few things to say straight out.

- used to be celibate now I'm like ehh fuck it
- 20 in great shape(I've asked chicks to rate me I normally get 8-10 and friends always tell me I get looks) and not socially inept... a lot of the things I've learned here I did naturally, I'm a generally cocky guy and I'm fluent in sarcasm.
- have my own little black book of girls who want it and pretty much will let me do anything with them.
- I'm hanging out with some chick next week and she basically wants to fuck, I'm all but in. I already got her to agree to bring lube and condoms... and she's supplicating me, call me "if you want" lots and lots of if you wants and other signs of her showing that she deems herself inferior to me. She's fine looks wise.
- told her i was a virgin a long ass time ago but she thinks I'm some sort of player....
- dick size is decent and I have strong kegel muscles and strong frequent erections, also taking some nitric oxide enhancing suplements for weight lifting which kind of helps in the area too... also very familiar with my body able to pull myself back from a near ejaculation and keep on going a few times when I jack off...

so basically:

give me pointers... what should I do when I'm licking pussy, any advice for fucking in general? and any advice for ensuring she views it as a friends with benefits type of deal, I think she already does but might be hoping for more which isn't happening.

Honestly my best advice for you is to be in the moment. Too often guys are so worried about "doing it right" that they are completely disconnected from the moment and from the woman, to the point that they don't even really enjoy the experience, and the woman can sense that. Take your time, and really just enjoy the woman. Don't be so worried about g-spots and kegels, that you miss all the other subtle pleasures of sex. Women can sense when a man is distant and in his head. So just relax and trust that you know enough already (which I'm sure you do based on what you've written).

thanks. already know to think of it as more of something fun to do than as a competition, stupid shit like having the girl tilt her hips if you're doing missionary etc... still don't mind any little bits here and there, knowlege is power.