what up people.

Allright I have a problem. Everytime I go out I always get checked out by a lot of girls, and I know damn well I'm good looking ...but the only problem is i never approach...I always bitch out...theres always an excuse like people are around or parents around. I always worry if people see me get rejected and I can never approach. ..girls always give me signals and I never approach..like what the fuck! i know about the 3 second rule but fuck give me some material I can say...not that I have a question bullshit..that shit is played out. I always usually say hey wats up want to dance or stupid shit like that....but fuck....help me out....like today there was this lebanese girl working and she was cool...i knew i could have gotten her number...but fuck...her parents where there and i bitched out...always an excuse....give me some tips or something...........I want to be natural...i don't really like the questions game....idk

no one can even tell you over the internet what to do but seriously you just have to say 'fuck it' and go for it.even the top Pua's dont get approach anxiety.... so if they dont get over it how will you? you just have to get a bit more comfortable with it....

dont worry we all know...its scary as fuck at first

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Its time for a change....a huge Mother@#$@# change!

first of all the 3 seconds rule must be your religion. you can never cross it or break it

secondly, i do reccomand you to just try as much as you can. i remember myself not long ago like, but i tried and got rejected again and again and every time i got better until it worked.
by trying you make yourself more experienced and skilled.
by the way it's ok to get rejected and its not bad as it looks like. you actually can analyze what mistakes you did and learn from it.
about te material. you can learn here and gather some openers and negs according to what you look for.


i hope i've helped you

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3pel

as trypel said, the 3 seconds rule is very important. not just for you to do something, but also so that the girl wont think your weird looking at her for so long without saying a word. another thing, i believe that you should enter the set and talk to everyone but your target. this way, she will eventually try to get you to notice her.
play the game. just go for it. you got rejected? dont worry about it. just move to the next set and start over. remember - its like a video game.

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Veni, vidi, vici

I had a kind of simular problem when I was younger, to break myself out of I used a ladder system I started with a 1 and did an approach. After her I went to a 2 an so on and so forth. Eventually I was completely confident approaching a 10.

also you can try to run group approaches. approach a 4 in the group and you have basically aproached the 7 in thier group (food for thought)

but ALWAYS go with the 3 second rule. It's put in place to stop you from thinking too much (which is what you're doing) memorize an opener that you're comfortable with, practice in front of a mirror, then go out, use the 3 second rule, control yourself, and recite what you memorized. might take you a few tries before you're fluid. but hey, it's a hurdle you have to get over.

-Lush

if it was me personally I'd go over straight away and ask something funny.
I came up with a good opener always works, it works because it's tried and tested. I've tested it in plenty of nights out sarging.

I called it the circus opener:
"Hey if you could join the circus what act would you be?"
Then say to them, "your not aloud to be the bearded lady though!"

Make sure you are looking full of confidence when you say this or there is just no point. Also make sure you have things to talk about which will make them laugh!! You got to be funny.

Thanks Finnly....

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My signature is the PHOTOGRAPHER. Not for the shy....

I usually don't approach women if they are with parents or in a group. I still haven't figured out a good way to do that.

But if a girl is alone and giving you signals its very easy. If you don't want to ask a question.. just walk up and say: "Hi, you're really cute.. whats your name?"

If thats too direct for you.. say: "Hi, I really like your style its very cute".

Still.. I've had the most success asking a question:

"Hi.. I'm trying to find a good pizza place. Do you know one around here?"

"Hi, where is the SPAM?"

"Hi.. you look like you're in good shape. Do you work out?"

"Hi, do you know if its going to rain today?"

"Hi, where did you buy that coffee?"

"Hi, when did you get this car? My friend just sold a car exactly like it."

"Hi, do you know what time it is?"


You get the idea.

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Women are smarter than you think... but not as smart as THEY think

Like most of guys said...you have to say fuck it! She's already checking you out so it's 90% failproof, just don't wierd her out. For starts, you can say...fuck it let's make this girl my new friend/make her laugh (or something like that...you know simple things, nothing too serious)

If she's checking you out you could pull out a badboy/CF classic like:"Jeez...stop looking at me so much, you'll ware me out" (in a playfull matter)

I also don't approach girls with parents, but I'm thinking of trying the following plan: Like in clubs where you first have to win the protective girl's heart by makeing her your friend (in order to get to the target) I'm thinking of flirting with her parent's first (ignoring the girl), especially if she has a hot mum But my game is not that tight jet...

It's called approach anxiety and everyone has it, even the so called 'good looking guys that get checked out by girls chillin with their parents kind of types'. You want us to provide you the key for the mysterious gateway of unlimited pussy? C'mon man...whats up with that?!?!
You don't believe in routines and yet you ask for material? Those routines were made so guys actually have something to say when talking to a girl. You'll get better at making up your own lines with practise. Not saying anything at all, however doesn't make you better.

My best advice for now is: get a good friend of yours, someone that won't laugh at you, and be honoust about your lack of 'game'. Tell him that he needs to motivate you to approach girls, so you actually DO approach. Unless you think you can overcome this anxiety yourself, which is alot harder.
A simple hi or hello would do, as long as you actually OPEN

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Optimistic?

And observe! You can use any little thing and make a universial talk around it.