i"m 19 and i've been in college for about 2 years now. practically since i started college i've had feelings for one of my female classmates, she never felt the same. through time we became best freinds, and i fell in love with her. this i kept this a secret untill very recently when i just blurted it out she knows now and still isn't interested in any more thatn freindship with me, i have accepted this.
but yesterday we decided to go drinking after college, we wen't back my house and started gettting a bit drunk and the more wo drank the flirtyer we got. i brought up my feelings for her and she hugged me and said she wished sthe felt the same and somehow the conversation came to sex. she asked if i thought freinds could sleep together and remain freinds, obviously refering to us, i said yeah and started being a bit more sexual we both addmitted we were horny, but she said nothing could happen because i have a girlfreind. i persisted and seen that she really wanted to do something. we went to a bar drank some more and i continued flirting. we eventually decided to crash at my house, we've done this many times before nearly always sharing the bed. but when we got nto bed i started joking around betting that she couldn't make me horny... she could. so i kissed her and we started doing stuff, we were on the verge of having sex when we just broke away from each other and went to sleep. the next morning we're both sober, she's mortified and hardy can look me in the eye and i'm worried that our freinship is ruined.
i don't know what to do i want things to go back to normal but i also want it to move on to a relationship at the same time. help

Alright honey, say it with me now:
Let me be honest with you here, what you want: Is currently impossible.

You have a girlfriend. I'd like you to please explain to me the logic of how you think that you can still get with this girl when she knows you have a girlfriend. I won't even get into the ethics of you betraying your girlfriend for a girl who does not feel the same way. That is, of course, assuming that you and your girlfriend are monogamous.

But now let me get the the big point I need to make.
The girl is not interested. She has told you this (I'm sure several times). She does not want to have sex with you. Ever. Especially because you have a girlfriend.

Congratulations, you got her so drunk that she nearly slept with you. But here's the kicker: she didn't.

Some of the guys here may tell you that even though she was drunk, she could still make decisions. And she did. She decided not to sleep with you.

That should be all you need.

She's not interested.

You phony friendship may have fooled her, but I can assure you it won't any more. Things will never go back to normal because you took advantage of her being drunk to try and have sex with her. This will never progress into a relationship because she's not interested and you have a girlfriend.

My advice to you is this: Stop seeing this girl. You're in college. I'm certain the classroom is large enough that you can hide out and not have to see her. The campus is big enough that you don't have to hang out with her. You both need to be apart. Your feelings for her are, clearly, not going away and her feelings for you are not changing.

All you will do by pursuing her further is to wreck your relationship with your current girlfriend and getting more and more hurt by this girl.

Leave. Her. Alone.

Cinnamon

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