| Name: Psychx
Setting: Dunkin Donuts (Coffee Shop & Lounge)
Game: Day Game
Set: 2 Set
Achievement: Double Number-close
So this is my first field report and I'm quite satisfied to be posting this. Today on my way home from school I stopped by the local Dunkin Donuts to get some juice and sit down to read a bit. When I walked in I noticed that there were two HBAs--one being a 4 and the other being a 7.5, obviously the 7.5 was my target.
So once I purchased my coffee I went over and sat down on one of the empty sofas next to the two girls that were talking. After taking a moment to act like I was reading a text message off my phone I gave a sigh and then used the jealous girlfriend opener. The sigh really made it look genuine when I asked "can I get both of your perspective on something?" The opener was a major success! The opener led me to apply a little bit of compliments that I would only keep applying after negging a bit. The conversation went smoothly as I appeared relaxed in my chair as if I was in the most comfortable position of my life enjoying a coffee. I should note, the jealous girlfriend opener is really my favorite opener and has been nothing but successful for me! I just finally have felt obligated to write a field report after the three other successes I had with it.
As I was talking, opening both girls in the set, I was able to entice them to debate/talk more about dating views to bring them to a different mentality by stating "I told my friend Warren the same thing, I could tell that you were both a lot more reasonable than his crazy girlfriend is (first compliment). That immediately followed by them jumping on the drama train--explicating how my friend is a door mat and boring. I fed off this by expressing my further (pretend) dialogue that I had with my "friend" Warren, in such a way where my own dating views would be conveyed without being pushy. I stated "ya honestly I told my friend Warren that he is giving up too much for this girl and he is demonstrating a low sense of value to her. He tells me how he does everything for her and he is like basically at her feet all the time. I told him that women value diamonds and gold so much not because of their functional value; rather, girls like diamonds and gold so much because of their 'exchange' value. How do you expect a girl or anyone to value you if you yourself are of little worth? Even though a broom is functional we cast it aside into a closet out of sight once we're done using it. Looks are O.K. and all Warren, but this girl isn't really anything but a burden for someone like yourself." This really hit home with the two HBAs. They immediately agreed with everything I said almost as if I just read their minds. I then stated "I thought you would both agree since you seemed sensible. Warren's girlfriend is only 'looks,' and I think that is why he is so obsessed with her and can't see pass her materialistic personality. Like what do both of you have going for you besides your looks? (Second Compliment)" This question was a great way for to have them start qualifying themselves to me. They started talking to me about themselves--what they value, want out of life, goals, friends, social life, families, jobs, etc.
I veered the conversation at this point and I looked at them both almost as if I had a little bit more certainty than before. I said "you honestly can tell a lot about a person by their goals and values." They then asked me "what do you mean?" I answered, "In fact most people don't understand too much about a person even when they hear these things. People today often alienate themselves from any real conversation with always pulling out their phones and texting while next to someone they could be having a great conversation with (first neg--my target was texting earlier at one point in our conversation). Even more so, people today are conditioned to enter conversations while walking on egg shells; they act in such a way where they think they are being polite, but really all they're doing is avoiding any 'real' or 'interesting' conversation. I can't tell you how many times I get bored and agitated by people who just walk up to me and ask 'How are you doing?' I always reply with the same comment, 'well' and then they start to job interview me! They ask me what I do for a living, do I come to the place often, etc. Before I know it, I'm thinking of ways to end the conversation. I always get a sense for what people value, because people typically value what they know a lot about. My friend Warren values cars more than anything else and it shows because he knows so much about them. All people value something." The target then asked me "what is it that you value and know a lot about?" I turned to her and acted like I was about to answer her, then I focused my eyes towards her cheek as if I needed to get a closer look. I then reached my hand towards her face and acted like I was pulling a piece of dirt off her, and then acted like I was flicking what I pulled off to the floor (second neg). I then leaned back again, she leaned in a bit (first IOI), and then answered her question by saying "I honestly value conversation a lot, and I know a lot about people." I could tell with my answer I had them extremely intrigued by my sense of value and knowledge. They clearly wanted me to explicate what I meant, but I took my coffee, closed my eyes, took a slow sip, and waited for them to ask me "how can you know a lot about people?" or "what do you mean?" or something along those lines. Fortunately the target's friend asked "That's cool how important you think 'real' conversation is. But what do you mean about how you 'know' so much about people?" I put my coffee down and I looked at the target's friend and said "let me show you something." I then turned my head towards the target and said "come over here and I'll demonstrate."
