I have been seeing this girl for a month, i took her out to the movies but i didn't pull the trigger because i just want to make her feel comfortable. I also took her to a party but also nothing happened, and i took her out tonight to have coffee. However she told me that she wants to take things slow because shes not sure about her feelings just yet and she doesn't want to hurt me at the end. I responded saying"yeah we gotta take things slow". Do you think thats a shit test ? what would you do if your in my position?

haha what would i have done in your position? i would have manned up and kissed her the first time i took her out and told her that thats all she's getting because i dont fuck on first dates lol...

dont let her get too comfortable because then you'll fall into the friends zone...(thats if you're not already in it!)

i think that if a girl says that she wants to take things slow because she's unsure about her feelings and she doesnt want to hurt you pretty much means she doesnt see you as a potential bf... its like if a guy says to a girl "im not looking for a relationship right now i just want to have fun" it pretty much translates to "yes i want to fuck you... but you're not relationship material"

if this girl said that to you then obviously you're not wow'ing her enough...

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"dont let her get too comfortable because then you'll fall into the friends zone...(thats if you're not already in it)!"

she told me that she likes me, and her friend verified that too...do you think its a shit test? or does she actually need some time to think about it?

if you wow'd her enough then she wouldnt need this "time to think"... she'd be head over heels eating out of your palm...

its your game that needs to improve... i think she's just saying shit like "i need time to think" because she's not 100% sure on you... i have no idea if its a shit test or not because i dont know what she's like around you... maybe another idea is to not message her or call her for a while and see if she initiates the conversation... if she does tell her you've been busy... if she re-initiates the conversation then i'd take that as an IOI...

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A wise man once told me
"Bros before hoes, unless hoes have no clothes!"

I agree with you. I asked her if she wants to go to the movies on tuesday, and shes like "yeah sure"...do you think i should pull the trigger there? or should i actually respect the fact that she need time to think about it? and how would you initiate the Kino if your at the movies?

by pull the trigger you mean kiss her????

ok well its only a kiss lol... it sounds like you're nervous about kissing her?
hmmm ok well start the kino as soon as you meet up with her... get her used to you touching her... whether it be accidental or deliberate... i.e you "accidentally" leaning your leg against hers or deliberately touching her on the lower back to lead her in the right direction... you want her to feel comfortable when you touch her because it sets the foundations for later...

and hmmm as for the kiss... you're going to have to be the judge for that... watch her body language... if you think she wants to be kissed then go for it... if she does the triangle gaze (looks at one eye, then the other and then your mouth) then its a good chance that she wants to kiss you... or while you're sitting next to her in the movies sort of start sniffing as if you smell something nice... then turn to her and grab a little bit of her hair and move your head towards her and smell the little bit of hair you have in your hand and tell her that her hair smells really nice... just play around with her lol... tease her enough and she'll come chasing you

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A wise man once told me
"Bros before hoes, unless hoes have no clothes!"

I was talking to her today, and she told me that shes scared of getting hurt or making the wrong decision. So i think i should work more on attraction? what would you text her if your in my situation?

i think you are dangerously close to the friend zone if you are not already in it!

taking her to the movies is very afc, i havnt taken a girl to the movies since i was a teenager and im 24. its predictable, its what guys do. dare to be dfferent. you have already taken her to the movies and you got fuck all m8.

'if you always do what you've always done, you'll always get what you've always got'

why nt take her somewhere different?

also, you have to kiss this girl v soon (next time you see her) or you are going to be that sweet guy friend that takes her places and entertains her and pays for stuff while another guy fucks her a couple of times a week. want that? didnt think so. she may have already put you in the friend box, i dont know.

your going to have to game like hell, build as much attraction as you can (do you know how?) then doing the hair smelling kiss close detailed by previous poster is as good as any.

good luck pal

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