you know, for years i have been obsessed with the structured game.. and I still mostly do structured gaming, but the thing is.. when I feel alpha, in my core, I don't fail with anything.

I found that it is not about DHVing your alphaness, if you deep down feel like you are actually an alpha, it will show automatically.

two days ago, i was in a shitty mood, but my friend just got married and i went to his wedding. it was a big ass party and i felt like shit + I didn't sleep the night before. still, I dressed my best, and everything was up to code.

I decided that at his wedding I will not PU any girl, and just be there for him and leave..
incidentally in his wedding there was a girl that I had just met a week ago that i had no idea that's coming. evidentially she was a friend of the bride's sister.
I felt like i had to do something! so I went up to her feeling all shitty (so knowing this I came insecure), I had been blown off by that girl even though a week ago she was totally in to me, and was supposed to go with me to a party this weekend(which now she will probably cancel). and.. that is to show that feeling shitty will show and will ruin your game.

on the other hand. today, i had just did eye surgery and my eye was patched up, plus, me and a friend played football and i was dirty with mud, sweating like hell, and smelling terrible !
I met a girl looking and smelling like that. I felt alpha and acted alpha, and I got her hooked real bad! so..

I think this was my epiphany moment about how much the inner game matters!!

so people! love your selves! be your own best friends and your own best lovers!
It really does change the outcome of the game!!!


Good luck people!!

Mike.

There is no doubt that inner game(your belief systems and how you feel about yourself and about girls) matters.

The only thing is that in order to change your inner game or improve it you have to take action.

I actually talk about this quite a lot, both in my special report and in my blog. You can check the last article about confidence http://www.puacottage.com/302/do-balls-grow-on-tree

There is a link between the way you feel and your sub-communication (voice tonality, eye contacy, body language..). What girl feel is your sub-communication.

Basically there are two ways to get them:
1). State control - being able to feel alpha confident guy.
2). Training your body using, like in karate, for specific sub-communication.

I am not even going to say which of them is easier.

s-man
PuaCottage - www.puacottage.com

_________________
Accelerate PickUp Learning Curve -
www.puacottage.com

Facebook http://www.facebook.com/sman.pua

Twitter http://twitter.com/sman_pua

www . puacottage . com

Is there any tips for improving inner game. Such as ways to make yourself feel alpha before you are going out, or something along those lines?

Build up your confidence! Whether you recount past conquests, look at yourself in the mirror for 20 minutes, gloat in front of your tuned civic... Once you've got that, you should be good. Maybe listen to some music that puts you in a good mood, chat with good/fun girl friend, or open a few meaningless strangers once you're out. What works for you really depends on your personality. I was chatting all day with a HB who #ced me the night before. I had no interest in her but she had game and totally put me on top of my game even before I went out.

No shit Sherlock

_________________
Optimistic?

Thanks man, i'll definitely use this. i went to a party last night, and things were going pretty good, but it started going downhill once this HB10 blew me off and i lost my frame, hopefully next time i won't lose it.

Saying stuff to yourself is also known as affirmations. It requires you to do a lot of repetitions on daily basis, 2 or 3 times a day.

You have to make sure you are saying the right things.

Eventually, this is not as powerful as going out and doing things.

You can say to yourself you're strong 1000 time. Whenever, you go out and try to push heavy weight it won't help much. It might get you to the state where you try to push it, but eventually you gotta work out your muscles.

Learning pickup and Street fight is no different. You can say you are confident and know stuff but when you get the hit it hurts. The more hits you'll get the more resistance you will develop to it. The more you won't give a fuck, the more confident you'll become.

The fastest way I know of gaining confidence is getting hits. You have to start by getting small hits, less painful. When they become not painful at all you go and stretch your comfort zone.

Field time is the way to go!

s-man!
PuaCottage - www.puacottage.com

_________________
Accelerate PickUp Learning Curve -
www.puacottage.com

Facebook http://www.facebook.com/sman.pua

Twitter http://twitter.com/sman_pua

www . puacottage . com

sman is right. The more you approach, the more you realize that rejection means nothing. If you get blown off, figure out what you did wrong, sometimes nothing, and do it better next time. Learning by doing is the way for dealing with AA and rejection.

I have been studying the MM system for sometime, and instead of ever going up to a girl, I keep telling myself I don't have enough material yet.

I just read 60yearofchallange's material, now I am totally confused too all hell.

The more and more I get into this, the more I think it has nothing to do with any of this crap, it's more about your inner game, and just making approaches in general.

I am sure the material does help, but it's all your inner game first and foremost.