Alright, I don't claim to be any sort of guru, but I do have answers for a lot of the questions you have. I'm going to give you my standard massively overwritten, in-depth replies, but only if your questions are thought out, you have searched for the answers, I can understand what you are saying (that means grammar, spelling, punctuation and no fucking ebonics). Also, if your post is going to be a big story, then don't post it here, because I get bored by those and usually don't finish them.

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Thanks for the help, but
this is the only question
that I have:

I'm a big fan of hitting the mall. Malls are great places to go that you don't need to worry about age, there are tons of people around, so its not so private that she might feel intimidated, but even though you are surrounded, its still as if you are alone, because no one else is going to be trying to interrupt your conversation typically. Malls also have lots of different stores, so it is like constantly bouncing and you get this feeling of having known eachother for a long time, plus you have tons of different things to look at and talk about to show how varied and interesting your personality is. My favorite is going into clothing stores and holding up random outfits and you can joke about how good that floral moo-moo looks on her (yeah, me and a girl went into a clothing store for like +12 women, it shows you don't care what people think and it can be a lot of fun to joke around with the person in the store if they have a sense of humour). Don't forget to stop bya store that sells those soaps with sparkles in them. Girls love to smell all those things in there and you can compare your tastes in smell and find something you both enjoy to bond over, but when you hold us some sparkly stuff for her to smell, then you rub it on her nose, or cheek playfully. Now you've got yourself a nice sparkle fight going on in the middle of the store and you have tons of kino going on, not to mention you can keep pointing out sparkles on eachother the rest of the day/night and touching.

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Wow, that's a FANTASTIC idea.
Thanks a lot for the tip!!

Alright, but one more question:
how can I ask her to go with me?

And I can't tell her "would you like
to go?" 'Cause Mystery says that
it's not a proper time bridge.

He says taht you need to act like
you have plans already and you're
just including her in them.

So I just need some way to say that
to her. And I don't want to go pick her
up, 'cause that'll be kinda weird for
her. She'll feel like it's a date. So I
just want her to meet me there. Any
suggestions?

"Meet me infront of [insert store] at [insert mall]. We're going shopping ."

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Wow, that might work, dude!

lol damn, thanks for the help
I really appreciate it .

Oh, and when should I use that?
Just in the middle of the conversation
or when?

Do I just randomly throw it in? lol

You can call her up and just say, "Hey what are you doing, RIGHT NOW?" and make her feel like you are doing something big and important, then you meet and just hang out. Or, you can just say, "Hey, got plans tomorrow afternoon?" Try not to plan things too far in advance, because it shows interest. Heck, first time I learned about this, I was meeting a girl I had been talking to on msn with for a bit, but had never met in person. I don't like having to rush to be ready or anything, but I said we should meet up at the mall, she said she could show up in about an hour or something, then told me to meet her infront of La Senza. I recommend against telling a girl to meet her in such an openly sexually oriented place, because it shows interest in having sex with her and you aren't trying to get that yet, but there is no reason that you can't go there after hitting several stores and especially if you did well with the sparkle bit, or something similar in another store (maybe whipped cream on the nose at a coffee shop). Girls love lingerie and if you've built a bit of sexual tension, then nothing will build it more than lingerie shopping (pick out things and hold them up to her, gives you a chance to put your hands on her hips when you hold up underwear, or close to, but not touching her breasts if you do bras and corsets and whatnot). Just make sure you keep the whole thing light, because you are playing around and entertaining eachother, but you don't want to be all "Hey baby, this corset will look great on you if we head home to my place tonight" unless of course you have a great opening to say it in a really C&F way.

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Lol that's very true.

Wow, thanks a lot, man.
I really appreciate it .

whats a good opinion opener for highschool?

Do you think there's an
age limit in difference
when it comes to dating?

'Cause I just saw a freshman
holding hands with a senior
that was held back twice.

This is what I posted in the "Fuck Opinion Openers" thread.
Basically, I don't think it matters where you are, there is always something you can talk to someone about, whether it be some item you are peacocking with (make sure you word these properly though, or you sound insecure and you don't want them to think you are seeking approval, just an honest opinion), or "Why the hell the vending machine never has any Skittles left in it? Is everyone in this school addicted? Because I have a theory that they're putting cocaine in those things"

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It comes down to several factors IMHO; how old the younger person and the older person are (this sounds stupid, but there are limits, I mean, a 12 year old shouldn't be with someone 4 years older, but a 16 year old might be ok with a 22 year old and same with people over certain ages), how mature both people involved are, how both party's peers feel. When I was 18 I was mature enough to be with girls in their late 30s even, but a lot of guys may not be mature enough for a girl their own age. Same goes for the girl; I'm 22 now and if I met a girl that was physically and mentally mature and turned out to be 17, I have no problem with that, 16 I have to think on it, but I've met girls that are 25 and act like they are in junior high and I wouldn't touch them. I'm not going to go with a girl even if she meets all those criteria and her parents refuse to let her see me and she has to sneak out, or her friends are being little twips, because that's not how I run my life and I won't be constrained by another person's peers and I won't fuck up a person's relationship with their parents just to get with her, unless there's a real connection.

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What do you think about texting?... I have had girls that I have exchanged numbers with and I call them and then they bombard me with texts and shit tests... how do you get away from this?

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What do i say to a girl that says she has a boyfriend and how do i get her to give me her number so that it doesn't seem like a blatant hit?

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I'd do the same thing as if I were in person and I was getting bombarded. I have had trouble with this myself, but someone (can't remember who due to excessive posting, sorry) told me I should just say something like, "Woah, woah, what's with all the questions? What is this an interigation?" You want to pass a few shit tests of course, just to show that you aren't an AFC and then you can let her know that you're tired of being grilled and that she needs to show some respect (much of this can be accomplished not through saying so, but by your body language, or if it is via text, you could just say, "I'm getting bored of all these questions, this isn't a one way street you know." or "I'm getting bored with all the questions, aren't you gonna tell me a little about yourself in return?"

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