I'm generally considered a decent looking guy but I just feel like girls aren't interested and I don't come up, I wanna go direct approach. I've been obsessing over my ex girlfriend when I found out she has a new boyfriend already.

Is a direct approach, and just saying. hi i think you're cute, my name is mike. a great direct opener? and then just being like, so whats yours *handshake* or some shit, or is there aynthing better?

Here are a few direct openers I use on a daily basis.

"Hey, I know this is totally random, but I had to come over and say Hi. My name is Jon."

"My friends are having a boring conversation. Consider this like a real life Facebook friend request, I'm Jon."

"Hi, I saw you over here and wanted to come see what you're all about. I'm Jon."

The key to the opener is solid body language. You need a confident approach. Walk over there with purpose. Not speed walking mind you but your aren't dragging your feet either. Keep your head up level with the horizon, and shoulders relaxed. When you approach you need GOOD SOLID eye contact. If you need help with that I can give you some tips later.

When you approach you need to start your opener from about 3-4 feet away from her if in a night venue, and about 4-5 feet in a day venue. People have a larger personal space it seems during the day, it's just not as common you get that close to people during the day so start talking further away.

Make sure to project your voice. Your not yelling, you are just speaking from the diaphram to project your voice. Meaning you are filling your lungs with air and exhaling as you speak to carry the sound.

After the opener I extend my hand and just go from there. These are pretty direct but are easy to use at the same time. Hope that helps give you a few ideas.

Jon

P.S.

Don't compliment girls with some generic like "you're cute." As you've guessed they've heard it before it and has lost its meaning. Girls will shrug the compliment and you off with a simple, "Thanks." If you are to use a compliment to open with be sincere and original. Things like, "I had to come over here and tell you that you are truly gorgeous. The thing is...and I just got this myself was that your beauty comes from your....(insert area like eyes, symetry of face, dimples, etc. just be sincere) and I think most people don't get that about you. I'm Jon by the way."

I may even go on and elaborate. "I bet most guys tell you that you are cute and stuff but most can't explain why. I feel good about the fact that I get that about you...."

Like I said you must be sincere because girls can sniff out bullshit!

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do you have to be great looking for direct? i got great eyes, good face but i'm 5'11 145 but im 17 years old apparoaching teenage girls from 16-19 usually, or girls for the most part give a chance if you look decent to find out your personality?

Kurtanglex,

You would be surprised to know that it doesn't matter if you're big, ugly, tall, short, old, young, in a wheelchair, or anything else. Direct openers work just fine. Granted a woman is judging a book more by its cover when you do this but you don't have to be great looking at all. Women all the time are talking about how they wish men would be men and be direct etc. The sheer direct confident approach scores many many points!

Jon

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So all I really need to do is talk for 2-3 minutes and get the number to learn more about each other later, and ill get good results if im at least decent looking and show a decent presence?

It's not quiet that easy mate! There is a bit more to it than that. In order to get a number that is not going to flake and call you back you will need to talk to her longer so that she is comfortable with you. Anyone can get a number, but it takes some work to get one that is going to talk to you.

Then there is body language, touching (kino), ways to build attraction, etc. Again descent looking helps but doesn't matter too much. Presence through your non-verbal communication will be very important and so will be your ability to make her feel comfortable with you quickly through conversation.

You'll get it down. LOTS OF Practice makes perfect!

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basically, i can just be be short and sweet though? like what's your name, age, school blah blah? just for comfort purposes?

like I don't have to show off my "great" personality too much at first, just show im normal, cool and confident and that should be enough to get me dates, right?