agreed. take appropriate time to get over her and then go out and party like a rockstar.
I didnt bother to read how great she is bc a good number of ppl here including myself were drawn to this place as a fix to the issue that you have.
Eventually we un-oneitis ourselves and then learn game how its supposed to be, and not with the motive of if I get good enough I'll be able to get her/get her back bc you wont get her if u go to out to learn with that mentality

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i'm not putting all of my time, money and hope on this girl. although i would if i had a 50 % shot of getting her back. (i know i'm a dumbass:d)

i realize there are other girls in the world. with great personality's, maybe even better. and more fitting for me.
then why the fuck is it so damn hard to get over this girl? why is it so damn hard to fuck an other girl and be able to say to myself i enjoyed it and liked it. why do i regret a hot night with hb 8-9's for 1 girl? when i go out i'm the king of the club. ( really i am:d ;) ) i'm 100 % social proof. i can have quality girls all the time. and still i don't give a shit about them. and just want my ex back? why? is there any solution for this fucked up thing? i believe i tried the pua way to get over one itis. and it just doesn't work. :s i can hang out with 100 girls and none give me satisfaction enuff. how do i deal with this?

Yes, there is a solution. You are addicted to her. How do you cure an addiction? Think about that. As I said in my thread about oneitis, you can't just get over a girl by just gaming girls, it takes more than that. And you should be willing to get over her.

Secondly, I think you are too negative. First you put her above you and think she's perfect, and then you go out. I dare to say that before you even enter the club your limited beliefs already told you that you can't find satisfaction in other girls, and that the other girls are not that special. Finaly, when you meet them, you'll always proof your beliefs"see? I just can't find satisfaction in other girls. They are just not that special as her."
But if you turn more positive, and open yourself for other people, you will see that there are many other special girls, with their own special talents, opinions, experiences, ideas, great smiles, ... Then you won't just game girls for the sex and the fun of it, you will seriously want to meet new people because you want to hear their stories. You want to enrich your world.

And Finaly, are you sure you are just able to game everyone? That you are 100% social proof? She clearly broke up with you because you did something wrong. It is possible that you were needy on one way or an other. That's why I think that you are not the player what you like to think of yourself. I also think you got some confidence issues.

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super.

in that case i did a verry good job today:d
i was at my local youth centrum. saying hi to some friends of me. my esx was there also. i ignored my ex for 90%. she asked me to do some things. she asked if i had a lighter, if i could hand her some objects over. those were the only things were i said someting to her, or didn't ignore her.

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it wasn't like i did everyting she asked. i was helping because this weekend the youthcentrum is trowing a party. so it wasn't like i behaved like a puppy to her:d i did stuff for all my friends who asked help.

ok i will try to engage people tonight with that mindset. how do you get in that mindset? hmm anyway i'll try:d and that's the beginning of succes.

i'm not claiming to be the best player. i'm 100 % sure i'm not:d
but it's just its a club were i almost know everybody of the staff. the boss, bouncers, barpeople. name it. i know the dj's, know aloth of people who come there often. i almost always get some free drinks of the house. and those things give a aloth of social proof. ( don't get me wrong, i had to work to get this:d it took me over a year to get this kind of social proof:d) it makes it aloth easier to open sets i discovered. plus aloth of the people i know bring up there friends to me. witch makes it verry easy for me. i don't even have to do cold approaches:d

i'm not having trouble with my ego:d haha:d just trying to bring myself in a verry confident state. so i blow it up a little, wich makes it easier. and ok i really believe i can have quality girls. not all of them. but more than enuff. i'm not trying to be ego with this but i know i can so i wondered. a

nd i do know i made mistakes with my ex. the biggest was that i dumped her and didn't show any interest in making things up. when i wanted her back it was to late. and i was totaly needy and shit. witch is my stupid mistake :s so i'm trying to fix this.