxiety will still be there the next day, but i barrel through it knowing nothing bad will happen and there is only a chance for alot of potential gain
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