Hello,

I have a lady friend that I have been cool with for awhile now. We had sex about about a month ago. At the same time I had a female that I was talking to nothing serious at all. My lady friend had her ex that she was considering on getting back with prior to our encounter. She claimed that she really likes me and enjoyed our episode. But she feels I will not leave the other girl alone despite the fact that we are not serious. She was considering on having her boyfriend move down here but I guess she decided to go that route. Prior to her boyfriend coming down here to look for a place she was hitting me up so I can come and see her. I tried to have sex again but she wouldn't do it because she felt guilty. That was no problem. Then her man came down to visit and the same day he left she called me. Since that day she wanted to see me which wasn't a problem. She asked for back massage and then gave me massage. Also she has been real flirtatious. Every time her man calls when I'm there she either ignores his phone calls or answers but tries to rush him off the phone. Another thing I noticed if she hits me up(call/text) and I don't answer she gets upset. She also gets upset if I say I'm going to be at her house at a certain time and I show up a little late. Yeah i got some feelings for her but all I want to do is just have a friends with benefits type relationship with her. Anyway what do you fellas suggest I do with this situation? I know once her man gets here it will be somewhat different but that not a big deal. I just need some suggestions on how to be able get her to let me in every once in awhile without her feeling guilty. Or do you suggest leaving her alone period? As I said before she has feelings for me and wants to still have sex with but she's trying to get over the guilt trip.

Thanks.