This might help you. It came from the 'conquer your campus' newsletter by Mark Redman
"Yo..
Today, I want to write about something that a LOT of people
asked for more detail about - how to turn a friend into a
fuck buddy. I talk about it in my report but I guess I
didn't go into enough depth so here we go...
First let's talk about why you're in the friend
category. You're there because she wasn't attracted to
you, probably because you weren't direct enough. If you
read the report, you know how I feel about being direct
with college girls because generally, they want to hook up.
And, BEFORE I GO ANY FURTHER, let me say that what I've
taught my boys is more about being direct and NOT getting
into this situation into the first place.
But now that you're in the friend category, you can't
just "change" overnight. She already has an impression
of you and impressions like that are hard to shift. So what
I'm going to suggest here is a two to three week strategy,
but you can start implementing it tonight.
So you have to get out of that category, right? Well,
she's not going to believe that there's any substance
behind your actions if you just start acting differently
one day. So you need to come up with a reason that you're
going to change, and communicate it to her. I'm talking
big stuff in your life - you fail a class, you talk to God
for the first time, you meet an new mentor... something BIG
that is going to be a catalyst for your actions.
You tell her about this experience. Don't go into depth
on it or offer too many details, that is try-hard. You have
nothing to prove to anyone - it is a personal experience and
it has caused you to start thinking differently. So you
retreat from her for three to four days.
When you start hanging out again, something about your
lifestyle should be different. Adopt a new behavior that
demonstrates that you are serious about this. For example,
you can do something healthy like being a vegetarian or not
drinking for a week. You are in YOUR OWN REALITY where YOU
MAKE UP THE RULES.
Ok, so you have set the stage. This is the proverbial
cleansing of the pallate - the sniff of coffee beans
between wine tastings, the parsley between the appetizer
and the main course. When you start acting differently
towards her, there will be precedent.
NOW, three things that one of my mentors taught me.
1. Be desireless
2. Be awesome
3. Flirt
Be desireless: You should not communicate that you want her
or need her. Your life is not better because of her, it is
better because of you. You're having a good time,
you're on the right path, and you love yourself. DO NOT
give in to the urge to tell her how happy she makes you or
anything. You can show her appreciation, but it should be
from the perspective of "wow, good for you, I'm proud
of you for being that way" instead of "wow, you're so
incredible and I want to marry you."
Be awesome: Be absolutely great to everyone in your life.
Show her that you are treating everyone with the same
accord that you're giving her. Call your Mom, Dad or
Grandpa and tell them you love them. She should see that
you are a GREAT guy. She should SEE it, not HEAR it from
you. So call up Grandpa when you're with her and let her
see how awesome you are. Now I know this may seem like
pussy behavior but think about it - if you're a badass,
desireless guy AND you are gret to everyone around you,
well that my friend is to me a Leader of Men.
Flirt: This is kind of what I covered in my report. And
there is no contradiction here. You can be desireless but
still flirty. Think about how you'd react if a fatass 45
year old woman was flirting with you. You'd flirt back,
because there's no sexual interest on your part AND its
obvious she thinks you're cute so there's no risk of
being "rejected". So pretend that your friend is a
fatass 45 year old. Tease her. Tell her she looks
"soooooo hot." When she flirts back tell her that
you're going to call the campus police on her.
And for heaven's sake, kino like crazy. BUT... it should
be playful kino, not sexual kino. Playful kino is a knee
slap, a light shoulder punch, and playing "this little
piggy" with her fingers or doing the "got your nose"
game because she's cute. Sexual kino is having your hand
on her back and extended touching and rubbing.
(this is more sexual kino)
If you do this right over the course of a few weeks, she is
going to have a huge shift in her perception of you, and her
attraction to you is going to get a "reset." In fact,
you will hae probably created a "chase" dynamic where
she's pursuing you somewhat, and from there you can
basically be out at a party or a social event and just
start making out with her.
We could get more detailed about closing logistics, let me
know if you are unclear on that last part. It is fairly
straightforward though - girl likes you, you tell her
"let's make out", you make out. That's college
game. Escalate, sex, smack on the ass for being a bad girl,
call her the next day, don't call her for another two
days, see her out at a party and hook up again, and
that's that.
I've got some field reports that go into more depth on
this, and explain it explicitly. They ended up in my
Conquer Your Campus Training Manual. Which you can check
out here:
http://www.conqueryourcampus.com/home
Be back atcha soon with an AMAZING piece that you won't
want to miss...I'm serious! Just puting the finishing
touches on it now..
Let the good times roll,
Mark"
CHAT
I know of one highly experienced pua who still says he gets LJBF'd a lot even though he seems to do everything right. That's a good reason to learn SS, in my opinion. He doesn't know or use SS as far as I know.
