Hi,
So, I was out on a club with three friends, two guys and a girl. We were having fun, just dancing and drinking a little bit. We went up to a sort of inside terrace with over the big dance floor and I we starts to dance a little bit. I then see two girls sitting and shaking there arms a little bit (sit-dancing) so I immediately approach the them and say something like “Hey, don’t sit there and dance … Stand up in stand and shake your hips!”

They rise and we starts to dance and we ask some questions (Names, do you like it bla. Bla.). I talk to my target (a blond girl, the other was a brunette) and after some dancing I ask some question and put my hand on her back. She approved (she didn’t remove the hand nor turned away or something similar). I focus mostly on the target and the ratio is something like 65% on the target, 25% on the brunette and 10% on my friends (including turning my back to the target and dancing with them instead for a while). After some dance and kino escalation (touching her back and arms mostly) I feel that I am about to run out on stuff to talk about and luckily my friends tell me that they are heading back down so I tell my target “Hey, I am going to join my friends but give me your number and I will call you or drop a text later …”. Number received!

We went to another dance floor and dances and drinks a little bit. Normally this clubs closes at 03:00 AM but because it was our national holiday it was open to 05:00 which is think is way to much!

Around 04:30 me and my friends head back to the biggest dance floor and I see my target and approches her and starts to dance with her and once again and touch her arms, back, neck etc. After some kino escalation I head for a kiss and she kisses me back. We are making out and dancing at the same time for about 10 minutes when my friend tells me he want’s to go. I am pretty tired so that seems reosanable to me also. I tell my target and her friend:
- “I need to go now, but talk to you later.” (the “talk to you later bit” was directed to my target).


I think that I am still in A2 heading for A3 as we didn’t speak that much because of the loud music.

Now is the question: What should I say if I text her or should I call her? I think a text is a little more casual and easier to reply to but at the same time easier to ignore.

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I dont think you are in A2 or A3. The best thing about dancing is that you swing by the stages very quickly. I think you are already in the comfort stage but she doesnt have much of an emotional relevance to you. So what you want to do next is invite her and her friend for something fun. Give her the option of calling her friend. dont be in the dating mode yet. She has kissed you already so she knows that ur not just in the LJBF zone.

I would send some c&F text during the week to test her buying temperature and then invite her and her friends over for something fun with my friends over the weekend.

Text n calling isnt that bad.
The fact that you never talked to her and she probally don't remember you....
You got her number super easy.... she is probally easy
So your probally not the only guy who call her that she dont remember.
lNow if your calling just do it and be like hey whats up.
Last night was crazy huuu they aer never open that late... i cant remember the last time i stayed up that late.
expect some respone inbetween there.
Dont everlaod her.
Be like I was just calling to see how you are doing.
Bring up somthing like coffie or somthing
I have to head out in a bit cause im getting a cup of coffie with my friend
Make sure you are going with ur friend
set up a sarge with him at coffie shop.... then invite her if she comes woot if not who cares.
fink a way to invite her in the conversation.
Now for texting
just send her a msg saying hey whats up
if she dont respond she dont remember you
or is really busy...but probally dont remember.
But she will more then likly reply with nm whatsup with you
be like I was just heading out to get a cup of coffie at starbucks.wanna come?

if you get ahold of her and she dont remember you then forgetabout the night and reopen her like it was the first time.and try to setup a date.
if she remembers you then bullshit with her for a bit and set up a date

Hi,
I just dropped an SMS and said I had fun last saturday ...

I didn't mention anything for this weekend, unfortunately I am busy on saturday and sunday. However, if she replies I will probably ask what she will do on friday ...

Now we wait!

EDIT: Also, thanks very much for the input, it is really interesting end envolving!

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I love your 'stand up and shake your hips' line! Its very good getting them to dance without actually asking and conveys a fun image!

Good luck with the text back - let us know how it goes!! I had a very similar situation at the weekend. Got a good string of replies yesterday but I'm getting the feeling its gone a bit cold.

It seems like we didn't get much chance to build comfort. I made up for that quickly via text game but I can't be certain if I did enough!

Alright, I have sent the text but haven't received any answer. If I haven't recieved an answer within, let's say, two or three days, should I drop another SMS saying something like:
* "Hey, you should have common sense to answer me, don't you think? "

I have nothing to lose on it, right?

Some other questions, which I would like your input on:

* Me, and Walt as described above, couldn't build comfort for our girls, so do you have any tip on how to do that in my situation?

* If this girl is easy (as also mentioned above) how do I approach that? Speed up my game with a lot of negs and kino escalation (using the little artillery I have in the loud club)?

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Agree no harm in sending a follow up text but do give it some days. Girls take a while to come around, she could just be busy and finding the time! I think your proposed text sounds a little pushy, but you got some time to work on it. You've got to create something she can't NOT respond to.

Basically you need to isolate in the club, if its to a quieter seating area or outside where people smoke, or 'bounce' to the next location another bar / afterparty / post night out food.

If she won't leave her friends, game them hard. She'll grab you back in an instant. Win her friends and you'll make it very easy for her to go with you.

In my case I was very drunk and only was pushing for one thing. As a result my game suffered and I didn't give myself an opportunity to build comfort. A same night lay would have been fool's mate which we both would have regretted I imagine and not good game.

She's responding now to text game so its definitely on again