Hey guys, thanks for checking out my field report journal! To begin, let me give you a back story about me.

Bio

I'm a 21 year old college student from Georgia. I'm currently studying Management and I'm in my 4th year of college, planning on going a 5th year, which is not a problem for me. The only thing is I commute to campus, and I only go down there 2 days a week. With my limited time schedule, it is important that I can improve my social skills substantially.

I have a twin brother, who also goes to the same college as well. I'm the oldest one by one minute, and I always point that out to people. I really do act like the big brother, sort of lol.

Anyways, in terms of what has been going on:

- I was bullied in middle and high school a few times, which hurt my self-esteem a lot.
- I was extremely shy and anxious when talking to my classmates throughout grade school.
- I've had no girlfriends, even though I had a few crushes on some of the girls in my high school classes. No first kiss either.
- I'm still a virgin.
- I'm 5'8" and 247 pounds. I am considered overweight, however I'm going to be working on losing some weight real soon. This does not bother my self-esteem as much as the other issues.
- I've only had one close friend all this time, who I consider my best friend, and I met him in 5th grade.
- In 2007, after graduating I began suffering from severe depression when I went to this one university and was having severe anxiety and stuff from living in the dorms.
- 2 years later, in 2009, I transferred to another college, a more traditional one.
- I still felt the depression inside of me, and in early 2010 I met with a psychiatrist who prescribed me with an antidepressant, Zoloft.
- Fast forward to today, and the medicine has worked wonders. I am no longer depressed, and my anxiety and shyness has gone down significantly.

However, I'm still having problems talking to girls on my campus, and that is the reason why I'm writing this journal. First off, my goals:

Goals:

- Totally break my shyness/anxiety towards girls I like (Approach, talking to them, etc.)
- Show that I'm sexually interested in a girl I'm talking to, using more body language, kino (touching), etc.
- Get kissed by a girl for the first time, and have sex for the first time.
- Expand my social network.
- Hang out and have fun with my friends and classmates on campus!

Now that I got that out of the way, on to Day 1 of my Field Report.

Day 1: The Big Day

Date: 3/1/2011

During the weekend I had found this site and was excited to learn all about the PUA lifestyle. However, before that I had been thinking to myself about what I wanted to be like for the rest of my days on campus: being the quiet, friendly guy who is always nice and says only a little bit to people on campus, or actually bursting that bubble I have and be friendly and talkative towards everyone.

The feeling of not having a girlfriend or not being able to meet girls I like after college also started to set in. I was thinking to myself, "How do these guys do it?"

So I made it a goal that this day was going to be the Big Day. I was going to look my best (shave, shower, trim my nails, etc.), and go out there and approach some girls!

It was around 10:00 AM and I had gotten out of class early. Usually I'm in class from 9:30-10:45, but plans changed when our instructor didn't show up. Anyways, so I'm walking back into the library. My college's library has 3 floors: the 1st floor contains numerous chairs, couches, and tables in the front of the building for students to study. Down the stairs is the computer labs and also a Starbucks. Upstairs is where the real library is, where they also have computers and other study tools.

So I entered the library and was looking around for a seat so I could sit down and start studying. I went upstairs (where they have some seats and stuff there for studying too), but there were no seats available.

I came back downstairs and while coming down I noticed these two girls sitting in the corner booth, just chit-chatting and stuff. I was like, "Screw this, I'm going to go over and talk to them."

So I walked over, said hi, and made my introduction. Their names were Haley and Jess. Both were juniors (my standing in college right now), and were pretty much my age. A little awkward, though, since this was my first time approaching any girls at all that I did not know. I was almost in a nervous wreck, but I maintained my composure as I talked to them about various subjects, mainly school and stuff.

Around 10:30 they said they had to go, and I told them that they can always add me on Facebook, since I have a friend that we share between each other. I wasn't expecting to get their phone numbers at all, since this was my first time approaching. After they left, I sat there for a while and thought about what I did.

"Wow, this isn't as hard as it seems!"

This got my confidence level up a lot. After chilling out for a bit, I headed over to the cafeteria to get some lunch.

