have been seeing this lady for some time now.Had an argument some time ago and then I called her and stuff.wanted to have some more bang bang.Went out for dinner.Today hacked into her email account and came across a mal where she mentiones to one of her frineds in UK(she was in uk for 3 years and is going there for christmas) about a guy who proposed her and shes goin to see him there.The guy apparantly has asked her to meet his mom as well and to stay with them aster a party.

Confronted her abo this as she's like u have not given me any commitment so blah blah.Then she's like if u give me some commitment I want to still be with u .She has 2 relationships in the past and was like I dont want to waste my life and shit and want to settle down and stuff.

I said u broke my trust and shitand told her if shes happy then she should see that guy and settle don with him as stuff.She was like she likes me and if I give her a commitment she will not even think of him and shit.

To which i said there is no trust and stuff.Then While goin she is like do u wnat my uk number to which I said no and stuff.

DONT WANT SOMEONE TO BE MY PRIORITY WHEN I AM THEIR OPTION.


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This is insane, what do you want out of this??

If you want this girl you are going to commit, she has made this clear.

If you do not want to be with this girl, then leave, be done.

You may be able to show her that you care about her, and that you do want a relationship, but aren't ready for anything long term, but it seems unlikely.

You obviously have no trust in your 'relationship', going through her email, and her meeting up with her ex boyfriend. I see trust as one of the top aspects required in a relationship, that and respect, without these your relationship will not work.

best of luck

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OP: you need to relax. You have oneitis'ed a chick that I am not really sure you care about (you wanted to get back with her for some more "bang bang"). You seem to only care because she is sort-of rejecting you. This sort of insecurity will only hurt you with women.

Guys I dont know y I am feeling jealous.I think I should find someone and have a good time with her.Dont know Y i feel this way.BUt yes Trust is very imp at the same time I am not looking at long term in this.