I have been seeing a girl for about 3 week all was going well.

Anyway i was out in a club at the weekend very drunk and i pulled another girl. Thats not the worst of it the girl i had been seeing her best mate was there and saw everything.

Advice on what to do next. she says she feels like she cant trust me and she does not want to be messed around because she really likes me.

You think i can win bk her trust?

Well depends on what you told her before. Whatever you do don't apologize. Can't stress that enough.

So anyhow, if you didn't say to that girl that you would go exclusive with her, then just tell her that you are a really loyal guy once you have given your word that you will go exclusive with someone. But right now, after 3 weeks, you have just started to know her and don't know what the outcome will be. You find her intriguing and like to get to know her but you don't don't want to be with her just becuase she's the first to claim you. You'll want to be with someone because you've seen others and they are the best fit for you. That way you'll realy know that you want to be with that person.

Anyhow.. I wold go along those lines and it's actually about how I fell about the whole dating scene.

If you already commited to her, well, then yes, you fucked up buddy. Trust can only go so far.

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No there was no commitment there. Thats why i am a bit confused about the situation.

I know what u mean about only seeing her for 3 weeks and still getting to know her.

Do you think i should just give it time and let her contact me.

She told me her guard is up and that if anything like this happens again she will cut me off so fast!

She is setting up the frame that she is the catch and you have all to loose. Flip that frame around buddy. You don't want to be in a relation with that frame.

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Yeh i guess so.

Flip the fram around! what suggestions do you have mate?

I can give suggestions, but again, you know the dynamics with this girl a milion times more then I do. The worst thing for you to do would be to follow blindly the advices that some dude on the forums gave you.

So yeah, flip that frame. How? You can't come across as a jerk, she will then have the "I knew I had a good reason to put my shield up" reasoning. So you have to make her fell that you are interested in her but that you are also detatched from the outcome. Maake her fell that she could lose you.

One way you could go about it is like you said, remove some attention you were giving her. Maybe advise that she should go out more and meet new people as well.

Again, I woudn't take these advises blindly.

Good luck

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Cheers mate u have been a big help.. Hopefully all will go well

Looks like you have this figured out, but I'd agree with everyone above. Unless you both agreed to be in an exclusive relationship, you don't owe her anything and those are the dating rules everyone adheres to.

Definitely write back, I want to hear what happened.

Well jut to let u know.

I heard from her last night. I had 2 txts from her while i was sleep and one again this morning.

Everything seems normal so hopefully she is fine with me now

If you able to get the girls easily then this girl you're seeing must be pretty special.

The last thing you want to do is admit guilt, and that's what happens when you freak out and panic. By maintaining your cool, you can always explain that your date (not possible with her best mate ) was just an old friend and you were catching up on old times. But if she saw you making out with the girl then you're definitely in deep shit. Try to be mindful of where you take girls out, reducing your odds of a possible run-in.

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