DAY 18: dealing with the friend zone.
Loving to play the game.
Hey guys, I'll keep it short for your comfort. This afternoon I met with the HB7,5 I used to be in love with when i was 16 (DAY 14
5-vt81510.html?postdays=0&postorder=asc&start=60 ) . We had a drink together.
The friend zone.
I've seen a really good video about the friend zone that was posted by Hobbit
get-out-of-friend-zone-afc-adam-vt60130.html It really helped me since I understood that the friend zone is all about comfort and the player zone was all about teasing. Basically, if you want a relationship with the girl, you need to find a balance between teasing and building comfort.
Here's what I've understood from AFC Adam's video:
FRIEND ZONE: you've built comfort but there's no attraction.
PLAYER ZONE: you've built attraction but no comfort.
RELATIONSHIP: you've found a balance between comfort and attraction.
My goals.
I'm clearly in the FRIEND ZONE, she is enough comfortable with me. So my goal was to build attraction today. Correct me if I'm wrong but
attraction comes from giving attention at one moment, and being totally indifferent the next minute. Knowing that, here are the points I wanted to focus on:
- KINO: KINOing when she gives me what I want, stopping when not.
- Push/Pull: building rapport vs. breakin rapport, negs...
- Eye contact: maintain vs. breaking
In field.
Once again, I'm not writing everything... Don't want to make it boring for you guys. So here's the key points.
LAST DRINK.
The last time we saw each other (DAY 14
5-vt81510.html?postdays=0&postorder=asc&start=60 ) I wanted to create attraction too.
I KINOed her a lot and showed me some great IOIs. We also spoke a lot about her boyfriend being too much of a nice guy (and how that was a problem).
MY RULES.
She offered me to drive me to the mall. I refused and told her I would meet her directly there (short text messages). That might sound stupid... but having her coming to get me looks like a DLV to me. I was 5 minutes late when I got at the rendez-vous point.
ME PLAYING GAME.
I was relaxed and alpha. I was social with the cashier and even with a guy in the restrooms. I sat comfortably (leaned back) at the café and was clearly enjoying myself.
The push/pull thing was awesome. We sat and started to speak. I tried to give her attention when that was interesting (KINO, eye contact, ...) and be totally indifferent the next minute. That actually
worked well. I've even interrupted her several times when the conversation was not interesting to me (asking something about the shoes of another girl in the café, going to the toilets, playing with my phone). Every time I pushed her, she came back to me and try to grab my attention.
DISMISSING HER BOYFRIEND.
Last time we saw, we spoke about her boyfriend being a nice guy, how it was a problem and how she should speak to him (her idea as a result of our conversation). I was really surprised but she actually spoke to him and got confused. Indeed, last time I asked her if she was in an exclusive relationship before talking about her too nice boyfriend. She spoke about that with him, probably got confused and told him she might want a non-exclusive relationship! The guy is such a nice guy that he had not even been mad about it. lol. Anyway, she did not manage to let him know what it was all about: she needs him to stop to be the nice guy he is.
She's even congratulated me on understanding that being a nice guy kills attraction.
GETTING IOIs:
She gave me a bunch of IOIs:
- Let me KINO her as hell: bottom of her back, her hands, her knees, her shoulders...
- She KINOed me back: on my hands
- She touched her hair.
- She leaned in to speak with me.
- She tried to know if I was single: she misunderstood something I said and asked me "you're seeing someone?".
- ...
BUILDING SEXUAL TENSION.
I tried to buid a sexual tension by making her imagine us having sex.
ME: *talking about 16yo teens that fuck during holiday camps (she used to do that as a summer job)* We were not like that back in the days... There was nothing like that when I was 16...
HB7,5: ahahaha *laughing*
ME: Oh, we knew each other at that time... You were not into that at that age too... nothing happened, especially between the two of us. (really bad translation from French, sorry)
HB7,5: ahaha.
THE FRAGRANCE EPISODE.
After our drink, she wanted to go to Sephora so I went with her (I've not accepted it right away). She started to check women's fragrance and I negged her on the on she likes and showed her the fragrance I loved: Viktor & Rolph's Flower Bomb. I told her that this perfume turns me on and she actually put some of it in her neck. Isn't that a damn IOI? Later in the car:
ME: It smells damn good in your car. That's the fragrance I've showed you. I love that fragrance.
HB7,5: Yeah... I'm kinda embarassed though.
ME: Embarassed... why?
HB7,5: ... (30 seconds looking at her while she was driving)
ME: I've asked why are you embarassed ... I guess you've not heard it.
HB7,5: ... I heard it, I was pretending not to...
ME: Oh you're that embarassed... You should turn right.
She was going in the wrong direction so the conversation ended here.
RECEIVING A TEXT MESSAGE.
30 minutes after being home, she sent me:
Quote:
Mmmm. I smell good! It was a nice afternoon. See you.
Of course I am not answering.
How I feel.
F**king good! It feels good to be in control, to be a man, to attract. Plus, the incredible HB9 has accepted my friend request on Facebook.
What I've learned.
- The
push/pull technique is awesome: giving attention and being indifferent right after is really powerful.
- It's
easy to lose a girlfriend when you're AFC: she dismissed so much her boyfriend. I would have never tolerated that from my ex-girlfriend.
- I
love playing.
CHAT
. 
