So I went to a party bonfire night, where my local pub and another pub from the same area joined forces to have a fireworks party at someone house.

I haven't been working on my game very long so thought this was a perfect opportunity. I floated around the house a fair bit introduced myself to many new people, guys and girls and all seemed to go pretty well. I met a few girls some who had boyfriends there, who I wasn't really interested in anyway and a couple who didn't. I met this one girl though and we seemed to hit it off pretty well.

I normally tease and neg girls anyway but this time I was more aware of what I was doing, I was less drunk too, deliberatly. After chatting to this girl for about 15minutes I moved on as I thought it be best rather than stick around working her all night. We bumped into eachother at several different parts of the night and had some great rapport.

Towards the end of the night it was just me and her sat pretty close to eachother talking about all sorts of stuff etc, and then a few of my friedns came in a clocked us - one of the girls took her away to find out if she was single (much to my annoyance - nothing wrose than someone else trying to play match maker) and I'm pretty sure it was screamingly obvious that everyone there was waiting for the 2 of to hook up - which of course we didnt. ANYWAY later that night it turned out the people she was staying with let her down and I offered to put her up for night and she agreed. We walked home still quite flirty with eachother and by this point I thought it could go either way.

I'll cut all the other bullshit out not but basically she ended up staying on my spare matress on the floor (I'm now aware that im dangerously close to the FZ) so I teased about her getting in with me, but nothing came of it, we spent another hour or so talking and this whole time we were playing with eachothers hands and stroking eachothers forearms (I'm on the bed, shes on the floor). We eventually agree its late and we need sleep.

The next morning she gets a call from a girl mate who shes meant to be meeting later on, I asked her if she fancied going for breakfast before and and she seemed really keen to do so, it may sound odd but the way she nodded to say she'd like to come for breakfast seemed really sweet like she was thinking it would be really nice to....maybe im looking into that too much >

So we went and had breakfast at nice little cafe and I kept up with kino, stroking her hand, rubbing her back etc where i could and, we departed with a hug and a kiss on the cheek.

So that was last saturday, and we've been texting eachother now and again, and now I don't really know where I stand, the texts dont seem flirty, fun but not flirty and she takes FOREVER to reply - last sunday she said she'd met up with me for drinks, dinner and some live music but all this week she takes hours sometimes days to text back. I need to try and keep the flirt on and to try and encourage her not to flake - i text her earlier to check if she was till free (5 hours ago) and still heard nothing. What do you guys think? I actually really like this girl so far, and thats rare as i can be quite fussy, is she deliberatly not replying to not seem keen or taking her time to ensure we're just friends - I'd love to hear what you guys think.
RTH

Well it's been about 24hours since I text her and still nothing - we're meant to be meeting the day after tomorrow... Outlook does not look good. I won't text her again obviosuly unti lI hear from her - as well as the general stuff I've asked about - do you think I should call her tomorrow or something - that way there's an instant response rather than waiting on a text - or will that look desperate?

It sounds like she's into you dude. It also sounds like you could have got some having her stay at your place... but with the breakfast the following morning and the kiss on the cheek, she probably thinks you were being a gentleman not taking advantage of her situation with nowhere to sleep. And also, the best relationships never start with a girl you get with the first night you meet her! But it all depends what your looking for I guess. Make a low pressure meet up next time you see her. What I do when a girl flakes or doesn't really respond to something (like your dinner and music) is totally forget it and ask her out to something else. Don't even mention it if its been a day or two. Also try not to plan too far out. My 2 cents.

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Well that explains it. Just got this text "hey, the Guy I'm kinda seeing dismissed like that we were texting each other so I can't see you tonight, but see you in the pub sometime" how fucking annoying. A) if its a Guy she's kinda seeing what's the problemand b) what's the problem with meeting up with a Guy when you're seeing someone anyway. Do I tell her this? I certainly want her to know my frustration. She could have said when I asked her last week.

My take on the situation:

move on to the next one. I wouldn't mention anything about your frustrations: while it might help clear your mind, it won't benefit the situation. My advice, drop it for now and don't text her. She's established that she's seeing someone else semi-exclusively.

Just keep doing your thing and if you see her at the pub again, walk by her almost completely with one brow furrowed, turn your head slightly and just say "you seem familiar" as if you can't quite place her. It's a strong neg. She'll definitely feel as though you should remember her (anybody would lol). Just that on it's own should break her confidence enough that she seeks validation from you. From there have a fun rapport-building night again, but on your own terms. It's important to regain control of the frame of the interaction.

It just sounds to me as though the passiveness of the first interaction left her feeling like she was playing on her own terms.

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My take on the situation:

move on to the next one. I wouldn't mention anything about your frustrations: while it might help clear your mind, it won't benefit the situation. My advice, drop it for now and don't text her. She's established that she's seeing someone else semi-exclusively.

Just keep doing your thing and if you see her at the pub again, walk by her almost completely with one brow furrowed, turn your head slightly and just say "you seem familiar" as if you can't quite place her. It's a strong neg. She'll definitely feel as though you should remember her (anybody would lol). Just that on it's own should break her confidence enough that she seeks validation from you. From there have a fun rapport-building night again, but on your own terms. It's important to regain control of the frame of the interaction.

It just sounds to me as though the passiveness of the first interaction left her feeling like she was playing on her own terms.

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