Once I got my lunch, I had to find a place to sit. I told myself, "I'm not going to sit alone this time!" So I sat down with this group of one guy and three girls. I introduced myself to them and learned that they were all freshmen, in their second semester. I chatted with them for the whole time I ate lunch, and they seemed interested in what I was talking about and I made sure to listen in on their conversations. This one girl I sat next to seemed slightly interested in me. However, no phone-closing, although I told them if they need help with any homework, to add me on Facebook , since I'm real easy to find.

That pretty much ended my first day of chatting with guys and girls I didn't know at first. At the end of the day I felt really excited to finally improve this part of my life!

What I learned:

- Approaching is not as hard as it seems. As long as you're friendly and smiling at everyone, then people will be willing to listen to you!

That's it for now, stay tuned for Day 2, which I will post soon!

Day 2

Date: 3/3/11

Checked my Facebook account to see if anyone from who I met on 3/1 added me...nope. So that means I definitely have to try and talk to some girls and get their phone number today.

It was your typical class day, but this time I had my twin brother tag along, as he had some stuff to do. After getting done with class, I chatted with a few of my classmates and then (tried) to see if anyone wanted to eat lunch with me. Well, with it being too early (11 AM) they said no thanks.

I decided to go to lunch with my twin brother, but he wants to sit at a table with no one else sitting at it. He's got the same issues as me when it comes to socializing, but I definitely needed to keep him company. After lunch, it was time for my next class, a lab class for Biodiversity. Our assignment today was to go to this Natural History Museum, located in the basement of the science hall. From there we had to check out the exhibits and answer questions based on them.

While answer a few of the questions, I noticed this really nice redhead next to me at one of the exhibits. I would rate her a 7.5 or 8 on my scale

Anyways, I went ahead and started a conversation, beginning with trying to help her with the questions we had to answer. I then introduced myself, if she didn't already knew me from being in class, since she didn't sit at my table in the lab. I chatted with her about a number of different things, even complimenting her on a necklace she has (a silver cross). I was just about to ask her if we could hang out sometime, when she goes over and talks to this other girl or guy, I don't remember. She's like, "So, my boyfriend's coming to town soon..."

Darn.

And here I was thinking I would get my first number-close! Well, that's okay. At least I met her and was friendly. Perhaps she has some friends that are single that I could meet later?

After that, nothing much happened.

Overall, a sub-par day for me. I wish I could of met some more girls, but somehow I was feeling like I didn't want to talk to a whole lot of people.

The weekend is now here, so this is where I would try the online dating scene, but I'm not too sure how to approach it.

Things to work on:

- Self-confidence
- Online dating scene

Well, for some reason it won't let me edit my previous 2 posts, so I figured I post an update to add in some things to my journal.

The first thing I wanted to do was to tell you about some more goals I have. In addition to just the relationship goals I want to achieve, I do have some general goals to improve myself physically, mentally, and emotionally.

Long-Term Goals:

- Estimated time: Up to a year.

- Master the ability to play my electric guitar, eventually writing my own songs and creating my own band.
- Lose a substantial amount of weight, and get rid of the belly fat, etc.
Current height and weight (in inches and pounds respectively): 5'8", around 250 lbs.
Target weight: 195-200 lbs.

Short-Term Goals:

- Play my electric guitar daily and learn the techniques in this beginner's book I have.
- Exercise daily (Not counting my two days at school. I walk a lot on campus, so that's my exercise for those days.)
- Eat a balanced, nutritious breakfast, lunch, and dinner, with small snacks in between.
- Apply to various job postings around town, so I can get a part-time job to earn some money.
- Create new friendships with guys and girls when I'm on campus. Increase my social network, while letting my own personality shine. Ask them about weekend parties, and go to them!
- Join clubs on campus and go to special events during the week.
- Talk to some girls I like and get their phone numbers, so I can hang out with them later. Maybe even a kiss-close or better

If anyone has any other advice or whatever from what I posted beforehand, I would appreciate it. Any little advice to improve my social life and stuff will help me achieve my goals!

