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I have known this guy since middle school. back then i was an awkward afc, being shy around people while he was outgoing and sociable. when we hungout 2 years ago, his goal was to hookup with me, but i never gave in, only sexually teasing him which was NOT classy at all. I'd pressue him into asking me out, and he'd agree but then flake. I was seen as a tease and after he had a gf, he stopped talking to me and hanging out.
a year later after learning PU, and him being single, he asked me to hangout. we were with a group of people and learning about PU, i was more aware of how attracted he is to me or not. He was investing more than me, telling his DHV stories and kinoing, but with a guy who's so sociable, what do believe is the best way to attract him without him getting bored of me? I used the push pull and it seemed to work, but with kino, u can only go so far until you escalate and i want to hold off as long as i can. my goal is basically for him to ask me out and his throwing a party on friday. suggestions on what to do?
Can't leave this thread as it is. Ever wonder why some the World's best comedians are also owners of the World's saddest hearts? What I wrote earlier triggers a little bit of laughter because it is after all, pretty freakin' sad. I suppose the joke was my initial expression of my sadness.
To the guys reading this, I have a question: To you, what type of a girl is a keeper? What kind of girl would you actually consider marrying? This is what a girl wants from a guy she dates isn't it? She wants to be soooo attracted to that the guy would actually consider marrying her. She wants the guys to be there for her and if they split, she wants this to be her decision.
BBB, here's the honest problem. You're a fuck and chuck. Everything that you do makes your vagina the prize. There is nothing else. You offer it, you take it back, you tease with it . . . and you use it as your only bargaining chip. The problem this tactic creates is that unless you're a 10 and you're fucking skills are a 10, just about any guy will move on to the next girl once he's fucked you. And even if you are a 10/10, you'd just be a "fuck and chuck . . .
after several lays" Any guy who can score a 10 can and will score a 10 again, again, and again.
The newbie PU push/pull crap is trivial for your goals. All you're doing is controlling the time frame between "fuck and chuck now" vs. "fuck and chuck later". He's attracted to you? Really? Go out and flirt with ANY horny kid, physically suggesting that sex is a possibility and see if they are "attracted" to you.
Here's the "keeper's" version of a push/pull:
Pull: Looks and sex are a part of it but you already have an idea for this. The difference is that there are so many other exciting things going on in a keeper's life that sex is simply just a facet. She'll fuck when she wants to and she won't when she doesn't. She'll have passions in her life. . . Family, friends, career, hobbies, travel, ambitions, etc . . . Most guys here will be quick to suggest that none of this stuff matters. They'll suggest that all they want is a hot lay but, 1. Most guys here are desperate virgins. 2. They are not socialized to admit to being attracted to things other than sex. 3. These things often work under the radar. (Even though they are attracted to these things, they won't be able to identify them)
*I've also suggested that you stop hanging around here because the ideal girl for most guys in this forum is a fuck and chuck. This is what they want. Read the threads. Most guys here want to fuck as many girls as possible. (Whether it's intentional or not, most advice from this forum will drive a girl to this ideal) You might also want to fuck as many guys as possible but I doubt that getting tossed is your goal.
Push: A keeper doesn't actively push the guy on a whim. She pushes because there is simply no room for the guy to stick around 24/7 in her incredible life. She's got plans. She's got ambitions. She's traveling. She's working. So for the very same reason that she's so attractive, she also has little time for the guy. You want the guy to jump through the hoops for you? Tell him that you can't make it to a particular time for a date because you're writing. Huh? Writing? "Yes, I write 2 hours EVERY NIGHT." "Yes, I work on songs for 2 hours every night." "Yes, I'm taking a solo trip to ______ for 2 weeks." "Yes, I'm working on a ____, ______, _____, _______ . . . "
And of course you'll have to be serious with YOUR LIFE. When you take it seriously, THEY will take it seriously.
First response, "You're a dork/nerd . . ." (immature shit)
You HOLD the fucking frame... and maybe even suggest another time.
2nd response, "Dur hur hur, can I hang out with you while you're writing your songs?"
You HOLD the fucking frame, "No, I really need to focus but I'll see you on DD/MM."
3rd response: "OK" - Go home and jack off.
But for any of this to occur, you have to work on yourself more. Wearing better make-up, shaving your pussy, flirting, then sitting at home twiddling your thumbs pretending that your push/pulling to success isn't going to get you any where. Leave that shit to the virgins of this forum.