What was great about the body placement was that the target's friend was between the target and I. I should note, this placement was strategically done on purpose from the very beginning when I sat down. The target then responded by saying "where would you like me to sit?" There was a couch to my right and a coffee table directly in front of me. However, if I had the target sit on the couch, then my back would be facing her friend (big no no). So I responded to the target by saying "right here on the coffee table." Sure enough she got up and placed herself on the hard uncomfortable coffee table. This made her stick out awkwardly to everyone in the coffee shop (third neg). I then asked her to place her hands on mine (kino), and then I began to move my hands down to see if I could feel resistance on her part (detection of comfort level), there was no resistance. I then did the "cube routine." I'm assuming you all know what that is.
The target and her friend were in absolute shock about the whole thing and how surprised I was able to depict her personality with just the questions I asked her. For those who don't know, by the time you do the "what's your cube" routine, you should be deep into conversation, this will allow you to observe the information you need to do this routine correctly.
I had them both eating at the palm of my hand at that point and I could tell they were both about to feast on what else I could possibly show them. I then turned my back toward the target and faced her friend (fifth neg) and said "let me analyze your hand writing." "Write down a sentence--any length and words of your choosing. Just let me pull out a piece of paper and pen from my backpack here." I then pulled a pocket watch out of my bag to act as if I was checking the time quickly (this was important as I didn't make any time constraint in the beginning of the conversation, which was intentional.). I then changed my voice to a more surprised tone when I immediately said subsequent checking the time, "Oh, I'm sorry, I didn't realize the time. I really have to get going, but it would be great to get coffee with you both when I have more time to talk. How about you give me your numbers and I'll call you sometime." They both immediately gave the "awwwww." Then the target looked at me and said "you are so interesting, I never met anyone who knew so much about me in a five minute conversation." I then smiled and said "well I didn't show you as much as I could have given more time, but you're kind (3rd compliment) and you're not too hard to figure out (6th neg)." She then looked somewhat embarrassed and immediately defended herself--she said "well there is still 'a lot' about me you don't know yet......ummmm next time we see each other and get coffee you'll see how unique and interesting I am. Here is my phone number." I pulled out my cell phone to record the number, I purposefully took a lot of time doing this while maintaining the composure that I was comfortable and relaxed. When she asked "ready?" I said "woh, give me a second here. Are you normally this impatient?" She then said "sorry I didn't mean to come off as rude." I smiled and said "don't worry about it, just try and relax more. Now I'm ready, what's the number?" After I recorded the number (by the way I still don't have their names yet, as I planned to use this as the final neg.) I turned towards the target's friend and said "can I get your number as well?" Her friend smiled and said "of course!" as if she was waiting her whole life for me to ask her. I prepared myself much quicker this time and said "ready!" Subsequent her telling me the number, I quickly said "I didn't catch your name yet." Me saying this demonstrated a lower sense of value on so many levels to my target--displaying an unconscious lack of interest that I had towards her, that would appear consciously to her. In such, by all the negs and display of disinterest the target grabbed my shoulder (IOI), leaned in (IOI), stroked the edge of her hair (IOI), and told me her name too (Debatable an IOI). I then stood up and put my jacket on, turned to them both and said "(announcing both of their names, the target's second.) you both enjoy the rest of your afternoon alright." I then turned to the target as if she caught my attention and said "I like that sweater by the way (4th compliment)." and then walked off.
I honestly can't say if I will end up calling them or not. Sure I was attracted to the target, but gaming for me goes beyond picking up girls. I really did learn a lot about her personality and I can't say I'm too interested. Who knows though.....
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Last edited by psychx on Tue Feb 15, 2011 8:04 pm, edited 3 times in total.
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