Hey bro, you actually have a lot of the same goals as me. Im starting to go to the gym to reduce the bit of beer belly ive acquired over the last few years, gonna play my new guitar everyday and most of all get laaaaaaiddd!

Hope you do well man ill keep an eye on your thread.

Daamn bro you fat as fuck man, I thought I was fat I'm 19 yrs old, 5'8" and 180 pounds I thought I was fat lmao!! You lil chubby chub chub you!!! Hahahaha!!!


Anyways kidding aside I used to be overweight too most my life I was 180 pounds when I was 16, but I was able to cut down 30 pounds and hit 150 when I turned 17. If you want to loose weight fast I suggest at 9:00 pm every night go out and skate for about an hour. Thats what I did for a whole summer, ate dinner at 8:00 pm, and went out for a hard skate at night. Losing weight is one of the most greatest feelings in life, and the most pleasurable. You'll feel so good about yourself and earn a big confidence boost. You should at least try to get down to 200 pounds, if you wanna be an over achiever get down to 170-180 pounds. But yeah PUA related, your off to a good start champ.

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"We Go Truly Hard, Styles Like Julia"-Hoodie Allen

You can definitely go and talk to girls so approach anxiety isn't much of a problem to you. I definitely suggest that you talk to any girl you see that you like. You don't have to get her number but have a conversation, since your starting out.

Then go ahead and read this and follow the instructions. Since your new you need to get educated. Pick one of the PUA method and stick with it for 30 days.

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Goodluck champ

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"We Go Truly Hard, Styles Like Julia"-Hoodie Allen

Hey thanks for the advice! Unfortunately I'm completely broke, so getting these would be a problem for me. Any other tips on what to do in terms of the college scene?

You can sign up to tons of e-books from PUA's like David DeAngelo http://www.doubleyourdating.com/ and whole bunch of PUAs. If you need to find a part-time job, a book from the PUA should cost under 100 bucks. But I don't sugess that you should just go by yourself, because you don't have a game plan, find one that suits you and then execute it.

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"We Go Truly Hard, Styles Like Julia"-Hoodie Allen

Yeah gotcha. I've actually been looking into applying to various part-time jobs around town, since I have 4 days off on the weekend (Fri-Mon.) and I only go to school on Tuesday and Thursday. I'll definitely keep the e-books/books in mind though.

Update

Well, what a rough week I had last week. My car broke down, I had a family emergency, among other crazy things. I had to miss a whole week of classes due to my car breaking down, but everything should be sorted out this Monday.

Other than that, I'm going to begin my weight loss program Sunday. I'm looking forward to it, as exercising and eating right will help me gain more confidence and self-esteem, therefore helping me out with picking up/talking to girls!

Of course, I'll be going to my campus this week, and I plan on being more sociable than before. I'm at a point where I don't care if I'm going to mess up sometimes, I'm just out there having fun and meeting new people!

I'm also going to practice my guitar everyday, so that way I can learn how to play some songs I like!

Return to Campus

Date: 3/15/2011

So, today was the day I finally was able to get down to campus alone after missing last week.

The morning didn't start off very well, as I was miserable from the day before among other things. In addition, it was rainy.

However, that still didn't stop me from getting to my classes and stuff. I chatted with some of my classmates in my morning class, and then went and got some lunch before going to my last few classes of the day. Today's my late night, as I have a 5 PM class.

Fast forward to my 5 PM class, and I was sitting right near this drop-dead gorgeous girl. Our instructor said to find a partner to work on this project that will be due later, and I figured I'd ask her if she wanted to work with me.

Something about her made me instantly connect with her. She was real tired and I was too, and I started mimicking her behaviors and talking to her as if I knew her for years. She kept constant eye contact on me when I was talking and whenever I said something funny, she laughed and smiled. I told her that I would add her on Facebook so we could work on the project and chat some more, and I also talked to her about maybe someday hanging out together. =)

So I'm pretty excited about this, but I'm still going to talk to other girls and stuff too, just so I can expand my social network.

