Long story short, new(ish) girl at job who I'm potentially quite interested in.

I'd love to make a move but I can't come up with anything to say, not even a regular conversation.

Would having regular small-talky conversations kill any chance?

But my main question is what is the first and foremost move I should do in my situation.

Any links, ideas, help would be greatly appreciated.

I'd also like to note that this doesn't count for this situation. My biggest road block is that I have absolutley no idea what to talk about or how to hold a conversation. I have tried many times (to wing it as many people would say) and I end up just end up being like... hello... hows it going, nothing much etc.

All openers usually start as a question and end as an answer and that's it.

I don't know if anyone else has faced that problem but if anyone has and has suggestions that would be amazing.

I would like to ask her to lunch or something, but our work schedules are spaced quite differently, and being that I haven't spoken to her much at all asking to lunch would seem a bit premature?

bad news: noone can teach you how to hold a conversation

good news: body language is more important than what actually comes out of your mouth... nothing wrong with small talk... not every guy that picks up a girl is the most interesting person in the world, so don't put too much pressure on yourself...

maybe joke around about how she's new and she should be sucking up to you due to your seniority (i dont know what kind of job it is), then just let her know how things run at the workplace. Then you can switch topics and begin to ask her about herself... only you can help yourself from that point on

It is retail. We are both in different departments, and I am technically newer than her since I quit and rejoined, etc.

Do you have any links to some good body language threads or any suggestions?

Unfortunately the conversation is the biggest part that prevents me. What do most people talk about? Someone has to know because most people talk lots!

Any other suggestions of things to joke around about..?

there's tons of good links on body language and NLP... im not gonna search for them but im sure you'll find some good ones if you look hard enough (theyll either be pinned or have lots of responses, generally)

asking questions about herself is always a good idea... girls love to talk about themselves, and before they know it, they've opened up to you and feel comfortable... throwing in a story here and there after some of her responses is smart, cause it shows your listening and you're relating to her personal experiences which is powerful... id let her do most of the talking, though

Ok, so good news: I ended up talking with her lots today, lunch with her in the break room, etc, it's looking like there's possible interest, but of course not for sure.

One thing in my way is I suspect a co worker getting his game on the same person increasingly quick. I feel like I need to step up right away or I'll miss the boat.

Now I know PUA stuff is mostly for people you don't know initially, but there is so much good content here there must be a way to apply it to my situation.

At this point in time, should I try to dive into a 'stage'? what would be the most effective stage to go into to "move ahead" faster,

Thanks alot for all responses

Ok I want to take your post out of context to give you some perspective. Lets say for fun you are a guy who is sexually premature.

So what?

I know there are a lot of guys who would make fun of you. I wouldn't. Did you know that most healthy relationships consider sex as a bounus? Did you know that most healthy relationships are based on commonalities?

She is probably guarded up against you because you have the wrong set of mind. That's probably why you can't talk to her. It has nothing to do with what you say, but how you say it.

Sure you can learn these line, but your not in a bar. You are at work. The lines will only make you seem creepy. Work girls don't want their co-workers hitting on them.

My advice to you. Make her your friend. If you don't get any then oh well. The more reliant you are on sex them more creepy you will come off.

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