Would asking an opinion on how to handle something with an ex gf be a good opener or would that lower my value?

Depends on what it is... (yes these are extremes but it makes it easier to see my point.)

Hey, I was wondering if you would give me your opinion on something...

1. I have this ex-gf who won't leave me alone. I tell her that I still cared about her but I just want to be friends and she thinks that this means f!ck buddies and it doesn't. I tried to explain it to her but I just couldn't get it through to her and I didn't want to hurt her feelings any more. Most of the time this happends to women so I wanted to know if you had any idea's on how to explain it nicely to her that friend only implies friendship."

Good.

2. I have this ex-gf who said she wanted to be friends but she doesn't want to hang out at all anymore. I mean I call and call but she doesn't answer. Do you think that I should keep calling or wait outside of her house until she gets home tonight?

BAD.

It all depends on how you phrase things.

EvoJ

awsome thnx for the feedback