This is a huge step for me, and I've learned that if I start small by talking to my classmates in the classroom, I can then later move up and talk to girls outside my classes and around campus. Start small, then work my way up. I have never felt so excited and happy in a long time.

Facebook Fun!

Date: 3/18/2011

Well, today was a pretty cool day! Nothing much going on other than going out and about around town. However, I found this really cute girl on Facebook today by using this application to search for people around me. I had to add her as a friend. Well, she decided to add me too, so I'm definitely getting somewhere if she's adding me =)

(Note: My college's on Spring Break, so I'm going to be going around to different places and see about talking to some girls and stuff too.)

So, I send her a private message (since she's not on FB chat), and here's how it went (I used Keenan's opener, but modified it a bit):
Edit: Well, I went ahead and followed up with a witty response and gave her my number. No word on her yet, but I'm not too worried if she doesn't respond to me. By the way, I know the internet is not really a "field report" and I understand that. I just wanted to give an update on what I've been doing, working on my PUA skills.

Big Update!

Well, after not updating my field report in 2 months, I'm finally back!

I have some exciting news to share with you too.

That will wait, though. First off, let me tell you of some things I have done after my last field report in March.

In early April, my college was holding a Battle of the Bands event, so I decided to stay down on campus and attend the show. It was really fun and exciting for me! I met a lot of new girls there and also chatted with a friend and his friends too. No number closes for the girls, but I did get my friend's cell phone number (we had been chatting on campus for a while) so that way if we ever wanna hang out, he can give me a call or I can send him a message.

That Sunday, I went to WWE Wrestlemania XXVII, along with my brother, at the Georgia Dome in Atlanta, GA. Over 70,000 people attended the event, and it was a really great show!

Later that month (heading into May), I felt like I wanted to go out and experience the night life in my college's town. I decided to go solo to this night club (the only good one on campus) that opened around 11 PM.

When I got in, the DJ was blaring his music, but otherwise there weren't a lot of people there. Another problem was that they allowed smoking in there, which I am very sensitive to smoking, so that didn't help things out. The only good thing was that there was a decent ventilation system in place to filter the smoke out. Later on that night, I'd say around 12:30-1 AM was when it got packed. It was so loud in there that I couldn't talk to anybody, let alone any girls.

While everyone else was dancing on the dance floor, I opted out. Dancing is not my thing. =P

By the end of the night, I was exhausted and got back home. Even though the club wasn't the type of thing I was interested in, I'm glad I went to at least try it out for once. I'm going to stick to the bars and other places where you can socialize easier.

A few weeks later, while looking online on OkCupid, I saw this really cute girl that lives near my college. In the past I haven't had much success with getting a reply from a girl I contacted via these online dating sites, but I figured, "I'm not going to lose anything" so I decided to hit her up with a "Hey, you look really familiar, have I seen you around before?" And Honestly, I really thought I had saw her on my college campus one time.

Well, she replied, and said (pretty much) maybe, and I told her about how I go to the college. She later tells me that she also goes there too!

The next day or two I saw her online and she had her IM chat on. I decided to hit her up with a message, and we began talking to each other about different things. Minutes later, I told her I had to go do something, and she had to go to a meeting too. To my surprise, she gave me her number so I could text her later. So I sent her a text so we can continue talking.

The only downside was that she was moving back to where she originally lives, since it's the summer time. However, she did tell me that she will be on campus during the summer semester taking classes, so I am definitely going to ask her out/meet up one of those days.

The one thing that kinda confuses me was how she described why she chose to get on OkCupid.

"I don't really have a relationship with my boyfriend anymore."

And when I eventually added her on Facebook, she still has her relationship status set to "in a relationship." I don't know if that means she's not seeing him anymore, or if they're keeping the relationship open. I'm not too sure how to follow up on this or ask her more about it. Any advice?

"I don't really have a relationship with my boyfriend anymore." xXAXXAx

Another good journal, inspiring stuff man. keep going, its incredible how much you have already gone out of your comfort zone. Hows the weight loss going?