Hey dudes . Feeling good? Ok, I know this is nothing new, but I feel the need to mention it, especially because we can often delude ourselves.

And that is the importance of DOING IT. Making the ho say no, as Gunwitch so aptly stated.

I try to help in the sticking points forum a lot, and I’d say about two thirds of the problems can be solved by JUST FREAKIN DOING IT. JUST DO IT. Goddamnit just do it!! JUST DO IT!!!

Reality check:

1. Girls want to be seduced
2. Girls want the man to lead
3. Don’t be a pussy
4. Don’t be a pussy.

There should always be only two outcomes from every pickup: You either coosh in the dudey hole, or, you get CLEARLY REJECTED. That doesn’t mean girl code for ‘later’, or ‘not here’. It means that death stare, or perv stare, or her going back to her friends and their group half-laughing and half-pretending that they are afraid of you because they don’t want to look like sluts when in actual fact they might all have fucked you if you two were alone. If you haven’t experienced such reactions, you’re not pushing boundaries enough.

So many people seem to wonder why they haven’t got laid with some girl, when they haven’t even TRIED to ACTUALLY lay the girl. We’re coming from an abundance mentality. It doesn’t matter. Go for it. They want you to. It’s your DUTY.

Just like if you want a relationship with a girl. The best way is to seduce her first, then convert to an LTR. Girls WANT to be seduced, sometimes more than you want to seduce them. So do them a favour!

CASE STUDY
PUA: "Omg, should I try and lay her, but I really like her I want this to be a long term thing, omg."

ANSWER: Fucking fuck her.

Finally, I’d like to end by saying I don’t know why some people keep looking out for IOI’s, as if they’re collecting them for a hobby. IOI’s are meaningless. Because if they’re not there, they will come as you spend more time with the girl. They’ll always be there. So what’s the big deal? Forget them. Just calibrate for when you’re gonna kiss/isolate/set up day 2/fuck.

Also, when fucking a girl, don't be all 'gentle nice guy' and shit. Make her gag, scream and moan. They like that shit. They want to be aroused. Not treated like delicate creatures. Besides, how well you arouse her will probably keep her coming back more than any nice thing you ever said to her.

Just do it!! Make the ho say no.

excellent post gamble! lol "make them gag scream and moan, they love that shit" pricelesssss

Yes, my friend, I have been experimenting with that lately and it works remarkably well. I feel a lot less disturbed than I thought I might be after rejections.

One thing though: I had to build up to the point where I had enough confidence to do approaches in the first place.

Seriously, a player's attitude is what homo sapiens were designed to have. It is rather sad that so few people are with it.

Know this: I don't care what kind of a nervous, dorky, depressed, deformed wreck you are. This nature is within you. Buddhists call it one's buddha nature. Achieve some balance.

Meditate, NLP, Hypnosis.

Who am I?
Just a friend

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All that we are is the result of what we have thought. If a man speaks or acts with an evil thought, pain follows him. If a man speaks or acts with a pure thought, happiness follows him, like a shadow that never leaves him. -- Buddha (the playa)

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the place where optimism most flourishes is the lunatic asylum...

Great post!

We don't need the forum anymore, we just need this post. Brilliant and so very, very true.

Dude this comes back to what my new philosophy is PERFECTLY! "F@ckit!" and "Dont worry about it!" Awesome post man, Brilliant!

Brilliant, Gamble.
We all need to remind ourselves of this from time to time.
Girls WANT SEX. it's not something they do to be nice to guys.
GIRLS WANT SEX, JUST AS MUCH AS GUYS.

I felt a need to put that in caps.



I try to keep this mentality when I see women I like
with my Two step program:

1. Do It.
then;
2.Think about it.

always 1, then 2.
not the other way around.



Worst case, you learn something by experience.
Best Case; you get laid.

to quote Richard Bandler; "First; call her. Then Hesitate. Because then, you see, it's already ringing."

Well, I got my first back in 1998 and since then I have over 100,000 although some of which may have been lost between getting them and remembering.....

Good post, get a nike wrist band with their logo on it and remember their motto every time you look at it..... "just do it"

^Haha.

I don't even care about IOI's. Either a girl's interested in me, or she's not. And if she's not, she will be. So it's all gravy .

When I started really pushing boundaries and making the ho say no in every pickup, I learnt so much. There is some amazing knowledge and technique you can only learn from getting rejected at different points and with different methods.

I started distrusting everything everyone said and even went up to random girls on the street saying things like "Hey, I know we've only just met, but I think you'd be really acrobatic in bed. I've got to get going but we should meet up sometime."

Just ANYTHING to get rejected. Because how they reject you and the little cheeky bits that really work teach you SO MUCH. Experience really is the greatest teacher. It's like when TD talks about having reference points. I would contend that every great PUA should know what is like to be rejected in a variety of different ways, because without being rejected, you can't succeed more, or more effectively and efficiently as you're not refining your technique and pushing boundaries.

But anyway, I suppose we digress. All too often the girl is actually into the guy and the guy does two things:

1. He doesn't understand how wet she is for him
2. He is too pussy to go for it.

Strangely it seems to be the former more. And why is this? Well, it goes back to my first point in this post - the guys just don't have the reference experiences of being rejected, or enough experience of the later stages in a pickup in order to understand that the girl just wants to fuck them already. So they don't understand. It's actually really sad for everyone involved when this happens.

This thread made me

In every art, the quickest way to evolve is to step outside the comfort zone.

So doing like Gamble here, and going up with random sexual references to strangers etc. Is Guaranteed to teach you some things.

(hey, just imagine the first time a woman laughs at you and licks her lip before she says "ok, do you live far from here?"
What will this do to your game? )

Again, Gamble, This is a brilliant reminder you're giving us to grow balls and getting experience the "hard(?)" and effective way.

Man, if he grew his ballz that way, they must be huge right now!