Okay, now I know that its possible to have a strong frame and not be an asshole. And I guess where Im going with that is that Im a nice guy and I care about people. I especially care about my friends and people that are close to me. But for some reason I always feel like its up to me to make things work out for others. I dont know why it is that I take that responsibility on myself.

I have other friends that just move through life much easier (it seems). They do what they want whenever they want (not that I dont). But I always feel like I should include others or look out for others. I guess its just my personality. I dont want to ditch people or ignore them or leave them out. But its not like I get offended when others do it to me (not that I dont feel left out sometimes but everyone misses out on some things).

I guess my question is whether this is a problem with my frame or what. I dont want to be the guy that Im not, I want to be sincere and concerned with others. But I dont want to shoulder this responsibility of including others or making it work for everyone else and feel guilty if I dont.

YOU ARE NOT RESPONSIBLE FOR OTHER PEOPLE'S HAPPYNESS.


only the happyness of yourself should count.

Stop doing things that pleases other people. Start doing things that please you.



The key to a strong frame is being rooted in your own ideas and beliefs, you trust 100% in your own ideas and beliefs. You question other beliefs and try to get first hand experience. Rather than letting someone else dictate your reality to you, you create your own reality.

Most people have no idea what they belief in, so they will follow the person that does have a clear sense of what he beliefs in.

That is the reason why the strongest frame wins.

The way to get a strong frame is setting out your own ideas and beliefs, as you progress through life you will get reference experience that back up your ideas and beliefs, making your reality stronger.


Your personality has little to do with this, since it is completely arbitrary. You did not come up with it. Other people did. Events in your life made you the person you are today. You can change it using your own free will.


Edit: You are a nice guy because you are afraid of losing people. This is a result from a scarcity mindset.