So I had a day to last with with an amazingly cute girl (for those of you who insist on using the rating scale, she was an '8.5'). She had a boyfriend, but through phone and msn game I got her out on a day 2. We went to a local pub, split the drinks, started talking and then used major kino and we made out (playfully) for about an hour (yes, a literal hour). It was going amazing, she kept going red in the race and she was an amazing kisser....

Thats when God gave me the finger.

Her train was at 9:15 so I walked her up to the train station. I had to get a lift home at 9:15 so i walked her to the platform and told her to wait for the 9:15 train (it was about 9:05 at this point). We kissed and I told her to text me so i knew she got home safe. An hour goes by and I hadn't received a text, so i send one and ask if she got home ok...

Apparently she got the train at 9:08 and ended up in Scotland (we live about 2 hours away from where she was) and her mother had to come pick her up at midnight. She sounded angry. I tried to make it funny; and texted her this morning: "You know, ill bet we'll laugh about this in a few days....I mean, im laughing now, but you will be soon too. I'm glad you're safe." I have yet to receive a reply, though she is working at the moment and has little signal in her house. Might get one later.

I know it wasn't really my fault, but that doesn't matter, it's what she percieves it to be.
How should I play this, still think i've got a shot?

- Memento

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Maybe it is just a shit test? Anyway, you don't have reason to apologize her.

Call me naive, but i really doubt this.

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It. Was. Not. Your. Fault.


The worst thing you can do is feel guilty. She'll pick up on that, and it will validate her feeling that it is your fault. Don't talk about it if you speak with her again. Move on and pick up from the point where you dropped her off. If she can't get over it, that's her problem. And who wants a chick with problems?

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Hahaha, that is a hilarious statement.

Yeah, you're fine, just do what Royalty said and ignore it. Saying that you're laughing about it at the time probably wasn't a great idea and made her mad, but she should get over that. And just think, now you have another way to neg her if she gets out of line! "Hey, at least I'm not the dumbass who doesn't know how to read / tell time!" ...that's probably harsh, but at least it's in your arsenal

Good luck!

I think everyone is missing the point here. I don't think the train mishap is the issue at all. The train mishap probably gave her some time to stew on the real issue which is the fact that she has a boyfriend and she was a slut with you. How does she justify that in her mind? It's cognitive dissonance. THAT'S what you have to disarm.

For me, personally, I try to f-close girls in this situation as fast as possible before the cognitive dissonance hits them.

Sorry, I really don't have any good advice as to what you can do, as you may have already lost her due to the fact that you didn't f-close her fast enough. However, if she does continue to contact you again I would say your chances are very good that you can f-close because it means she is going to give herself permission to continue with this charade.

Actually, I do have one very good idea how to get her attention again but it's kind of a secret weapon of mine. I'd prefer if you PM if you're really interested in knowing.

Good luck man

frame it as two people doing as they felt led. can't deny who you are and all that. i'm amazed at how often girls fall into line with that thinking. women are born and made rationalizers. just show her the way to rationalize the behavior.

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