i have total problems with that.
i am on the dancefloor in some club with friends of mine, some girl like 3-5metres away looks at me, i look back and we like stare at each other for like 5-20seconds, before she looks away (since david d tought to never look away first)
obvious i directly should approach, but i just dont know what to say
i only know situational openers, but they just dont fit in that situation, cause i've already looked at her like 10seconds and she looked back, so it should be obvious that both of us are somewhat interested in each other, so asking going in and e.g. asking who lies more men or women, just wouldnt fit.

so how to approach and where to take it from there? just stack my normal material after the opener or go somewhat more direct and maybe totally skip attractionbuilding from my side due to the fact she looked at me for a long time?

"You looked like you wanted to ask me something..."

"You can't look at me like that and not say anything..."

And if you are really stuck walk up and say the first thing that comes to mind. It's better than not opening at all.

You get eye contact with a lot of people all the time. If the situation isnt right or whatever I just smile at her, turn back to my friends and have a good time. Completely ignoring her, then I open later on when I feel like it.

I know it goes against the 3 second rule but it doesnt matter, thats just to reduce AA. Plus, time spent ignoring her doesnt count anyway, you were being busy.

For me eyecontact means, I will get you later, but youll have to wait your turn.

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I'm not trying to be a dick Ezo, but you're being a Pick Up Snob in my opinion.

bbardot: you just reminded me about porn

If a woman holds eye contact with you.. it means she is interested and screaming COME HERE AND TALK TO ME!!!!!


in this case it really doesnt matter what you say, the main thing is to break your fear and say something.

Go and say: "Hey, whats up"

Or, "Hey, you having a good time?"

Start a conversation without any ball busting. Its probably better. Because women are for the most part very insecure. When you say a cocky statement immediately, i noticed it sometimes frightenes them, they dont know what to say back etc..

Try opening easy, friendly way, and after the second answer like: I never seen you here, do you come here often.. "Yea sometimes"

Than you can go: "And do you always look at guys who are incredibly attractive or just me.. smile and look straight in the eyes"

you will ussually get a cute response, she will say something back to you in a playfull manner. If you dont, the girl is probably a drag.

Key is for you to have a controll in the conversation, directing when you are talking normaly and when you are busting her balls.

Than after a couple of words, advance. Dont stay on your conversation for whole night.

Say to her: "Give me your hand" and act like you know how to cold read and guess some funny shit about her.. o, wait, wait.. i see, that you like guys who(describe yourself) o but wait.. i see here he is cheating on you with your blonde friend

After some time of bantering like this, get close.. KINO escalate and test kiss her by saying something in her ear, and notice what is she doing with her ear. Try to touch her ear with your lips but just gently. Just to see if she moves. Than, smell her neck and than move away. Be quiet and wait till she starts talking to you again. When she does, let her pull you and than advance again and kiss her.

Than you can take her e-mail or you can take her to your place or whatever.

Play, just play.

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I'm not trying to be a dick Ezo, but you're being a Pick Up Snob in my opinion.

bbardot: you just reminded me about porn

"it's not nice to stare at people, it some country that are consider sexual harassment"

or go with my fav, walk over with confused face and say:

why are you keep looking at me?

if she say no, you are the one keep look at her, just say:

If you don't looking at me, how do you know i am looking at you?"
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