hey all i am totally new to the whole pua side of things, i am not trying to toot my own horn but i am actually prettygood looking, but my banter is crap and must have some sort of natural game as all the girls i have had in the past have been really hot, n have been complimented about my looks a lot of the time. the problem i have is that i have just recently split up with my ex about 3 weeks ago she was the first girl i had ever had a proper relationship and casual sex with,most of the other girls i have had 3 or 4 week flings or relationships with. the problem i am facing is that i asked her to come over one night 2 weeks ago and sort of told her i wanted her back but she said she was seeing some one n she was confused about what to do and she had to think about it, when she left i text her saying, "what i said was stupid and that i had my chance with her and i ruined it".

anyways she started textin me on sunday night saying she wanted to meet up with me to chat but i couldn't as i was down visiting my dad, we have been texting each other everyday since sunday night and each day she has been the one to start the text conversation for the day, i am a but drunk right now typing this but she started texting me tonight and i asked her to lunch tomorrow and i am kind of interested in getting back together with her but don't no how to say it to her.

thinking of asking her when we meet up for lunch if she would "like to go for a date and start all over again, i am not asking you to start seeing me or go out with me, i am just asking to pretend that what ever happened before never happened and that if the date went ok we could on another date and maybe start seeing each other and if things worked out their then maybe we could go out?"

what do you guys think? should i say that to her? pretty sure she wants me back as she said she isn't seeing this guy anymore. but she is also the type of girls that hangs around with and text a lot of boys because she likes the attention she gets from them, which is the reason i split up with her because some guy was trying bebo and text flirting with her and she was flirting back n she told him she was single, even though we were suppose to be going out at the time(we had just got back together), she said the reason she did that was because she wanted some one and i wasn't giving her enough attention (reason was because i was studying for my university exams which were in a weeks time).

also i went out tonight with a mate and started chatting up numerous girls to get them on the dance floor with us to try and get my mate to hook up with them but the girls weren't interested and i wasn't interested as i had my heart set on my ex and i also don't trust girls in nightclubs or bars as you don't no how many guys they have pulled before they have pulled you.

shes use to be a stripper when i went out with her but she is starting as a trainee dental nurse on monday, which might give you an idea why i want to be with her. there is not many things better than getting a private dance from a stripper at home and knowing you are going to be able to do and touch her afterwards lol1z

I'm afraid you are overthinking this. Don't make plans. Don't tell her any "if". Just go out with her, even if it's just meeting at lunch. Be fun, don't be needy. Make her laugh. Be confident. Demonstrate higher value and show that you are ready to walk away from the deal if she is not interested.