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that makes a lot of sense, thanks for the insight. Intuitively I understand that too much humor one on one can be bad. But what about in a group setting, do the same rules apply? In order to display value, should only minimal humor be used and subsequently interesting stories and viewpoints. Or is it fine to joke around a little more? For instance, I often make jokes that make everyone laugh (no dirty jokes), but if I have an unlimited supply of jokes (I rely on situational humor), should I rifle off my artillery or keep it minimal? Granted I do not parade around like a jester, I just like to have a good time. I just feel like when I do that the hotter girls see this as not alpha, but instead just a funny guy (not attracted).
To me, it sounds like you're worrying too much about "displaying value" and keeping people interested in YOU, rather than turning the focus to THEM. Your use of humour, whilst initially getting people to react favourably, is actually ending up pushing them away - everything is some joke, and they have no idea about who you actually are, nor are you bothering to take the time to find out anything about them.
Your model interaction should be
OPEN whole group (you can be funny)
Find out your logistical info about them (how they know each other, who's single, etc.) - you can still be funny doing this
PICK your target - talk to her, and just be normal - find out shit about who SHE is. She's already interested in you, and may ask questions about you. You can give her the old "I'm a drugdealer / disposable lighter repairman" jokes a few times, but then just be serious and actually tell her a bit about yourself, and transition that into talking about who she is and what's up with her
-> "borrow her" from the group, isolate, comfort, kino plough, etc. No more jokes. You gonna crack a funny one right before you stick your dick in her?
I think not
