| Alright man, let me begin this by saying that I agree with the ideas posted above, and it really makes me happy to see threads like this. Your situation doesn't make me happy, but people coming together to truly help one another is what I believe this community is all about.
Now, the second thing I have to make very, very clear before I say when I am going to say is that I am in no way recommending heavy consumption of alcohol to someone who is depressed. I know alcohol is a depressant and will not help you.
That being said... brace yourself... go to a bar. Not a club. A bar. Sit at the bar. Bring yourself only 10 bucks (or, excuse my ignorance, whatever your currency is in Ireland) so that you can only get a drink or two. The thing is, people go to bars when they are down so they can share and talk. Bars are like group therapy, and I think you'll be amazed at how good you might feel after you talk. And another thing I want you to do is take a good hard look at the old drunks in the bar. They will listen to you, they will share their stories with you, they will make you feel like you're one of them. Don't become one of them. Look at the effects of poor life choices and where it gets you. Use that as motivation to avoid the same fate and correct your problems now at only 19. Also, I think you will find that there are a lot of people who are a lot worse off than you, and while it's not good to step on others to lift yourself up, it might make you feel better to see you're not alone, but you're actually better off (being decades younger, and still having time to turn things around).
I know this doesn't seem like the wisest advice, but I am telling you it is very helpful if you DON'T DRINK! I was recently very depressed after ending a two and a half year relationship. I moved to a new apartment across town away from all my friends and felt lonely, depressed and suicidal. Finally, I started going out to bars, except I drank way too much. I could easily spend 300 bucks in a weekend by myself, and it was really bad. But after about a month of this I finally saw what I just told you and I opened my eyes and realized I didn't want to be like these people. Now I only spend 10 bucks a night. Have a drink to relax, talk, make some friends... it could really help. It's good to just get out. And the good thing is you don't need to know anyone, or be invited to go to the bar. Once you are in there, open the guys like you would open any set, and then you'll be in... it then moves into comfort building like any other set would, but in this case you can share your problems.
Another idea would be to go out and game GUYS on your campus. You said you're in college, so maybe make some new friends. If you have no motivation to find a girl right now, game guys. Open sets and make friends. Again, talking and getting out will make you feel a lot better. Just enjoy the process as a hobby (instead of playing guitar). I truly believe you can "game" your way out of depression. I don't mean it's the best fix, but I think it fills a lot of the slots you need to fix this problem. It gets you out. It builds connections with people. It gives you a hobby to learn and grow at. Once you become serious about the game you will find yourself wanting to work out, learn new routines, interesting facts, and all sorts of other things that while you do them to improve your game, you will later realize that you are actually simply improving yourself, and your life.
Let me repeat a few things: I am not recommending alcohol as a cure for depression. I agree with all of the advice that others have posted(and again, to everyone, this is awesome and I want to thank you all for helping your fellow man!), and think you should do some research to figure out the best approach for you (just research depression online to start with). Finally, my advice is a little radical, but I think it might actually work for you. Please, please, please don't turn to alcohol or substances. I'm just trying to think of comfortable environments where you can get out and start meeting people and talking (sharing your feelings really helps, and there is nothing unmanly about it).
I wish you all the best, and please let us know how it goes. _________________ "As to the deceit perpetrated upon women, let it pass, for, when love is in the way, men and women as a general rule dupe each other."
-Giacomo Casanova
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