Okay my ex text me a couple of days ago outta the blue! Havent spoke to her since november, cut her out of my life, she wanted to be friends, but i dont want that.

now she text me the other day, shes got a BF and has since january, she acted real strange and started texting me constantly and ringing me out of the blue? she seems happy with her BF and i've clearly moved on and im seeing another girl from her college. now i was straight up with her today and asked her whats with the texting. i dont think its a good idea we carry on speaking, and she was adament that she wanted to be friends? and then was shocked how i still wanted to be left alone.. i mean i worked hard to forget her and cut her out and now she comes back expecting to be all merry and happy?

Anyone explain to me whats going on? and are they genuine reasons or is she just looking to try get back in with me?

If that's really what you want then tell her straight up.


The only reason she wants you back is in hope of bringing back the good times, not as partners. But as friends.

Atleast that's my point of view on things.

You don't have to talk to her if you don't want to. I'm not going to try to figure out why she's doing what she's doing, but nothing is forcing you to talk to her. If you don't want to, tell her nothing has changed as far as you not wanting her in your life and ask her to please stop texting you.

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Stay away. Even now shes fucking with your head. She misses the attention you used to give her. I would tell her a friendship isn't gonna work. You will always have some sort of feelings for her, even if its just a little. Shit will ruin your current relationship. I would say "Big gulps huh? Welp, see ya later!"

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Swoop

I agree with you swoop, thats the kinda girl she is, she messes with peoples heads.

She turned round and said "oh i hear your with HB now", i went "yeah" and she said "oh right" and i replied "the difference between her and you is the only thing she fucks is my dick, not my head. Now leave me alone" haha is that a comeback or what?

Haha! Nice.

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I've got a situation like that goin on right now. worst part is she said she still has feelings for me which is a total mindfuck. so basically i figure she wants me to acknowledge her to stroke her ego but instead I've decided to cut her out of my life which is a real shame because we were friends for like 3 years before we dated. but i always found sexual tension was a key part in that friendship. so i figure i'll continue to have at least some feelings for her for a while. best thing for me to do right now is to tell her I can't deal with her right now in my life and u should tell your girl the same thing. You'll be better off once she's out of the picture.

Your ex is either trying to re-initiate a relationship in a covert way, or more than likely trying to retain value from you by maintaining you as an orbiter. Let's just be friends means "Let's remove sexuality from our relationship, while still retaining your support, and value." Lastly, she may not wish to feel guilty about hurting you, and thus offers the little white flag of still being friends, and thus relieving her guilt by your acceptance of her terms.

Dude....she wants you back!...so you gotta play the game. She is clearly not over you. Yeah you got another girl...but two is better than one.

Yeah i'd agree with buria and swoop really, i mean she's just one of them girls who just likes to have social value. And she LEECHED off me, i mean i know a fair few people and she just loved the fact that being seen with me was a good thing. I'm guessing her new BF is a chump, I could have her if i wanted but I dont, I told her I dont need her back and I'm happy the way I am. To which she replied. "Well I'm happy too" which is a her way of qualifying herself to me and making things seem a lot better than they proberly are... She told me that I still make her laugh so much.. even though I wasn't trying to make her laugh when she often text me.. i was being straight up to the point, but I think she's laughing at me rather than with me, I find her really patronising and arrogant to be completley honest, and I told her that lmao, I made her feel like a right tosser haha... I wanna discuss it with my girl but I dont want her to think somethings still going on and back off

But thanks for the input fellas

i smell buyer's remorse from a deceiving manizer.

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How do you mean?

I think Bes is just saying it sounds like youre justifying reasons to be over her in an attempt to convince yourself that you should stay away from her. As far as the deceiving manizer part.... not sure. Maybe its an inside thing. Don't worry about it. Stay strong bro and stick with your gut. Too many good girls out there. Too many.

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For sure stay away like everyone else has been saying, and DO NOT bring it up with your current GF. Your right in that it can only make shit worse, not better between you two because shes going to start thinking that there may be something going on, even if you are straight with her.

If i were you id just stop talking to her outright. It takes me a lot of time to get over chicks and the best thing ive found to stay over them and not get caught up in feelings for them again is to just cut them out; not even friends.