Hi everyone!

I just thought would start this topic in order to get some feedback with regard to sarging for people with various disabilities/handicaps.

I myself have a physical disability, this has been the case from birth. Although like in anybody's life, I experience what I will refer to as "ups & downs", in general my physical limitations have never unduly bothered me a great deal. I walk with 2 walking sticks (like Hugh Laurie in 'House' lol) and also have a wheelchair, but I only use it very rarely. I have been gaming for just under a year now, and have grown in confidence as a result (even though I have always been extremely self-confident and comfortable around people, both male & female, even before knowing the 'game' existed!)

I always took the view that hopefully, because my disability never really gets me down, it shouldn't be a problem for the ladies, and as a result, I try to use my difficulties as a positive thing, rather than acentuate the aspects of such a problem which could potentially be perceived negatively....

I have tried various openers, such as :

"Hey ladies, let me ask you a quick question; I want to buy or do something to decorate my crutches. You can see they're looking a bit worn out & in need of a new lease of life! If you were me, what would you do or buy, and why?"

This always gets both guys AND girls interested, amused, and into intriguing opinion-based discussions! I have also used things such as :

"Hey! You look fun! And you seem like you know how to dance too! However, I still think I can help you to liven up the dancefloor EVEN more! Here..... I bet you've never danced with one of these (I hand her one of my crutches to dance with. This means that I can show the crutch in a positive & funny way, by making it an ACCESSORY rather than something for myself or others to be intimidated by).

Just a couple of examples there. As I said, I've always been confident in myself, and I think people like and amire me as a result. Approaching is not really a problem for me, but any suggestions for other tactics (openers etc) for people with problems like mine would, I feel, be of potentially great benefit to others in a similar situation to mine.

Another problem is that I very often (far too often!) fall into LJBF zone! I don't know if this is because lots of girls (even unconsciously sometimes!) are intimidated by my physical disability, or if I'm just "too nice" (I get told this a LOT, which is a bad sign!) or if it just means that other areas of my game are weak?? I always approach, and get LOTS of numbers. But kisses and anything else are extremely rare.

The disability aside, I feel I'm a pretty normal guy. Not great looking, but certainly not too bad, friendly, funny, confident. Even the fact that I AM so happy & confident in my life could be seen as DHV, as well as the fact that I am English, but have been living abroad for the last 5 years, thus working (and gaming) in another language & culture!

Sorry the post was so long! I'd really appreciate any help, either from other gamers with disabilities or not. Thanks!

If you are stuck in the friend zone it means you're not escalating into the seduction zone, and possibly even skipping the attraction zone or not doing enough in it. Mystery still has the best tips I've seen for transitioning from one zone into the next. I highly recommend studying his material.

Oh I didn't mention your disability at all? I don't think we need to. Not only doesn't it seem to be a problem for you as a PUA, but you are even using it to your advantage! I see you as a PUA like the rest of us.

Hmmm.... From your question it appears on the outside you come across very friendly and confident. However on the inside you are hurting. This may confuse women because it can come across as incongruent. Women are very good at picking up on these subtleties even when they are consciously unaware. I suggest maintaining friendships with the women you encounter and when the time is right ask them if they have any single friends that would like to go out. I also suggest not focusing on your disability and instead focus on activities that you really enjoy doing and make you happy! Good luck and I hope you meet a wonderful lady!

Edit: Whoa! Damn! I just read your question again. Do not use those openers. Why would you want to draw attention to what you perceive as a "flaw"? I mean if you had a big hairy mole on your forehead why would you want to draw more attention to it? Instead, use an opener which detracts from the negative and and relates to more positive characteristics. Millions of people use crutches (you are not alone) and somehow people of all shapes and sizes find love so I'm rootin for ya!

Hey yeah, good point. I knew a young man through friends who had something wrong with his leg, and he always had this wicked looking posh cane, made it part of his style, always wore these suit type outfits. He had this solid, confident air about him, you couldn't help but look up to him and respect him, the way he talked and carried himself. He never once mentioned the cane or anything directly that I knew of in the time I knew him, I had to find out what his condition was through friends.