I need help. I actually came home tonight cause I just have no damn clue where to go! I went to the movies, made a few EC, but nothing that showed IOI. The movie theatres just arent the same anymore since they dont allow ppl to hang out anymore. Its friday night, lots of traffic out today, but I had no idea where to go and where the social settings are. I am not a bar person, and you ca only walk around friggin Walmart so many times scoping before you look like a damn weird stalker night after night not spending money! Ill get in my truck to leave and then see HOT girls walking into the place, and Im like Dammit!! Tomorrow i am going to the bigger part of the city. I live in a small town outside South bend, Indiana. Ill go to the main mall, book store, starbucks..etc. I just dont know where to go. I need some advice. if someone here could tell me a good NIGHTTIME place to go I would go right now! Besides a club. I dont drink and Id feel weird alone there in that SPAM (know nothing about clubs)

name the easiest places to use pua...

you got it really...malls, bookstores, starbucks, etc.
a word of advice form my town though: you can spend all day in a starbucks or bookstore and only find a few hb's. they come definately, but its kind of like fishing; you have to wait, and then you look weird. its mostly rich and snobby people in our coffee shop.

but our mall, on a friday night, holy shit. if its the same in indiana, go for it.

Did you even approach anyone at the theaters? or were you just fishing for IOIs?

I think your problem is not location, but yourself.

_________________

I'm going to tell you straight up that you need to be more flexible.

You can't limit yourself by saying, "I don't drink" because you are then taking out many other options as well. Hot girls usually don't date guys that don't drink. It's the truth.

Now don't become an alcoholic, but you got to be more flexible.

The bars and clubs are the BEST places to pick up girls because there are lots of them there.

You could always try bookstores, etc. but those girls usually keep to themselves.

_________________
http://www.AlphaDestinyMale.info (Private 1 on 1 coaching, and first 7 days Free)

And what happens if you're more or less t-total because of a medical condition.

I have to admit I tell 'em straight up, I get a positive reaction if I look like I'm having fun, at least so far, plus they sometimes ask to see my scar.

That may be true, but at the same time its like other thoughts still run in my head.
1) shes with her friends, ill feel weird being new to this still
2) how old is she...really, cant tell these days
3) she saw i made EC but looked away, should I still approach
4) I will bother her
5) (my MOST COMMON prob) theres a ring on her finger...fuck! lol keep walkin

I think my biggest problem besides AA, I give up to easily on one location, when i should just find a seat and hang out for a while? Ill stroll around and if i see nothing happening i usually get in my truck and take off, then wonder where the hell to go next. Maybe i should just grab a newspaper and coffee and sit somewhere relaxed and observe instead of spending more time driving place-to-place

BUT, wouldnt that be trying to qualify myself? Isnt the goal to NOT be every other guy? In other words my frame of mind IMO should be "i dont drink...you dont like it fuck off!" I thought being different and not trying to qualify myself to those types would build attraction, instead of grabbing a beer like the other 100000 guys there?

why dont you jus not go out jus to meet women

live your life and have fun

go places with friends for excitement not ladies

and if you find them go after them then

it'll also help you with AA, you'll feel more comfortable if "i need to find a girl here" isn't stuck in your head

I know what you mean. In other words go out and have fun without the frame of mind "wheres the girls?" right?

exactly

Tell you what, go out in an open mall and say "Hi" to every girl that walks past you.

This will build up your confidence even more so.

Or give your buddy 200 bucks then bet him to give you 20 bucks for every chick you talk to in a club.

Go hit the clubs - that's where most of the skanks and hoes are and they came there looking to have "fun" so yeah best spot.

_________________
THIS USER HAS BEEN BANNED FOR BREAKING RULES 2, 3, 8, AND 9